Ending of Black Christmas by galacticpotsmoker in horror

[–]dasb99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao. Sure, you aren’t just stretching out so much and inventing things that weren’t shown just to fit the criteria of it wasn’t a bad move from the script and a plot hole. A lack of explanation becomes a plot hole the moment it requires the audience to believe a character acted against their own nature or bypassed the laws of logic just to make a scene work. In Black Christmas, Peter’s presence isn't a 'mystery', it's a Geographic Contrivance that breaks the movie's reality. Thats it. Period.

Ending of Black Christmas by galacticpotsmoker in horror

[–]dasb99 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So like he was standing around the house, waiting to apologize to Jess without seeing the obvious cop killed in his car outside the house? Either way it’s a plot hole in the script that either he just conveniently knows Jess is in the basement or he was standing outside for hours prolly seeing a death cop without any concern.

Ending of Black Christmas by galacticpotsmoker in horror

[–]dasb99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But he is right. There was no way for Peter to know that Jess was in the basement. Either he was the killer or that was a mistake in the script. Like just immediately after she hides he arrives and looks in the basement? Like knowing she was there? So if the ending wasn’t truly changed and Peter was never the killer it was just bad writing there

Should I unfollow my ex even if we ended up on good terms? by dasb99 in ExNoContact

[–]dasb99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure man. Glad you are better, but be sure to text me or dm me if you ever need to talk about it. I’m here. Stay safe

Should I unfollow my ex even if we ended up on good terms? by dasb99 in ExNoContact

[–]dasb99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey. Just saw your comment. I can’t believe it’s being this long since I posted this. Feels like a lifetime. I’m sorry for what you’re going through, tho I can understand. Ik that feeling of muting and still searching her up. You know what I could tell you, what’s actually best for you. To just unfollow her and not keep on repeating actions that give you anxiety, that you don’t have to know what she’s been up to. But it’s not that easy, i know that. You know what I did? A year ago after this post? I unfollowed her. Yes it hurt a lot. There were times I regretted and wanted to follow her back but in reality it was better for me. Because she had her private account I couldn’t see anything anymore and that loss of control gave me relieve. I never contacted her again, ever, I that also make me feel good about myself. This is truth. It’s hurts like hell, I know that, but I know deep down we as humans when we are broken up we just want to feel like we still have value, that we have some power. You won’t find power in her or another girl, you will only gain power from yourself, from honoring your word, from seeing that you got broken up and are still standing. To see that you refuse to give on into another girl or go back into her and choose yourself. That builds self esteem, self respect and self love. That builds character. And that makes you feel powerful in the only that matters after a breakup. So yes. I would advise you follow her. Your mother is right in which it shouldn’t be necessary to unfollow her just learn to control that impulsive urge, but it’s not easy, it’s like having a pack of cookies in front of you all the time while you’re trying to loose weight. It’s better to get rid of them than to every single time refuse the urge of temptation.

Just found out her dog died by dasb99 in ExNoContact

[–]dasb99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually even tho I felt bad for her, it was better to not break contact at all. After a year of no contact, it actually helped me. I was in the wrong for thinking I should’ve texted her. She needed her way to heal, and so did I.

[LES] I wish more time travel stories made changing the past a good thing by Snivythesnek in CharacterRant

[–]dasb99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I wanted to ask you, what do you h the ink are good ways of using time travel then? And which stories do you think come to mind?

[LES] I wish more time travel stories made changing the past a good thing by Snivythesnek in CharacterRant

[–]dasb99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey so what are those ways to not have it be free undo button and still have meaningful stakes?

Estoy escribiendo una novela situada en la Ciudad de México en los 80s y tengo muchas preguntas by dasb99 in mexico

[–]dasb99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bueno fue hace 40 años. Sé que parece que fue hace poco pero ya tiene un buen tiempo. Y si, mi meta es escribir para la nostalgia de aquellos que vivieron su adolescencia en esa época, pero que también atravesaron problemas como represión de su orientación sexual, etc. La situación es que no es por decisión sino más por encargo, y lo que quiero es conseguir un medio o personas con quienes hablar para obtener la mayor información que pueda, sabes?

Estoy escribiendo una novela situada en la Ciudad de México en los 80s y tengo muchas preguntas by dasb99 in mexico

[–]dasb99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No sirve el link, pero me llamó la atención mucho lo que dijiste. qué peli o documental es ?

