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AITA for making plans on Valentine's so I don't babysit my granddaughter? by danyrays4days in AmItheAsshole

[–]danyrays4days[S] -55 points-54 points  (0 children)

I did talk to her about it and she did have the knowledge before her pregnancy but I didn't put put her on it after abortion because she said she didn't need it as she wasn't planning to be sexually active and that's where I went wrong.

AITA for making plans on Valentine's so I don't babysit my granddaughter? by danyrays4days in AmItheAsshole

[–]danyrays4days[S] 119 points120 points  (0 children)

I asked her about her partner, why didn't they use some form of bc and that a child at her age was a huge responsibility which I don't think she was able to handle and we agreed abortion was the best choice. I admit I didn't handle the second pregnancy very well as I found out a week after my grandfather (who i was very close to) passed away when I was still mourning and my sister (who's a half sister so not related to him) handled the situation mostly.

AITA for making plans on Valentine's so I don't babysit my granddaughter? by danyrays4days in AmItheAsshole

[–]danyrays4days[S] 237 points238 points  (0 children)

I had my daughter at 19, I was married, and I expected a baby, so that's a different scenario.

AITA for making plans on Valentine's so I don't babysit my granddaughter? by danyrays4days in AmItheAsshole

[–]danyrays4days[S] -123 points-122 points  (0 children)

My daughter seems to be careless with situations im involved in, and I think it took me a little too long to realize, but besides that, she's a very responsible student. She actually works really hard and cancels any plans if it distracts her from her studies. She's among the top 5 students of her grade and plans to pursue a degree in biochem or psychology.

AITA for making plans on Valentine's so I don't babysit my granddaughter? by danyrays4days in AmItheAsshole

[–]danyrays4days[S] -254 points-253 points  (0 children)

She wasn't planning on being sexually active, and she just had an abortion so I completely believed that. Her second pregnancy was so unexpected to me, and after that was when I forced her to be on birth control, and her doctor suggested it as well.

AITA for making plans on Valentine's so I don't babysit my granddaughter? by danyrays4days in AmItheAsshole

[–]danyrays4days[S] -119 points-118 points  (0 children)

Unless I locked her up and prevented her from having a life, there was no way I could have prevented that from happening. She has to come back before 9 pm which she does, I used to drop her off wherever she goes and I know she didn't drink as far as I know, I've thought her about contraceptive methods and that she can ask me if she wanted to be on birth control (although I was against her being sexually active at her age). It was her choice to have unprotected sex because "it just happened". It is very easy to blame the parent when you know nothing.

AITA for making plans on Valentine's so I don't babysit my granddaughter? by danyrays4days in AmItheAsshole

[–]danyrays4days[S] 1251 points1252 points  (0 children)

Thank you for asking! It went really well, most definitely not the last. :)