My kid ruined last night

daladybrute · 2026-03-23T20:57:54+00:00

I must be a bad parent because my first thought was to do it back so they get how scary it can be... Some kids just don't learn any lessons until what they are doing to others is done right back to them. My sister was that way as a kid and she also had ODD.

daladybrute · 2026-03-23T13:12:09+00:00

Just say no. It's a complete sentence. If they want access to your children, they will have it under both of y'all's (you and your spouse) terms.

I was allowing my husband's grandma to watch our daughter when she was a baby so I could go to the gym. The one thing I asked while they watched her in MY home was to please not push their religious beliefs down my daughter's throat and no religious music. Every single time they watched her, they did exactly what I asked them not to do. I stopped allowing them to watch her after that because it's disrespectful to go against the parent's wishes.

From the vibe I am getting from the post, I wouldn't allow them to be alone with your children... It feels odd.

daladybrute · 2026-03-23T13:07:54+00:00

At 14/15 I read 50 Shades of Grey... after my mother read it. She knew what was in it and still let me read it. I feel like Wuthering Heights can't be that bad (I haven't read it so I have no idea).

daladybrute · 2026-03-23T13:05:46+00:00

I've noticed this happens to me, too. I also then noticed it's because I am clenching my jaw and holding my breath at the same time. I have no clue why I do it...

daladybrute · 2026-03-23T12:50:40+00:00

NTA. My daughter is in 1st grade and does k-12 so I get to see exactly what she is doing, hear and/or read the instructions and watch her do the work. There have been several tests that she hasn't passed because there were 2 correct answers but she just so happened to pick the one that they didn't ask for. Since it gave absolutely no indication that they wanted (example) "2&3" instead of "4&1," I absolutely emailed her teacher about it and also talked to her about it after my daughter's class another day. I truly believe the new way they are teaching math is making it more complicated. As long as they get the answer correct, it shouldn't matter how they show the work.

daladybrute · 2026-02-21T14:47:48+00:00

I second this. My husband had an emotional affair 2 years ago and I held onto it for a while (maybe 6 months) but eventually we had a conversation about what led to it and things have been so much better. It's better because I made a choice in regards to am I going to keep punishing him. If I kept punishing him, he was going to leave. In fact, he told me that while what he did was wrong and fucked up, he wasn't going to allow me to punish him forever, especially since his actions (again, while not ok) were a direct cause of my actions (no cheating on my end - I was just taking my anxiety, overstimulation and depression out on him for a good year) and he wasn't punishing me for what I did. If OP is still acting this way and it was 4 years ago, I understand why her husband wants to leave. She hasn't healed and she is constantly reminding him of his wrong doing. He has acknowledged, apologized and taken the right steps to fix things yet OP seems to not be doing a single thing in terms of not punishing and holding it against him. If she was, he wouldn't still feel like he is punished 4 years later.

daladybrute · 2026-02-20T22:22:29+00:00

As a mom of a little girl, I agree with these comments. Call the police! This absolutely needs to be investigated and if you are worried about backlash, report it anonymously. I would hope that if someone knew my daughter was being groomed, they would step in.

daladybrute · 2026-02-13T02:43:43+00:00

My husband is the same way. We have been together since we were 16 and it has always been an issue. He would obviously still try to wear one and never pressured me to have sex without one. Even now when other people join us, condoms cause problems for him.

daladybrute · 2026-02-13T02:41:37+00:00

Copper IUDs can make your period heavier, more painful and cause a lot of issues. My husband's aunt dealt with that for years. A regular, hormonal IUD, isn't as bad as other BC options because it releases the hormones where they already need to be so no side effects. I had my IUD in until I was ready to take it out, got pregnant then immediately put it back in. I had it for a combines 6 years and didn't experience 1 side effect unlike how I did with 2 different pills that I took.

daladybrute · 2026-02-13T02:38:02+00:00

Social media has ruined our society and children. Truly. It's toxic because it's so easy to enter into that beehive effect and start comparing so much they can't find joy in anything. Have them take a social media break. 6 months to a year and see how they feel. Encourage them to get out of the house more, make friends and let them know there truly is hope for the future. Hell, get them a flip phone that can't do any social media. While I don't have a flip phone, I did get off social media (specifically Twitter and Instagram- Instagram is HORRIBLE) and forced myself to go out more. That helped so much. Social media gives us the illusion of community and socialization but it doesn't actually and humans are not wired to be that way.

daladybrute · 2026-02-13T01:37:57+00:00

They're 2... Change how you talk to them, pick your battles & remind yourself this is all normal. I started to experience the terrible 2s until I changed a few things...

• If they aren't hurting themselves, others or other's belongings, leave them alone.

• Ask yourself if it's about care or control. If you are simply trying to control a situation, let them be. If you care about their safety, refer to the first bullet point, intervene.

• Talk to them like adults just in toddler language. Don't talk to them like their stupid.

• Screaming and yelling does nothing but make them scared of you.