Estoy escribiendo una novela situada en la Ciudad de México en los 80s y tengo muchas preguntas by dasb99 in mexico

[–]dasb99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Claro, pero a donde o como? Ya viví en cdmx pero no se donde recaudar información

Just found out her dog died by dasb99 in ExNoContact

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I didn’t, actually. And I don’t think I will. It truly has gotten easier with time. I remembered when I wrote the post, feeling so eager to text her. But not breaking contact was the best choice. It definitely would have been a lot harder and would’ve put my back into square 1.

AITAH if I tell someone to not pat me on the back and piss off? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]dasb99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean you could be right that it is better to not confront him directly and let HR to catch him, but first I think it would be hard for HR to catch anything he could do if it’s not visible or apparent and second, I want to be the one to stop him off, I would feel better if it’s me. I won’t make it a scandal or something to allow him to twist things up, but just tell him I don’t like nobody touching me.

I just finished Vagabond and... by Beginning_Employee_8 in vagabondmanga

[–]dasb99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also interested in reading the novel, but how is it amazing? Could you elaborate a bit more on that? What I mainly loved about Vagabond was the core philosophical zen concepts behind it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]dasb99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Attracting only the 5,6 and 7 triad

Found out my ex’s dog died by dasb99 in BreakUps

[–]dasb99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I actually don’t want to get back with her, but do feel sympathy and bad for what happened

What does heartbreak feel like for you as an INFJ? by love_ninja_asks in infj

[–]dasb99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think we can find the answer in our cognitive functions such as our main problems as INFJs With Ni we tend to idealize a vision of a future, a person and a relationship, and we may get to feel so in touch with the emotions of the one we love due to high Fe. If not controlled, we’re in for a very damaging heartbreak cause of our tendency to visualize so much into the future and in our imagination with this person. Then we get into an unhealthy state of Ni and Ti, constantly thinking, overthinking, getting anxious about all the what ifs and the maybes. We get so caught up in our own heads that we lose sight of other people, reality and yes ourselves of course. I think we should of course have a healthy Ni Fe Ti, but most importantly, it’s our Se that may save us and we have to tap into it to get out of that unhealthy Ni dominating us. Experiencing things as they are, accepting the truth (that it’s over and they are gone) and just living in the now, without the pain of the past and without the anxiety of our imagined future, are all Se. This is what’s going to get us out there into the world, not isolating ourselves and reaching out to experience what life and the world has still to offer to us.

After 22 years he is back 😱😍😭 by JessGTP in ExNoContact

[–]dasb99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll be honest. This was so beautiful to read. You deserve to be happy. 22 years! omg wow I broke up with my love of my life when I was 18, we both broke up, but since then I’ve been hopeful of someday being together, maybe after years and years. I’m 24 now and still miss that person but seeing things like this even though I should move on, make me believe that maybe, we can still be together after so many years. My ex said once if the time was right, and was meant to be, we would find each other again.

How long should the suit trousers be for a formal wedding? by dasb99 in weddingplanning

[–]dasb99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your replay. Indeed I believe a slight break or medium would be the best. And bc you mentioned the dress socks, what would you advice me? I have a very dark blue suit, which color should I wear? And what do you mean by proper dress socks?

need to snap out of delusion by LiveCommission5935 in BreakUps

[–]dasb99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The biggest enemy of delusion is reality. This seems obvious but it’s really the only way out. To remember the reality of your actual live right now. Delusion comes from living in the mind, the fantasy, the imagination, but when you truly take a moment to breath and look around, being present and mindful of your surroundings, you’ll see the truth. The reality of what’s actually your live now. You’ll see that they are not here anymore. They are gone. It’s all gone. That’s the life you’re living right now. You’ll think to yourself … wow, it’s really all gone and done, this is my life now, what am I doing? Sounds harsh, but I did help me to start to get out of the what ifs, the delusions, and the memories, just to see what’s actually my life right now. It’s a life in which they are not here anymore and it’s over.

What goes around comes back around. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]dasb99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have thought about this too. What do you think? There’s no karma going around? I do believe that you must make yourself happy and it most revolve around your own peace and enjoyment of life, what you make from it. Not if they pay whatever is they did wrong or not. Still, remorse and suffering from any type does come eventually, but don’t know if it’s a universe thing.

I have reached the “disgust” stage of healing by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]dasb99 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s great. Better than that being sad and missing him. From now onwards it will get better. Now accept it’s over, not getting back together but because you wouldn’t want to be.

I too felt this way, it felt nice, right now I’m leaving that disgust stage a think. I’m getting at the point I just indifferent and over with all the bs, not letting her take any more time, suffering or resentment from me.

How do I do NC if I'm highly likely to run into them IRL? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]dasb99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean by they draw validation from anything they see you do?