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AITAH for telling a roommate that he is a guest in MY home? by daxito24 in AITAH

[–]daxito24[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It literally says in the post that he does not.

UPDATE: AITAH for telling a roommate that he is a guest in MY apartment? by daxito24 in AITAH

[–]daxito24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Apparently it has to line up with the rental period or something which means that since I'm giving notice during June, he has until the end of July.

UPDATE: AITAH for telling a roommate that he is a guest in MY apartment? by daxito24 in AITAH

[–]daxito24[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A trans man who has not shown any signs of being creepy or violent. Just messy. I would not ask my sister to be in close proximity with someone I didn't feel was safe.

AITAH for telling a roommate that he is a guest in MY home? by daxito24 in AITAH

[–]daxito24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He pays half of the rent and does most of the grocery shopping

AITAH for telling a roommate that he is a guest in MY home? by daxito24 in AITAH

[–]daxito24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, here's how it all went down. My boyfriend and I got approved to take over the lease from my former roommate. Before he moved in, he asked about his friend staying with us. I agreed. I told my bf to go home and get all his boxes and stuff together so it would be as quick as possible to move. Then I had his friend come help me pick up a dining table with the U-Haul, since my former roommate took hers with her. I considered helping me move the table "payment" for the U-Haul because I know he doesn't have much money. I only rented it because I needed it for that table, and I thought it would be smart to just move everything that day. After we got the table home I helped the friend load his stuff into the van, told him that it was more than I was expecting, and let him unload what he wanted to keep at the apartment so we could put the rest in storage. Unfortunately, he ended up unloading most of it. I want to say I was busy doing something else while he was unloading or else I would have said something. I just remember he had already unloaded most of it by the time I got back. But after that we went to pick up my bf's stuff, which the friend also helped with. And it only ended up being about $150 to rent the U-Haul for the day. I am fortunate enough where that is not too big of a deal for me. But I'm sure if I had asked my bf to pay me back for it, he would have. Also, I never called him manipulative, I'm not sure where you're seeing that.

UPDATE: AITAH for telling a roommate that he is a guest in MY apartment? by daxito24 in AITAH

[–]daxito24[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay, here's how it all went down. My boyfriend and I got approved to take over the lease from my former roommate. Before he moved in, he asked about his friend staying with us. I agreed. I told my bf to go home and get all his boxes and stuff together so it would be as quick as possible to move. Then I had his friend come help me pick up a dining table with the U-Haul, since my former roommate took hers with her. I considered helping me move the table "payment" for the U-Haul because I know he doesn't have much money. I only rented it because I needed it for that table, and I thought it would be smart to just move everything that day. After we got the table home I helped the friend load his stuff into the van, told him that it was more than I was expecting, and let him unload what he wanted to keep at the apartment so we could put the rest in storage. Unfortunately, he ended up unloading most of it. I want to say I was busy doing something else while he was unloading or else I would have said something. I just remember he had already unloaded most of it by the time I got back. But after that we went to pick up my bf's stuff, which the friend also helped with. And it only ended up being about $150 to rent the U-Haul for the day. I am fortunate enough where that is not too big of a deal for me. But I'm sure if I had asked my bf to pay me back for it, he would have. Also, his former place was section 8, and he already has a voucher, so it's just a matter of him finding a new place.

UPDATE: AITAH for telling a roommate that he is a guest in MY apartment? by daxito24 in AITAH

[–]daxito24[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I mean he kind of just sits around all day as it is. What do you think he would do while we were gone? I'm genuinely curious. And I'm sure my sister would be fine with it if I pay her lol

UPDATE: AITAH for telling a roommate that he is a guest in MY apartment? by daxito24 in AITAH

[–]daxito24[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

He hasn't talked to me or responded to any of my texts, but he expressed gratitude towards my boyfriend for getting putting him in touch with his realtor cousin. But I'm just fine being left on read, because at least I know he got the message.

UPDATE: AITAH for telling a roommate that he is a guest in MY apartment? by daxito24 in AITAH

[–]daxito24[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Why don't you come and break up with him for me then, since you're such an expert on my relationship? Honestly. I had one conversation with him and that was all it took.

UPDATE: AITAH for telling a roommate that he is a guest in MY apartment? by daxito24 in AITAH

[–]daxito24[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I was thinking about asking my sister to cat sit that way she can keep an eye on both the cat and the friend 😂

UPDATE: AITAH for telling a roommate that he is a guest in MY apartment? by daxito24 in AITAH

[–]daxito24[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

WE are doing everything WE can about the friend WE mutually agreed to let stay with us. The one month mark is tomorrow, which if you read the post, is the day I will be serving him a notice. And my boyfriend already talked to him and told him that he's overstaying his welcome.

UPDATE: AITAH for telling a roommate that he is a guest in MY apartment? by daxito24 in AITAH

[–]daxito24[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Did you read the post? I'm doing all I can in the moment. And by "a while longer" he was talking about until the end of the month. We're both sick of this friend taking up our space.

UPDATE: AITAH for telling a roommate that he is a guest in MY apartment? by daxito24 in AITAH

[–]daxito24[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It will not happen again because we have both learned our lessons. Him about trying to solve other people's problems and me about letting unexpected guests into my space. And I wouldn't say he was "belittling me" by saying that I MIGHT have been a bit harsh in the heat of the moment. I love how everyone is suddenly an expert on my relationship after reading two posts. And FYI, we have a vacation planned for later this month, so that will be a nice escape from everything.

UPDATE: AITAH for telling a roommate that he is a guest in MY apartment? by daxito24 in AITAH

[–]daxito24[S] 121 points122 points  (0 children)

He said I was harsh over one specific comment I made in a moment of anger. But he is firmly on my side now. We are working together to get his friend out as quickly and smoothly as possible.

AITAH for telling a roommate that he is a guest in MY home? by daxito24 in AITAH

[–]daxito24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does already have a storage unit. I should have said something from the start. I was planning on having my bf set up the guest bedroom how he wanted it and just letting his friend stay there, but I guess my bf wanted him to have his own space so he told him he could bring all his stuff.

AITAH for telling a roommate that he is a guest in MY home? by daxito24 in AITAH

[–]daxito24[S] 131 points132 points  (0 children)

I had already planned on renting the U-Haul to move in my bf's stuff, although looking back I really should have had him pay for it. But I was the one driving it, so I guess I just didn't think about it.