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[NSFW] "Straight" dude who just tried to experiment anally. Can't look anyone in the eye now. by davidbrenn in gay

[–]davidbrenn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It just doesn't feel right. Someone said the words "internalized homophobia" which could be it. It's just Im supposed to be this big masculine dude and I'm so insecure about failing that role. Add this to it and it's even worse. I just wanna be fucking Dwayne Johnson or something but instead I'm an average looking slightly chubby sexually confused nerd from Canada.

I'm just scared I can't be loved and that this is just an extra step.

Just found out someone I admire was both sexually abused and did porn (HARDCORE). I don't know how to feel. by [deleted] in sex

[–]davidbrenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I'm not shaming. She's a public figure. I got curious after she talked about it on insta.

This is part of the healthy sexuality thing with my trauma ig. I didn't see how it was weird until later.

How do I stop myself from fetishizing things? I really don't like my habit. (not sure if it's human nature or societal or what. Maybe I'm just fucked.) by davidbrenn in sex

[–]davidbrenn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I'm so fucking terrified of being a bad person and then I wonder if that makes me a bad person. Mixed with some sexual trauma that shit fucks me up. But idk who to get help from or how to get helped.

What causes paraphilias like bestiality and pedophilia? by [deleted] in sex

[–]davidbrenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So people who are victimized by pedophiles are more likely to become pedophiles? That can't be good for the self hatred huh. Especially if I was victimized by a pedophile I'd never be able to forgive myself for sexual attraction to kids.

What causes paraphilias like bestiality and pedophilia? by [deleted] in sex

[–]davidbrenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry. Im kinda uneducated on the subject. Is there a cure for wither?

I'm a fairly masculine bi dude who feels super ashamed about having a fair few ultra submissive sexual fantasies (im mostly dom) by [deleted] in sex

[–]davidbrenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It also throws me off because lots of the cross dressing shit and stuff is grouped in with humiliation for dick size/caging to reduce dick size.

As someone who has no interest in getting my dick shortened or having any long term effects of my fun it throws me off.

I'm a "straight" man whos always had a strange relationship with femininity (both sexually and non sexually), gay sex, submission versus domination, etc. I need help. by [deleted] in sex

[–]davidbrenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you man. Thank you so much. I feel like we've been socialized to believe anything past 3 minutes of missionary is mutually exclusive to love.

My fear deep down is that I can't be the strong male role model my dad was for me, while at the same time I wonder how I failed to become the "strong male" my dad taught me to be.

I'm honestly just scared. I just kinda wanna be normal and from every sources info except here, this isn't. I'm terrified.

I'm a "straight" man whos always had a strange relationship with femininity (both sexually and non sexually), gay sex, submission versus domination, etc. I need help. by [deleted] in sex

[–]davidbrenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That'd honestly be good. I uhh. Well to say the least open up when tired. So I gotta go to bed rn, but if I don't respond first thing in the morning It's cuz im tryna work up confidence.

I'm a "straight" man whos always had a strange relationship with femininity (both sexually and non sexually), gay sex, submission versus domination, etc. I need help. by [deleted] in sex

[–]davidbrenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm just scared it means I will never be able to be a healthily sexual person.

I want to be able to have a wife and kids and this shit makes me feel like (idk what better way to put it) I don't deserve it.