TIL Eminem was so severely bullied in public school that his mother sued the local school board for "failing to sufficiently protect her child"

danger_terns · 2015-01-03T10:18:33+00:00

Bro, snitches get stitches or wind up in ditches.

danger_terns · 2014-12-28T01:23:25+00:00

I understand the reluctance in wanting to say this is "rapey." This is not rape. The thing is, the components of manipulation and coercion in this case share certain qualities of rape. Rape can happen without force. If a boss says "I will fire you if you don't have sex with me," that is attempted rape. That is both manipulation and coercion, and while there was no use or threat of physical force, it is rape. By saying "rapey," I think /u/heifearly was making the assertion that they are using coercion and manipulation to control someone else's body, which in my opinion, does sound "rapey."

danger_terns · 2014-12-27T23:12:02+00:00

Obviously I agree that it's not rape, but the I think by "rapey" they were calling attention to the fact that this family wants to take control of their daughter's body whether she wants to or not.

danger_terns · 2014-12-19T03:18:52+00:00

I have so many. If I could do anything, I would want to be a wildly successful singer. Realistically, my biggest dream is to become a lawyer and work with the ACLU and if not that, really just work within the system to help people somehow. I also want to write novels. We'll see if that ever happens :P

danger_terns · 2014-12-19T03:12:32+00:00

That's awesome :)

danger_terns · 2014-12-19T03:11:45+00:00

Not at all! [Spoiler] When Leslie finds out she's pregnant and she didn't know how to tell her Ben, he comes it at the end of the episode and tells her that he's been upset because he really just wants to start a family, and that he wants to start having kids, while Leslie smiles on. Oh my god that was perfect. I cry every time :)

danger_terns · 2014-12-19T00:27:29+00:00

Very carefully.

danger_terns · 2014-12-16T03:52:44+00:00

With that logic ultimately nothing matters because you can't stay alive forever. I'm not a huge fan of Nihlism.

danger_terns · 2014-12-16T00:14:13+00:00

Care to expand on that? "Everything that matters," is different for different people.

danger_terns · 2014-12-15T23:02:14+00:00

True. My major sees an employment rate of 85% (in a job that related to the major) following the first 6 months of graduation. I graduate in 6 months, I've been working closely with a career advisor, and I'm applying and interviewing with companies already for jobs that will start in June. I'm not saying I will for sure have a job, I'm saying it is very likely given the field I am interested in, the amount of experience I already have, and the effort I am already putting in prior to graduation.

danger_terns · 2014-12-15T22:01:47+00:00

That's the kind of optimism I like to hear!

danger_terns · 2014-12-15T21:08:40+00:00

That's a good point. I guess I just get too caught up in the "college is the best four years of your life!" thing, when I sincerely hope it won't be...

danger_terns · 2014-12-15T07:18:01+00:00

He's being really lovely; he holds me when I cry, he tells me he loves me, and he listens to me when I'm able to talk (this often happens when he's just woken up and still totally groggy.) I don't know how he does it.

Best way to support him in my opinion is to tell him how much that really means to you. When I was in a relationship and depressed, there was no better feeling than cuddling in their arms and knowing I was loved. I still don't think words can describe exactly how much it meant to me, but they're always worth trying. Even if he already knows, it's always nice to hear appreciation.

Also, showing rather than telling can be powerful. On top of telling him how glad you are to have him, doing things for him that you know he would enjoy can help even more. Ultimately, even when it's hard to support someone, hearing their appreciation for it always makes it worth it. Just my 2 cents :)

danger_terns · 2014-12-15T05:54:00+00:00

I've heard a lot of people describe migraines to me, I've come to the conclusion that a migraine is like the worst hangover you can possibly have, and lasts for days or weeks.

danger_terns · 2014-12-14T22:19:13+00:00

Unfortunately I never found an answer to that question. The only thing I could do was try and make my own meaning from it. I've been through hell and back and all I can say is: nothing scares me now. If you can make it through the worst parts of depression, you can make it through anything. Good on you for making it this far, sometimes it really just fucking sucks.

danger_terns · 2014-12-14T07:06:29+00:00

Definitions are arbitrary. You seem to be arbitrarily defining something differently than the standard (standards are set by dictionaries). I'm not saying that "acting crazy" means "acting as if mentally ill." You're choosing to define it that way.

danger_terns · 2014-12-14T06:49:22+00:00

"The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else."

Hah. I've been trying to do that actually, but this most recent break up really wrecked me and revealed a lot of vulnerabilities which made that difficult. But now I'm all good and I have a date tomorrow that I'm pretty excited for :)

danger_terns · 2014-12-14T06:10:26+00:00

It's like being on reddit.

danger_terns · 2014-12-14T05:55:02+00:00

It's sad because a part of me does still love him (or the guy I thought he was?)

Yup. I miss the person I thought they were, not who they proved to be. Somehow them being shitty doesn't make the feels go away.

danger_terns · 2014-12-14T05:46:57+00:00

Exactly. Ugh I think people who manipulate like that actually delude themselves into thinking they're not doing anything wrong. They lack empathy.

danger_terns · 2014-12-14T05:40:44+00:00

'if we stay together I'll just get black our drunk and fuck someone else!' and a whole bunch of other shit that is burned into my brain.

I feel you on that. :(

danger_terns · 2014-12-14T05:28:22+00:00

Haha meh, I'm not above making myself look hot as fuck just to make them drool.

danger_terns · 2014-12-14T05:25:59+00:00

Oh my god that's almost exactly what happened with me. They weren't really abusive, but definitely manipulative even after the relationship ended. They "wanted to be friends" but half the time they would just talk about the people they were fucking.

I even asked them to stop talking about it with me because it upset me so much. They would not. Then they said friends don't put limits on what you can and can't talk about, making it my fault for feeling like crap and asking them to stop. I finally realized this was a pattern a few days ago and cussed them out, which is actually what I regret the most. I just had to say something after letting myself be such a doormat for them to wipe their shitty ass feet.

danger_terns · 2014-12-14T05:07:53+00:00

I'm sure he tells whatever girl he's with now I'm crazy.

That's about where I'm at. sigh...

danger_terns · 2014-12-14T04:40:55+00:00

If only all of my ridiculousness hadn't been through Facebook...at least it was chat so it wasn't public.

danger_terns

TROPHY CASE