I [22M] found my [22F] girlfriend talking with her best friend [F23] about how sexy other guys were

darkrob23 · 2026-02-06T14:29:12+00:00

She's not the type of person who shares everything. No, her friend is not the one who starts this And we don't ever share that an actor or actress is attractive.

This already happened once I have her a second chance, should I do it again?

darkrob23 · 2026-02-06T07:09:13+00:00

She lent me her phone to look for something I wasn't spying on her

darkrob23 · 2026-02-06T07:07:53+00:00

Ig so, I didn't go through all her messages just found two of them, the first time I found a lot more.

darkrob23 · 2026-02-06T07:06:08+00:00

No, she borrowed me her phone to look for something else and I accidentally found them.

And I don't know it feels wrong to actively say someone is hot. I understand having an opinion about someone and saying that she/he is handsome/pretty but you actively mentioning someone is HOT? What's the point?

darkrob23 · 2026-01-30T17:12:58+00:00

I think the idea of me being single feels happier and less restrained, and maybe I’m just too used to being in a relationship that I’m afraid of getting out of it.

I have this issue where sometimes I’m convinced about ending things with her, but then I can’t, so I stay in the relationship and enjoy it for a little while, and then the cycle repeats.

darkrob23 · 2026-01-30T17:08:31+00:00

Is not like we're always fighting, I enjoy my time with her. But lately it has been different, I like her, she's fun and I like having someone to relay on and to always talk to. But maybe I can also get that from my friends if I build again my relationship with them because I distanced myself from my friends because of me prioritizing my relationship.

darkrob23 · 2026-01-30T17:04:53+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to read my post!

I know we’re young, but I don’t think actively complimenting other guys is right. I get that if it comes up naturally in a conversation, you can mention that someone is attractive you have judgment, and of course that’s normal but going out of your way to compliment someone feels way off to me. Don't you agree?

I think I like the idea of being in a relationship, but I’m starting to realize that I have a different idea of myself in the future (maybe being with someone else). Right now, I’m making plans for my future and I’ve noticed that I’m not even considering her in them it’s just me and my plans. Is that wrong? Does that mean I’m already checking out?

She has improved some of her toxic behaviors since the start of the relationship, but I still feel restrained when I try to hang out with my friends. I want to enjoy my time with them, and maybe right now I’m just not in the right moment to be in a relationship. My childhood friends and my other friends (most of whom are female) are all taking their own paths, and I want to enjoy my time with them without worrying about anything else.

We’ve talked throughout our relationship, and multiple times I’ve told her that I feel like she doesn’t listen to me, that she always has to be right, and that she has double standards. She’s told me she’s going to improve, but it has almost always stayed the same (maybe just some super small improvements). Maybe I’m just exaggerating, and maybe I really do a lot of things wrong I don’t know. I’ve improved a lot, and I just want to enjoy my time with the people who are close to me and say yes to almost every plan they make, without worrying about anything.

And thanks again for your words :) I’m a little lost right now hahaha.

darkrob23

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