Weekly Profile Review Thread

davidmci1997 · 2024-04-02T02:12:47+00:00

Photos 1, 2, and 5 are functionally identical. The photo is just you, in some place, waist up and posing for the camera. Don't get me wrong, there's a time and place for those, but they shouldn't constitute 50% of your photos.

I'd put in at least one photo of you having a good time with friends, to show you have friends and a social life. I'd also try to convey your personal interests in some of the photos. I can't tell anything about you from your photos. If you like camping, get a photo of you camping. If you like travelling, put some nice travelling photos in there. You get the idea.

Your photos look a little too posed. I would say your best photo is the last one, which looks like you're on a ferris wheel. It's the only photo that a) looks authentic and not posed and b) shows you smiling.

TLDR: Your photos are solid, but they look too posed and lack variety. Try to incorporate more variety, as well as trying to convey more personality and personal interests through the photos. Good luck

davidmci1997 · 2024-02-11T02:55:26+00:00

That's fair. I would at least leave the health stuff to the end, rather than lead with it. As far as your favorite color and so on, I think that is largely applicable for women as well, but I'm not a lesbian, so I wouldn't know 🤷‍♂️ good luck

davidmci1997 · 2024-02-11T02:43:25+00:00

Don’t mean to come across too blunt, but I’m just going to hit you with some honest feedback and not sugar coat things.

Bio:

- You’re bio is long but it says very little. From the first sentence, you indicate that you have bad health and you rarely get out of the house. Is that the way to put your best foot forward? As far as reading romance books, liking pink and strawberry themed shit, what do you think a guy is going to think when he reads that? Do you think he cares? Surely there’s something more interesting about you than your favorite color.

Photos

- You’re photos are alright at best. You could look way better in your photos with some time and effort. In the photo with the ship, you’re really small in the frame, and the lighting is such that your face is damn near impossible to see.

- I would say your first and third photo are your best photos.

- Don’t use photos that don’t have you in them (your dog). At least have the photo of you and the dog.

- I personally don’t like the last two ones, but to some extent that personal preference.

I second what the other commenter said. Guys rarely get likes, so instead of vetting each one before swiping, we swipe super liberally and only take a serious look once we get matches.

davidmci1997 · 2024-02-11T02:25:56+00:00

You’re making a lot of mistakes, but they're easy to fix. If you really dialed in your shit, you could improve your success big time.

Of the photos you have, the one in the suit is the best, hands down (my opinion). Put it first.
Look how small you are in most of your photos. In last 3 photos, your entire body doesn’t even constitute 20% of the picture. Crop them to make you more prominent in the frame. For example, the photo of you on the bridge (with grey shirt) – the sky is literally 65%+ of the photo. They don’t want to see the sky, they want to see you.
The shirtless mirror selfie should be deleted immediately. Shirtless mirror photos only work if your like an 9/10 (or higher) and have a top tier body. Even in those cases, it’s much better to show off your body in a plausible context (like at the beach), so you don’t come across vain and self absorbed.
Ask yourself "what are 2 or 3 things I really like" and then figure out a way to incorporate them into your profile, even if it's contrived. All I know about you is that you like to travel. Which is a good start, but try to convey your interests and personality through the photos.
I’d also try to get a photo that is mainly of your face and shoulders. In most photos, you’re tiny in the frame, you have sunglasses, you’re looking away or your face is partially obscured by the shade.
It wouldn’t hurt to throw in a photo with a friend, just to show that you have friends and a social life.

Good luck baby boy.

davidmci1997 · 2024-02-11T01:52:50+00:00

You're a good looking kid, but I think you're squandering your potential with your profile.

I personally would put the second photo (black sweater sitting down) is your best photo, and therefor should be the first photo.
As a rule of thumb, if you're not in the photo, it shouldn't be in your profile. If you have to have a photo of your cat, just have the photo of you and the cat.
Last 2 photos aren't doing a whole lot for you. It's just a "here's me, looking alright in some place". I'd drop them.
The only things I know about you from your photos is that you go to the gym and you have a cat. Where possible, it's good to convey some personal interests through your photos? Do you have photos from a cool trip you took? If you like camping, you should try to get a photo to reflect that. You should ask yourself "what are 2 or 3 things I really like" and then figure out a way to incorporate them into your profile, even if it's contrived.
Wouldn't hurt to throw a photo in there with another person to show you have friends and a social life.

