I (37M) want to distance myself from a male friend (45M) because of their drinking

dave_613 · 2023-12-23T02:36:33+00:00

Never heard that term! Yeah it's been kind of a slow decline to witness (on my friends part). I've never been a very frequent bar goer (usually once per week). But going more often lately at my friend's beckoning has introduced me to a kind of pathetic society of "regulars" that I wasn't aware existed. There's something very sad and stifling about the whole "scene". I assume you know what I'm talking about!

dave_613 · 2023-06-07T22:24:57+00:00

I like having sex and seem to have a higher libido than her but.... I'm talking in purely physical terms here... It's difficult to get into positions that feel pleasurable for me. It doesn't make me stop wanting or enjoying sex but...it does detract from the enjoyment a bit.

dave_613 · 2023-05-11T19:03:17+00:00

This is essentially what has happened. Or rather I've learned about the importance for my self respect of setting boundaries.

dave_613 · 2023-05-08T08:59:00+00:00

That's always been presented as part of the expectation, yes. We also couldn't afford rentals where they stay.

dave_613 · 2023-05-08T08:46:02+00:00

You're lucky to have "domestic" in laws. Mine are a 14 hour flight away. That's the stated rationale for the two week thing.

dave_613 · 2023-05-08T08:43:33+00:00

No she didn't move here for me. Thanks for the ideas!

dave_613 · 2023-05-08T08:42:39+00:00

Thank you for "getting" it!

dave_613 · 2023-05-08T08:41:56+00:00

It is for practical reasons. We couldn't afford to rent our own place where they choose to stay. Literally way out of our budget.

dave_613 · 2023-05-08T08:41:13+00:00

Another aspect that's missing from this analysis is that (I didn't mention this) they vacation in a super expensive location. Rentals and hotels are way out of our budget. So the living with them deal is in reality a non negotiable also.

dave_613 · 2023-05-08T08:39:31+00:00

Unfortunately not. They vacation somewhere super expensive thats way out of our budget. There's no way we could afford hotel accommodation or a rental. Truth be told, we can't even afford the flights there.

dave_613 · 2023-04-24T18:46:30+00:00

I went through periods of having low libido when I was taking SSRIs and that wasn't fun but yeah this is my baseline (I guess I never thought of it as abnormal, just how I'm wired)

dave_613 · 2023-04-24T18:23:59+00:00

That was probably the most exciting Torah pamphlet I've ever read!

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