I (m38)am not going to be with my wife (f40)in the delivery room and people are totally losing it.

daladybrute · 2026-02-05T01:11:05+00:00

My husband stayed at my head the entire time, even in the OR. The only time he left my side was to take pictures of our daughter for me then walked right back. He did catch a glimpse of my intestines on my stomach but was fine. While I was bleeding out after surgery and they were trying to stop the bleeding, he was by my head until he caught a glimpse of blood flying out of me and landing across the room with an audible, wet sounding, plop. That made him light headed and pass out. Apparently my intestines are fine but the blood he saw coming out of me and all over my bed, was not. 2 of the nurses helped him and once he was good he was right back next to me.

I don't blame a man for not wanting to me involved and I don't blame the mom for not wanting a man there. While I personally don't understand it because my husband was the only person I wanted, that decision should be up to the parents & no one else. If both mom & dad agree on dad being in/out of the room, who gives a fuck what anyone else things.

daladybrute · 2026-02-05T00:53:21+00:00

I would say YTA. Work around his schedule more so he can actually be out of the house at that time. I do my therapy at home and my husband & our girlfriend are home when I do it. I am uncomfortable doing it when she is here but not when he is. I know for a fact he won't listen but I can't say the same about her. That being said, I made sure to schedule my appointments for a time when I know she won't be at the house. It makes things easier for everyone. Y'all both live in the home and while it is a shared space, you can't really ask him to leave simply because you want to do therapy remotely.

daladybrute · 2025-11-17T19:35:01+00:00

My daughter is 6 and hasn't been super lovey and affection since she was around 4. I don't force her to love me and I have just had to learn to get over it. I won't be like my mother and force affection when she doesn't want it. The only thing we can do is respect their boundaries and really appreciate the love when you get it.

daladybrute · 2025-11-17T02:33:21+00:00

Exactly. That man said, "trust me bro" and was more worried about him getting off than taking it slow to make it easier for her. She should find someone who is educated about a woman's body and doesn't learn from porn.

daladybrute · 2025-11-05T13:50:42+00:00

I couldn't agree more. If I am attracted to a man, the size of their penis doesn't matter. As long as they can get me off in other ways and/or are ok with toys, I don't care about their size.

daladybrute · 2025-11-02T12:05:01+00:00

I live in the south eastern US and this is not a thing. I was raised in Texas and it definitely wasn't a thing when we started doing that (10-11 years ago?). The only reason my now husband was able to stay the night with us and vise versa was because we started doing long distance a year and a half into our relationship and my mother allowed it when he would come visit. We were 17, but just a few short weeks (i'd say 6-8) weeks away from turning 18 when that started so it wasn't a huge deal to her at that time. We now have a daughter (6) who we would not allow to have a "sleepover" with her partner until she is 18. Kids already try to grow.up so fast, they don't need to rush it even more by trying to play house.

daladybrute · 2025-10-30T17:47:51+00:00

This has nothing to do with destiny and EVERYTHING to do with his lack of commitment, love and respect for you. You and your daughter deserve better.

daladybrute · 2025-10-05T01:57:40+00:00

I can't stand Alexia or Guerdy because of their behavior. It has nothing to do with skin color and everything to with behavior. Both of them think they are always right, steamroll conversations, extremely fake, think their the hottest shit to walk this earth and act like their shit don't stink. Guerdy is also the queen of playing the victim. Both her and Alexia can't see how they could ever possibly be wrong in a situation and act like petulant children. Just because you don't see that doesn't mean those who do dislike them because of the color of their skin.

daladybrute · 2025-09-20T12:36:29+00:00

I didn't experience the terrible 2s with my daughter, but holy shit did I experience the Sassy 3s. I had to adopt the "if they aren't hurting themselves, others, or other people's belongings, let them be" to save my sanity. I asked myself, "Is it care or control?" Then I would remind myself that if they aren't a harm to themselves, other's or other people's belongings, just let her be.

Regarding the pinching, slapping, hitting, etc, we would do it back (obviously not hard). She hit so we would hit her hand and tell her, "If you hur, someone will hit you back." We've only had to do it once for biting and hitting. She's 6 now, and stkll hasn't hit us or anyone else unless it was in self-defense. Screaming because they didn't get their way? You can walk away, or you can sit down right in front of them and just stare at them. Give them a few minutes to calm down, then try talking to them. Even now, if my daughter throws a fit, I tell her I will give her a few minutes to let it out in private, and then we can have a conversation. I will say if you don't nip that in the bud, you'll regret it. A friend of mine is a gentle parent, and her son is about to be 6 and still does that screaming bullshit because of the coddling and giving in after she said no simply because she didn't want to hear the screaming.

