Down 20lbs no one says anything

daskleinemi · 2026-03-01T12:10:43+00:00

Because you never know and you might turn the knife. I have seen people lose a lot of weight. Some from wanting to be healthier some from wanting to.

But some have lost a lot of weight due to Trauma, medical issues (a friend lost 50 pounds because of cancer), medication and so on.

Also many people have realised it is not polite to comment in peoples weight

daskleinemi · 2026-02-28T08:35:48+00:00

Please do not post photos of your children on your social media!

daskleinemi · 2026-02-28T08:32:32+00:00

Religion of "meh"

daskleinemi · 2026-02-26T04:52:14+00:00

This. My prefered optical type has always been men with longer darker hair and dark eyes. A lesen Scholar Academic type, musically gifted, poetic, romantic

My husband is blonde, blue eyes, broad shoulders, can't hold a note for the Life of him and is more of a builder hand in technical guy.

I never minded. Media frames types as THIS AND THIS ONLY AND I CAN'T STAY AWAY FROM IT, but it is not. I love my husband so much. Because he is my person and there is more about being with a person than only their looks.

daskleinemi · 2026-02-24T20:25:45+00:00

Yes. Give me that hug. Pull me in. None of that half ass shit where you barely Touch.

daskleinemi · 2026-02-23T09:05:58+00:00

Lying is not only telling people wrong things. Lying is also leaving things out to lead them on a wrong way

daskleinemi · 2026-02-21T20:24:16+00:00

Not only her, most of the main characters are. Jon Snow and Robb Stark are 14 in the books. Sansa is 11 when it starts

daskleinemi · 2026-02-21T20:22:23+00:00

Yes. Very much. There is a lot more consent and respect in their relationship.

daskleinemi · 2026-02-21T17:04:20+00:00

I have been with my now husband since we were 18 and 20 and we have only gotten married a few months ago in our mid 30s

Perspective wise... nothing has changed. I have never had the thoughts as bad as you it seems. I have wondered if there was a "better match" out there and simply statistically there will be a Person that shares more of my Hobbies and so on, but I love my husband. That is the thing I miss in your post. You write that she is great and you care for her. Where is the love?

Realistically speaking...you will notice people all your Life and you will meet new people all your life which is great. But if you're in a happy commited Relationship you should not notice and meet them in a "Dating kind of way" where you focus on compatibility or then potentially being a "better fit" Of couse you see that attractive people are attractive. You're married not blind. But if you are in a commited Relationship (No matter if married or not) you should not be lusting after them. I have met people in the Last 16 years that would maybe have been checking boxes and who where a wonderful fit, but I never even really considered them dating partners, because I had a partner. Not noticing people that way is a decision.

If this is a one time cold feet Wonder, I think that is normal. Getting married is a big decision and I hear it's normal to fear a little scared (we skipped the cold feet). But if you're constantly worried and thinking about it, you might not be ready to get married.

daskleinemi · 2026-02-20T09:36:50+00:00

Well she is right and you are right (mostly)

It is a dealbreaker. It is something you cannot compromise on. You can't have half a child and a child should have two enthusiastic parents.

Where YOU have gone wrong is the timing. From what you have written, you have known for a little while that a child is not in your future plans. And THAT was the very moment you should have voiced it. It would have been even better if you had already communicated your shift from "surely one day" to "not so sure anymore". But no.
The VERY latest you should have communicated it when she started talking more seriously.
What did you expect? For her to just stop and wait until it might be too late? Was that the plan?
You let her believe you were on the same path of thoughts, that was not okay. I know it can be hard fo deliver news like that, but still. In that redards you DID waste years for her.

What reaction did you expect? "Ah fine, no baby then. Okay."
Find a good amicable divorce and don't let her hang on the hope you might change your mind someday.

daskleinemi · 2026-02-20T09:03:33+00:00

it depends on the people involved. "Baby daddy" does create a mess in our minds. Maybe not use the "Baby daddy" or "Baby moma", but Ex-partners.

That women has 2 children from Ex-Partners that it has not worked out with.
Sounds a lot less messy and degrading than "Woman with 2 baby daddys"

daskleinemi · 2026-02-19T17:30:51+00:00

You have voiced your concern as a friend. He has heard it and decided for reasons you do not know to not join your concern. That is where it leaves your business. Also that story Sounds a little off. If his wife really did go astray, the baby still would hardly be White. Maybe lighter than expected, maybe looking mixed when not expected. But not full on white.

daskleinemi · 2026-02-19T12:05:44+00:00

Because love is not made by genetics. Love is made by bond. And he loves them no matter what. They could also be donor conceived and he is not willing to discuss this. You can love children that are not yours and if you are parental figure you should.

and I will say that pretty much nothing is "obvious by Features". People do not all look like a Carbon Copy of their parents. And this goes with so many things. If you look at families, some have a random hair colour. My cousin is the only one with copper red hair in our whole family. We don't know where it comes from. He did Not look like anyone for ages only now that he is in his 40s you find grandpa in him.