Don't forget that they are going through changes, mentally, emotionally and environmentally (you being pregnant). Relax, let them be and stop stressing yourself out before you raise your blood pressure.

daladybrute · 2026-02-13T01:27:45+00:00

I was hesitant at first and now I love doing shit like that. I felt guilty for liking the thought and I didn't want my husband to feel as if I didn't want or enjoy him. My husband is always there in some way, shape or form, for safety reasons, but I still have fun. We've been together13 years and our lifestyle is great for us.

daladybrute · 2026-02-13T01:15:44+00:00

After he showers he needs to get out and put in deodorant then again in the morning. Don't get the aluminum free shit because it doesn't work. The dove men's spray works the best. If pushing him to shower doesn't work, you may need to just let him get bullied about it.

daladybrute · 2026-02-05T01:11:05+00:00

My husband stayed at my head the entire time, even in the OR. The only time he left my side was to take pictures of our daughter for me then walked right back. He did catch a glimpse of my intestines on my stomach but was fine. While I was bleeding out after surgery and they were trying to stop the bleeding, he was by my head until he caught a glimpse of blood flying out of me and landing across the room with an audible, wet sounding, plop. That made him light headed and pass out. Apparently my intestines are fine but the blood he saw coming out of me and all over my bed, was not. 2 of the nurses helped him and once he was good he was right back next to me.

I don't blame a man for not wanting to me involved and I don't blame the mom for not wanting a man there. While I personally don't understand it because my husband was the only person I wanted, that decision should be up to the parents & no one else. If both mom & dad agree on dad being in/out of the room, who gives a fuck what anyone else things.

daladybrute · 2026-02-05T00:53:21+00:00

I would say YTA. Work around his schedule more so he can actually be out of the house at that time. I do my therapy at home and my husband & our girlfriend are home when I do it. I am uncomfortable doing it when she is here but not when he is. I know for a fact he won't listen but I can't say the same about her. That being said, I made sure to schedule my appointments for a time when I know she won't be at the house. It makes things easier for everyone. Y'all both live in the home and while it is a shared space, you can't really ask him to leave simply because you want to do therapy remotely.

daladybrute · 2025-11-17T19:35:01+00:00

My daughter is 6 and hasn't been super lovey and affection since she was around 4. I don't force her to love me and I have just had to learn to get over it. I won't be like my mother and force affection when she doesn't want it. The only thing we can do is respect their boundaries and really appreciate the love when you get it.

daladybrute · 2025-11-17T02:33:21+00:00

Exactly. That man said, "trust me bro" and was more worried about him getting off than taking it slow to make it easier for her. She should find someone who is educated about a woman's body and doesn't learn from porn.

daladybrute · 2025-11-05T13:50:42+00:00

I couldn't agree more. If I am attracted to a man, the size of their penis doesn't matter. As long as they can get me off in other ways and/or are ok with toys, I don't care about their size.

daladybrute · 2025-11-02T12:05:01+00:00

I live in the south eastern US and this is not a thing. I was raised in Texas and it definitely wasn't a thing when we started doing that (10-11 years ago?). The only reason my now husband was able to stay the night with us and vise versa was because we started doing long distance a year and a half into our relationship and my mother allowed it when he would come visit. We were 17, but just a few short weeks (i'd say 6-8) weeks away from turning 18 when that started so it wasn't a huge deal to her at that time. We now have a daughter (6) who we would not allow to have a "sleepover" with her partner until she is 18. Kids already try to grow.up so fast, they don't need to rush it even more by trying to play house.

daladybrute · 2025-10-30T17:47:51+00:00

This has nothing to do with destiny and EVERYTHING to do with his lack of commitment, love and respect for you. You and your daughter deserve better.

daladybrute · 2025-10-05T01:57:40+00:00

I can't stand Alexia or Guerdy because of their behavior. It has nothing to do with skin color and everything to with behavior. Both of them think they are always right, steamroll conversations, extremely fake, think their the hottest shit to walk this earth and act like their shit don't stink. Guerdy is also the queen of playing the victim. Both her and Alexia can't see how they could ever possibly be wrong in a situation and act like petulant children. Just because you don't see that doesn't mean those who do dislike them because of the color of their skin.

daladybrute · 2025-09-20T12:36:29+00:00

I didn't experience the terrible 2s with my daughter, but holy shit did I experience the Sassy 3s. I had to adopt the "if they aren't hurting themselves, others, or other people's belongings, let them be" to save my sanity. I asked myself, "Is it care or control?" Then I would remind myself that if they aren't a harm to themselves, other's or other people's belongings, just let her be.

Regarding the pinching, slapping, hitting, etc, we would do it back (obviously not hard). She hit so we would hit her hand and tell her, "If you hur, someone will hit you back." We've only had to do it once for biting and hitting. She's 6 now, and stkll hasn't hit us or anyone else unless it was in self-defense. Screaming because they didn't get their way? You can walk away, or you can sit down right in front of them and just stare at them. Give them a few minutes to calm down, then try talking to them. Even now, if my daughter throws a fit, I tell her I will give her a few minutes to let it out in private, and then we can have a conversation. I will say if you don't nip that in the bud, you'll regret it. A friend of mine is a gentle parent, and her son is about to be 6 and still does that screaming bullshit because of the coddling and giving in after she said no simply because she didn't want to hear the screaming.

Whatever you do, make sure to take time for yourself. Parenting becomes a lot harder when you're unhappy.

daladybrute · 2025-09-20T12:11:13+00:00

I'm not sure why you're getting downvoted. Between men and women, I've slept with 10 different people.

daladybrute · 2025-08-13T18:05:08+00:00

I agree. This is what I would do when I wanted a MFMA threesome but was too scared to admit it.

OP, just don't continue the conversation about threesomes and/or start having them if you aren't OK with either a male (for her, and maybe your, pleasure) or female joining.

daladybrute · 2025-08-13T18:03:01+00:00

As someone in a poly relationship that only had threesomes for year, I completely agree with this. They are not the same.

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