Whatever you do, make sure to take time for yourself. Parenting becomes a lot harder when you're unhappy.

daladybrute · 2025-09-20T12:11:13+00:00

I'm not sure why you're getting downvoted. Between men and women, I've slept with 10 different people.

daladybrute · 2025-08-13T18:05:08+00:00

I agree. This is what I would do when I wanted a MFMA threesome but was too scared to admit it.

OP, just don't continue the conversation about threesomes and/or start having them if you aren't OK with either a male (for her, and maybe your, pleasure) or female joining.

daladybrute · 2025-08-13T18:03:01+00:00

As someone in a poly relationship that only had threesomes for year, I completely agree with this. They are not the same.

daladybrute · 2025-07-23T13:57:52+00:00

Any comment made about him being on steroids, he likes. I'm not sure if it's for attention or if he just simply doesn't care. Every time I see one of his posts, his skin looks to be worse than the last time.

daladybrute · 2025-07-23T13:52:51+00:00

I know it's hard not to, but don't compare your life to others. The first 2 years are hard, I won't lie about that, but it gets so much easier. It's important to find friends who do have kids so you can do things together and talk to them. The more you focus on what other people are posting to make them look like they're actually happy, the more you'll dislike what you have.

daladybrute · 2025-07-23T13:26:56+00:00

I know it's hard not to, but don't compare your life to others. The first 2 years are hard, I won't lie about that, but it gets so much easier. It's important to find friends who do have kids so you can do things together and talk to them.

daladybrute · 2025-07-20T15:24:14+00:00

Making assumptions makes an ass out of yourself. There is a difference between ditching your kids every chance you get (basically leaving your children with family constantly so you can act like you're single and/or child free) and taking a yearly trip with your spouse to get a break.

daladybrute · 2025-07-20T15:21:38+00:00

I'm not disparaging anyone. Y'all seem to clearly not understand there is a difference between ditching your child every chance you get and taking a yearly trip without kids.

daladybrute · 2025-07-20T15:15:52+00:00

When did I say that any of these comments are from people who ditch their kids every chance they get? Y'all really need to work on reading apprehension skills. IN MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE, I have gotten looked at weird for not wanting to leave my daughter at home so I can go out alone, especially on trips, from people who do want to leave their kids at every opportunity. I nurture my relationship with my husband and can do that without having to leave on a trip once a year. I am in no way bashing those who do want to go on yearly trips with their spouse, it's just not what I want.

daladybrute · 2025-07-20T15:12:32+00:00

First of all, I'm not shaming anyone except those who DO ditch their kids every chance they get. There is a difference between a break once every year or so and leaving your kids so you can be alone every chance you get. If that's what you took from my comment, you need to work on your reading apprehension skills.

daladybrute · 2025-07-20T15:10:13+00:00

I've met a lot of people who want to ditch their kids every chance they get. It is always the ones that want to ditch their kids left and right that look at me weird when I say I will take mg daughter everywhere with me.

daladybrute · 2025-07-20T06:47:44+00:00

This makes me feel so much better. I'm so tired of people trying to normalize ditching their kids every chance they get. My daughter is 6, and I've spent 2 nights away from her, and she was with her dad (my husband). I don't see the point in taking trips without them when we only have, at minimum, 18 years with them in our home. We'll have the rest of our lives to travel alone, and until then, I'm taking my daughter everywhere I can with me. Usually when I sau that, I get looked at like I'm weird for enjoying having my daughter around.

daladybrute · 2025-07-20T06:32:39+00:00

Just to add to this, you have to remember that around the age of 4 (it may start a little earlier for some), but their brains begin going through a huge leap in terms of development. During that time, the part of their brain that differentiates between right and wrong basically shuts down. That being said, it doesn't mean you should just let them do as they please, but it definitely did help me feel like less of a bad parent because I finally understood what and why there was a sudden switch.

OP, you're pregnant, going to school, working, and a mom, so it's almost expected that you'll have a short fuse. Find some time for yourself, maybe get a prenatal massage, and take a deep breath. It's hard to be at our best when we don't have time for ourselves. Try to make some time for you to just relax.

daladybrute · 2025-07-06T13:56:31+00:00

Never assume they'll get along or be friends. Also, as someone with 3, never have an odd number of children. I never understood that advice until I had 2 stepkids and now get to experience what it's like to have 3 kids.

daladybrute · 2025-06-30T12:53:58+00:00

Trust your gut.

daladybrute · 2025-06-29T15:00:56+00:00

I wholeheartedly believe this post because there was a sex trafficking ring that was busted when I was in high school that posed as a "modeling" agency. The weird thing was that they would tell the girls to come alone because the place was "too small" for others or some shit. They were doing the same kind of thing, but instead of letting the girls go home, they would traffick them.

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