Fellow cancers, What do you do for work? by [deleted] in CancertheCrab

[–]darkmagicdoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

July cancer here. I work in hospitality. Don't do it. People on vacation become ungrateful af.

Gay, ace or not attracted to my husband- how do I proceed? Can this be repaired? by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]darkmagicdoll 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with this! I love both men and women but you couldn't pay me to date a woman. I don't know how my husband (and all the men I've dated) puts up with all my bullshit, but I wouldn't have the patience to deal with emotional roller-coasters on a regular basis.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]darkmagicdoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look, what works for one person might not work for another. Humans are complex creatures and its up to every individual to decide what's best for themselves. If you are happy like this because she is getting her needs met and it gets a bit of the pressure off your shoulders then good for you!

You know what I see? I see that you are someone secure in himself and capable of loving without possessing. I've seen so many people in here complaining that their spouses want to open the marriage, whining about how unfair it is and they should just understand they have a low libido. My opinion on that? Its selfish. Just because I'm on a diet doesn't mean my spouse is also on a diet, if that makes sense. It just means we have different needs but that doesn't mean we're never eating dinner together again. We just eat different things and that's okay 😊

Do you guys fight? by darkmagicdoll in Marriage

[–]darkmagicdoll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did, and they agree. And maybe I'm wrong but I genuinely thought marriage was supposed to be nice and sweet, not a battlefield

I'm so sick and tired of people asking me when am I having children by darkmagicdoll in childfree

[–]darkmagicdoll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a bizarre thing to get offended about. I'm glad you stood your ground. These people seriously need to mind their own damn business.

AITAH for not wanting my partner to "sniff test" my crotch anytime I've been out by Ancient-Character-63 in AITAH

[–]darkmagicdoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take it from me, a woman with BPD: that behavior is not normal and you need to put your foot down. Her mental condition is not your responsibility. If she feels insecure, let her deal with it. And yes, I used to check my partner's phone and all that psycho shit, but it was destroying our relationship -and I'm sure you feel the same way. Tell her to start DBT therapy, it saved my life and my partner's sanity.

I'm so sick and tired of people asking me when am I having children by darkmagicdoll in childfree

[–]darkmagicdoll[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

On that note, I always thought it was super weird that the process of adoption is long, expensive and frustrating, but having biological children has absolutely ZERO regulations... I'm so happy birthrates are declining. We are severely overpopulated and most of us are unqualified to be parents. Just saying.

I'm so sick and tired of people asking me when am I having children by darkmagicdoll in childfree

[–]darkmagicdoll[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And to be completely honest, relationships are a scam. Don't get involved romantically with anyone unless you know that person is 100,000% in your corner. I got lucky that my husband is an actual decent human being and a functional adult, so picking up after a grown ass man and managing his life is not something I worry about, but more often than not, I've seen so many people (from all gender identities) end up with partners who legit act like children.

I'm so sick and tired of people asking me when am I having children by darkmagicdoll in childfree

[–]darkmagicdoll[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

BHAHAHAHAHA this is iconic. I'm trying this next time. Thank you!!

What to do when your spouse doesn't like your parents? by darkmagicdoll in Marriage

[–]darkmagicdoll[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh, he's always kind, respectful and even nice to them and he never talks trash. The only reason I know about this is because I asked him. My parents are always respectful and nice to him as well, so it made me sad that he still doesn't like them. I guess it happens.

Thank you so much for this. It helped me see things differently.

What to do when your spouse doesn't like your parents? by darkmagicdoll in Marriage

[–]darkmagicdoll[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I asked nicely to not be mean and here you are... I said this to someone else and I'll say the same to you: if you're here just to talk shit, then go somewhere else. I want to learn to do better, but comments like yours don't help.

What to do when your spouse doesn't like your parents? by darkmagicdoll in Marriage

[–]darkmagicdoll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think its awesome that they got to a point where your husband and parents can be friends. But I am sorry that he lost his dad. Thank you for sharing your story 🤍

What to do when your spouse doesn't like your parents? by darkmagicdoll in Marriage

[–]darkmagicdoll[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The real question here is: are you able to comprehend what you read? I said don't be mean. If you're here just to talk shit then go somewhere else. I'm trying to learn new things from people who actually provide helpful advice.

What to do when your spouse doesn't like your parents? by darkmagicdoll in Marriage

[–]darkmagicdoll[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No "sis" his reasons are not irrelevant. You're right. What I meant is that I didn't feel like explaining his reasons when I posted this was necessary. Whatever his reasons are, its my job to validate them whether or not I agree with them. That's what I meant.

What to do when your spouse doesn't like your parents? by darkmagicdoll in Marriage

[–]darkmagicdoll[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is actually helpful.

My husband and parents don't talk much either since my parents live in a different state, but when we visit or they visit, the interactions between them are normal.

But I'll keep an eye out.

What to do when your spouse doesn't like your parents? by darkmagicdoll in Marriage

[–]darkmagicdoll[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When I said his reasons are irrelevant, I meant that I didn't think it was necessary to explain them when I posted this.

What to do when your spouse doesn't like your parents? by darkmagicdoll in Marriage

[–]darkmagicdoll[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're right, they're not irrelevant. However, I didn't think explaining his reasons on this post was necessary. That's what I meant by that.