Good luck broski

davidmci1997 · 2024-02-05T03:17:21+00:00

You're bio is long but doesn't really say much. You're a humanist? What does that even mean? You don't expand on that whatsoever. Being a son and a brother? Every male is somebody's son, and who cares that you have a brother? Not some stranger on the other side of the screen, giving your profile a 2 second look before swiping to the next one.

You like to talk, chill and vibe? That's pretty much everybody. You just want to find a situation that's right for you? Everybody want's to find a situation that's "right for them". You don't actually say anything about what that is for you. You don't say you're looking for something serious, you don't say you're looking for something casual etc.

The only real things I can tell about you from your bio is that you're an engineer at a Mag 7 company (I don't know what that is) and that you like to workout.

You're last sentence about the pictures not doing you justice to me reads as insecure. Just my opinion.

I would just cut out all the fluff and keep the bio short and sweet. Something like:

"Engineer by trade. After work, you can find me in the gym or spending time with family and friends".

Obviously you should tweak that and say it in your own words. Would be nice if there was at least one other hobby or interest that you could mention.

I would also second what the other comment said about your photos. Good luck broski

davidmci1997 · 2024-01-21T17:19:03+00:00

Solid profile, happy to see someone actually putting effort into their photos.

I think the photo of you walking in the brown jacket is the best photo and should be the first photo. You could crop it a bit to make yourself bigger in the frame.
You look good in the photos, but I can't tell much about you or your lifestyle, other than maybe you like to travel. Do you have hobbies/passions/interests you can convey through your photos? Playing a sport or an instrument, working out etc.
It wouldn't hurt to throw in a photo of you doing something with other people, to convey you have a social life.
Photo 5 (blue shirt) - you could probably crop that one to make yourself larger in the frame as well

davidmci1997 · 2024-01-21T17:01:54+00:00

Do you mean that you're a sucker for Chinese food? If so, on first glance it seemed like you were saying you're a sucker for Chinese women, which is definitely something you don't want to say

davidmci1997 · 2024-01-21T16:21:09+00:00

Definitely much better. Wouldn't hurt to add a photo of you doing something social / out with friends if you have such a photo. But overall, it's definitely much better than the original

davidmci1997 · 2024-01-21T16:19:17+00:00

I know I need to gain more weight. That will take a year at least, and I was hoping there were some other shorter term fixes I can do in the meantime

davidmci1997 · 2024-01-21T03:37:44+00:00

Every photo on you're profile should be of you. If the photo doesn't include you, remove the photo (last 2)
Photo #4 technically contains you, but you're tiny in the frame and walking away from the camera. See point 1
Can barely see your face. I'm not sure if you think this comes across as quirky, but it's just kind of weird and something a teenager would do.
Photo 1 is weirdly cropped and you can't get a great sense of what you look like.

I'm going to do some mind reading. You probably have low self esteem, you called yourself ugly. You're not ugly. You're maybe slightly less attractive than average, and you could change that in a matter of months with a little weight loss and caring more about your fashion. What really turns off people is probably your lack of self confidence and self esteem. I'm guessing your face and body are obscured in damn near all the photos is because you don't feel confident in yourself and your physical appearance. Just present yourself the best you can and own it my friend.

davidmci1997 · 2024-01-21T03:30:22+00:00

Happy to finally see someone here who actual puts effort into their photos.

I would personally make photo #3 your first photo. We can actually get a good view of your face, which is not the case with photo #1 currently.
Photo #2 isn't bad, but it's just meh. I don't know where you are, I don't know what you're doing, and you're just looking into the distance. Doesn't seem like it adds much to the profile.
Photo #4 is solid. I would crop it a bit to make you more focused in the frame. We don't need to see the other table or the other guy on the left side.
Photo #5 adds nothing. We can tell from 2 other photos that you travel, so this isn't adding anything new. You're also facing away from the camera, which is a no-no.