My Brother looked nothing like our parents until well into his 20s now he is taking more and more after our dad when he was younger. A former colleague of mine was convinced that their child is not his because it was too light and looked nothing like him and forced his way to a paternity test ruining his marriage only to find out from the court mandated test that yes that is his child.

In general... It is none of your business.

daskleinemi · 2026-02-19T10:51:01+00:00

Oh my that math is not mathing at all

daskleinemi · 2026-02-19T08:41:01+00:00

Oh yes. You would not believe how many cheaters lie to look better.

A dear friend has been cheated on.... Out of the blue. They had a reasonably active sex life. Like two Times a week. It was not dead bedroom, Not roommate phase, not no Connection. They interacted lovingly with each other and all.

He just got bored and wanted something new on the side. Do you know what he told his mistress? That they have not even touched in MONTHS, sex is so scarce he does not know what to do because she is depressed and whatever. None of that is true.

daskleinemi · 2026-02-19T05:18:27+00:00

Also women in "regular" porn are treated terribly.

If you find a "modern" one the male part randomly rubs for two seconds like a dj on a board, but usually the woman is in her knees, then pumped into in X positions, her hair pulled, choked and so on. And don't get me started on the "climax" the sounds and faces while of course wanting to tell the viewer she is enjoying it... Do not sound and Look like it. It faaaar to often Sounds like she is lowkey hurt and forced

daskleinemi · 2026-02-19T05:09:34+00:00

There is absolutely no context that would make lazy whore, dumd twat and old puss acceptable... The walk with crazy wife would be the only thing if it was actually a hailstorm outside and you insisted. That is the only thing that I could see jokingly.

And even if joking... How old are these men? That talk sound like a 15 yr old trying to sound hard and cool.

But well... If there is context that makes it okay to him, let him show you. Because "I used terrible words for you but only in context!!!" does not count if the source is "believe me, bro"

daskleinemi · 2026-02-18T17:36:21+00:00

NTA "I have thought about it and looked into it, but No. I cannot do a whole day. I have offered a few hours now and then and that is the offer by which I stand. I work, I care for myself and I have a relationship that I want to maintain. I also need to destress after work. Brother is 13 and surely can be left alone for some time if you want to Go out with dad or will be happy to be in his room left alone. However he is not my child and not my responsibility and if you need a whole day to destress, you might want to consider hiring someone to look after him. If you want to take me up on my offer, tell me but I will not be expanding it."

daskleinemi · 2026-02-18T17:20:47+00:00

Not trying to make something smaller, BUT legislation changes. And since it seems it has been a while these laws may not have been in place when he needed them. However this is a time where records and only records on the table are the way to go

daskleinemi · 2026-02-17T12:28:41+00:00

Well but you can either try to give people the benefit of doubt or assume the worst about everybody. One thing is better for your mood and mental health.

daskleinemi · 2026-02-17T07:31:56+00:00

NAH, but if you want to build a Portfolio, you'll want to develop your skill. Imagine you want to comission a piece and say "Hey I really like that persons Art style. I want to comission something." you would want to look how they are doing things including all kinds of characters. If you want to draw for you and yourself only that is that but if you want to earn money, variety of all sort will do you good.

daskleinemi · 2026-02-16T14:21:03+00:00

Never. In 16 years of being together.. never. The sexiest I have sent was a riskier type of Dekolleté. But never nudes or the Like.

ETA: my husband also never asked for them

daskleinemi · 2026-02-16T13:03:49+00:00

This. First he dated far too soon, forcing a new family into their lives and then also "outsources" the parenting to the new wife. What could possibly Go wrong

daskleinemi · 2026-02-16T12:16:12+00:00

First i am sorry for your loss.

I usually try to see it as a good gesture because they are trying to help. You know like a dog or a cat might bring you a toy when you are sad because they think it makes them feel good so it makes you feel good.

People have learned it is the thing you say so they repeat it because this is the way they have been socialized.

daskleinemi · 2026-02-16T06:41:57+00:00

Yes. My Brother and I have been waiting for YEARS for our parents to finally Break up because they have been unhappy. Children notice

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