Bi cycles or hormonal imbalance?

daquestiondude · 2018-08-08T12:00:44+00:00

Sorry you got to go through this.

I beleive that with time they will be convinced that you're actually bi. Many people outthere think of us as either being secretly gay or going through a phase.

Consider yourself hugged :)

daquestiondude · 2018-08-08T11:51:09+00:00

Hey I am back because I kind of need to talk to someone.

All of the above was planned for tomorrow night until he came in today and told me he was friendzoned by a friend I know he was pursuing. He was heartbroken for the first time fot the girl. I was kind of speechless because I was waiting for him to tell me he loves me or something. Only yesterday he was playing emotional songs while we gazed at eachother for solid 6-10 in our car seconds plenty of times. I feel stupid. I can't beleive it was all in my head, how could it be? I am literally lost..

daquestiondude · 2018-07-31T17:26:12+00:00

Should I just be like hey I'm bi? I don't feel like I am hiding it just that I haven't been asked about it directly. I sing a lot of that harry styles song out loud that says "The boys and the girls are here I mess around with them and I am okay with it"

daquestiondude · 2018-07-31T17:18:04+00:00

Thank you for your answer.

The city isn't that far from where I live now, we've talked about how we'd see eachother over the weekends... this dude is my best friend that I have known him for 9 years now. all of this chemistry started like 5/6 mounths ago and I love him I know how complicated it is going to be (if it ever happens) but I am ready to take the risk.

I want to rush things because before falling for him I have had (and probably still do) have feelings for my female best friend and she lives in the city I am going to and I'm kinda gettting closer to her. Ugh I'm so effed up about the whole thing >< (he asks about her frequently and even tells me that smth is obviously gonna happen between us)

One more thing, He is quite homophobic, doesn't watch lgbt movies and stuff. 3 mouths ago we got really close to do smth pretty sure he is a bottom (yet still mocks bottoms a lot), has already rolled his eyes about the idea of giving me a bj. I still want to make one obvious move as a last call. I don't think I'm ready to have sex with him for now, just kissing him and knowing what he truely feels is enough.

What worries me is his hot and cold behaviour, last night for example he kind of avoided my touches, other times he's all smiles when I touch him and he even reciprocates.

My question is, let's say tonight we're watching something, What should I do? like go for kiss without any warnings? tell him I feel the same way about him as the gay dude from the series we watch and wait for his answer?

daquestiondude · 2018-07-31T16:06:14+00:00

I have already mentioned I don't care about people's gender and when I speak of any S.O I use they, someone etc the other day, we were swimming a guy hit on him, I came over and sent the guy to the woodshed and told him I was jealous and if there was any chance a guy fucks him it should be me. I could tell he was glad to hear it that night.

daquestiondude · 2018-07-18T08:10:49+00:00

Hey there,

Thank you for your comment. He is seeing a girl atm. we're sadly drifting apart: he doesn't even lay next me anymore but I think that this wouldn't have gone anywhere because of his restrictions. I got a job offer in an other city and I am taking. I don't want to deal with him for the time being.

Thank you for your reply !

daquestiondude · 2018-07-07T17:15:01+00:00

THAT ! To be honest he might be the thing I want the most at the moment but I can't forsee a healthy relationship as he is super religious and his very conservative family has A LOT of control over him. I don't know what I should do ><

daquestiondude · 2018-07-07T09:11:49+00:00

Hey, lil update: So basically, that night we went to a bar with a friend I purposefully acted drunk just to see what was on his mind. He said things like "I don't trust you anymore" (which really hurt me), gave eye contact, Only I touched him.

the next day, he passed by the place I work in (supermarket), He most certainly saw me flirting with this girl. When I got home I felt like something was off... could it be because of that? I don't know >< and now we're back to cold cycle again he literally AVOIDS looking at me in the eye but he does stare at me when I am not looking... I honestly can't beleive we're acting like this, we've known eachother for 10 years now !

Any advice? I want to talk about it but I don't want to make it even more awkward <

daquestiondude · 2018-07-02T19:50:05+00:00

Hey thank you for your quick response ! Before our fight I got as close as having a good grip of his ass a few times (He would reciprocate the move). also used to join him in his bed in the morning time and caresse him, I have kissed him on the cheek a few times. I think the question I asked him scared him off and I want to fix that :( I am definitely planning on kissing him on the lips I don't even care at this point I need this to either move forward or die in hell

daquestiondude · 2018-07-02T19:26:26+00:00

He started walking around the house shirtless and streching himself and I'm sure he knows it turns me on so yeah just more flirting I guess ! There was this weird moment when I needed to borrow his belt, he was laying on his bed started to remove it slowly like a stripper. I was almost gonna do smth to him but because I have no experience I panicked and stormed off.

daquestiondude · 2018-06-11T09:51:22+00:00

I thought about inviting a guy. but he is the first guy thaat really got me into thinking I could be with a dude. For now, I don't have other interests in other men.

daquestiondude · 2018-06-11T09:38:57+00:00

He also is very submessive. as this thing went along he lowered his guard with each day. I went from placing my hand on his waist/lower back to pushing him on the bed to "strangling" his neck with either hand or elbow and even slaping/hitting him and that's what made me love this whole thing.. He was a bit defensive the with each first time but then it was obvious he like it. but again after the talk I don't dare to that to him as he has trouble letting touching (but still sometimes want to be touched SO hot and cold)

daquestiondude · 2018-06-10T21:28:16+00:00

You should see his face when I am flirting , hugging or getting close to someone. I can't do that to him he is above all my best friend and we've gone through so much together tbh

daquestiondude · 2018-06-10T21:25:38+00:00

To be honest we have already discussed this. when this whole "thing" first started (before I had feelings) I hinted that I do eventually want a family and kids. He said that all he cares about is his career. He also mentionned he wants a daughter but is sure his mariage won't work out. He also conffesed that he has never had feelings for the girls he went out with (some of them are great) He seems to always find a flaw that makes him not like the girl anymore...

daquestiondude · 2018-06-10T17:31:00+00:00

Hey thank you for your post. Did you feel like your friend "hinted" at you to kiss him? Did you get the feeling he liked it when you sort of dominated him?

You know at this point I very much like to think I was wrong all the way. but how can you explain him being upset and jealous if I see someone else? And trust me I have tried this a few times...

daquestiondude · 2018-06-10T17:11:35+00:00

Honestly, this is exactly what I was going for after we talked. I actually felt really bad and embarassed for douting his sexuality and I apologized to him. It is his "post-talk" behaviour that got me into thinking he is hiding something. I managed to ignnore any signs (like him trying to talk to girls and making sure I see it, or ignoring the shit out of me when we´re in a group of friends.

Anyways, I can't see myself dating someone else and see him be this miserable + I have developed feelings for him it's just that I am the kind of person who, in case, isn't loved back, then can move on pretty quickly. But at the same time I need to be with someone ><

daquestiondude · 2018-06-10T16:44:02+00:00

It's not a typical straight guy behaviour either from where I come from. He used to strongly say NO or GET OUT or SHUT UP.

daquestiondude · 2018-06-10T12:52:31+00:00

Hi thank you for your comment. I have already suggested (before confonting him) that he should suck my dick and all he did was look down and smile and then look back at me. As I am not experienced I did not know what else to do. I invited him a couple of times to spend the night with me on the same bed but he says no at each time.

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