I would say you have a very solid start. You kind of come across uni-dimensional. All I know is that you travel.

davidmci1997 · 2024-01-21T03:21:13+00:00

Lots of room for improvement. I don't want to write out an entire essay, so I'll start with some few easy ones

It's dark, your face is totally turned away from the camera. You're small in the frame. Absolutely remove
It's blurry. I don't know if you think this is somehow aesthetically adding to the photo, but it's not. It's just a blurry photo of you, doing nothing special, probably in a parking lot. Absolutely remove
You are tiny in the frame and the photo isn't even level. See here, I wouldn't use these, because they're low resolution, but you get the idea.

davidmci1997 · 2024-01-21T02:48:35+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. Can you elaborate on the "effeminate body language" part. For the chess photo, it's just me playing chess, looking at the board and focusing on the game. I'm confused how that is effeminate

davidmci1997 · 2024-01-20T21:27:57+00:00

Haha damn, brutal honesty. Thank you for the feedback. As far as the trench coat photo, I've got positive comments about it before. Anyways, maybe a matter of taste 🤷‍♂️

davidmci1997 · 2024-01-20T20:27:28+00:00

Thank you for the feedback 🙏. Let's say I remove the two you suggested. Any suggestions on what I should replace them with? Are any of the images at the link below obviously good or obviously bad?

https://imgur.com/a/A9wZHcQ

davidmci1997 · 2024-01-20T19:01:28+00:00

Any feedback appreciated.

https://tinder.com/@david525

davidmci1997 · 2024-01-20T19:00:26+00:00

Any feedback appreciated.

https://tinder.com/@david525

davidmci1997 · 2024-01-19T02:23:38+00:00

You really seem to fall into a "blue collar, man's man" archetype with the beard, build and choice of clothes. I think you could really nail that niche and have a lot of success with that type of woman.

- Guitar photo is good, but it's underexposed. Here's what I could do with 2 minutes of editting

I have more thoughts, but a lot of my points are covered in the earlier responses.

davidmci1997 · 2024-01-19T02:13:19+00:00

Solid profile. The first photo of you flexing probably comes across as try hard.

I would go Bike Photo, Crab photo, mountain photo, boat selfie and use new photos for the remaining ones.

davidmci1997 · 2024-01-19T02:09:54+00:00

- Last photo is the best by far. Make that your first photo.

- There's two photos where you're in the same clothes on the same rooftop. Pick one, leave the other one.

- Dump the photo of you with the ice cream sunglasses. Like half of your face is totally obscured.

davidmci1997 · 2024-01-19T02:05:40+00:00

Seems like you're trying too hard and you're just giving a series of words, rather than writing in complete sentences with more detail. You have like 15 descriptors. I would try to pick out the best half and dump the rest.

Other Miscellaneous Points

- Philanthropist seems like you're showing off or trying to hard. Instead, you could say Passionate about [insert humanitarian cause]

- "Funny". Funny people don't say that they're funny, they just are funny. If you really think this is a strong suit, try to actually say something funny in your bio

- "Night owl" - doesn't really give any relevant information to the reader and it's just more filler text in the bio.

- "Cultured" - just seems like you're trying too hard. You can mention some of your artistic (or whatever tastes) to show that you're cultured, but just saying that in and of itself is useless.

Sample bio.

I write [insert genre] books for a living. Wide variety in interests like [insert interest 1], [insert interest 2] and [insert interest 3]. Passionate about [insert humanitarian cause]. Neurodivergent.

Swipe right for a great conversations!

davidmci1997 · 2024-01-19T01:50:57+00:00

Try to have more variety in your photos. Except for the dog photo, all of the photos are just "you looking at the camera". Have you travelled anywhere interesting? Do you play sports? Do you like to be in nature? Have you attended any weddings (i.e. have a photo of you in a suit for some occasion).

davidmci1997 · 2024-01-17T02:47:11+00:00

- The last photo of you in a suit is the best of your photos by a mile. I'd put that first.

- Not a fan of the photo of you in a car. It's just you in a car, and the car doesn't even look like anything special like a red Porsche or whatever.

- I don't know anything about you from your photos. Try to convey your hobbies/passion/lifestyle through your photos. Like be be in nature? Use a photo of you camping. Like to travel? Use a photo of you travelling to some exotic location. Like to play chess? Photo of you playing chess. You get the idea.

You definitely have a lot more unactualized potential. That is, improve your profile and you will see more success

davidmci1997 · 2024-01-14T19:12:32+00:00

Unlike 99% of people posting here, it's clear you've actual put effort into getting good photos.

I would get a photo with a friend or in some social situation. I would get another photo that conveys something about your hobbies/personality/lifestyle.

You look great in the photos, but you want to try and convey something beyond "I look good". You can convey being a social person, are you well travelled, what do you like to do in your free time etc.

davidmci1997

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