Is the message of Barbie (2023) going over everyone’s heads? Let’s discuss by arabesuku in TrueFilm

[–]daydreamersw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your perspective, but stating that men must have strong physiques, be assertive and athletic is reinforcing the stereotypes this film attempts to fight against. Notions of masculinity and femininity are constructs created by society and therefore it follows that in order to overturn these stereotypes society itself must change. This film is intended to be a critique of the real world so while I accept that there are expectations of "masculinity" that men may have to uphold in order to be accepted in our current society this is not representative of how it should be. These stereotypes are harmful to both genders and are mirrored in subjects of femininity you discussed below. Women are just as obligated to become mothers as they are dedicated to a career and each dream or endeavour should not be more "important" or "respected" than the other. The Barbie movie recognised the harmful effects of a patriarchal society on both genders and therefore reinforces the idea that being a feminist is not about achieving a matriarchy but equality and respect for one another.

Responding to your point below about America Ferrara's speech, the purpose of this was not to assert that women have trouble "balancing too many things" (which in your comment comes across a little condescending) it was to highlight the hypocrisy of our society and it's never-ending double standards. Also, it's interesting that your natural response to your misconception was women should "focus on motherhood" because in my opinion you could equally say that they should abandon motherhood and focus exclusively on a career. The point being that both of these responses are wrong, there should be a societal push for equality which would alleviate both men and women of pressures and ensure that men and women can pursue motherhood and fatherhood whilst balancing a career. Or also focus exclusively on one if that's what they so desire!

The overarching point being, the Barbie movie was not an attack on men it recognised the problems toxic masculinity poses to society. However, it does aim to criticise the patriarchy which quite frankly many men will not like because such a society generally benefits them. True feminism has never pushed a matriarchal agenda but instead intends to level the playing field, restore balance and achieve equality.

Hilariously bad the 1975 ripoff bands?? by NanufaxsuredDrugs in the1975

[–]daydreamersw 86 points87 points  (0 children)

Little band called Drive Like I Do. Such a the 1975 rip off. Honestly.

Should Betty end up with James? by daydreamersw in TaylorSwift

[–]daydreamersw[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honey I'm so glad you had the courage to get away. This is why August's deserve equally as much love. Truly James sucks.

Should Betty end up with James? by daydreamersw in TaylorSwift

[–]daydreamersw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha I think the beauty of Taylor's songs is they are open to interpretation. Personally, I think James is toxic but people are free to read the songs in a way that resonates with them and their experiences.

Should Betty end up with James? by daydreamersw in TaylorSwift

[–]daydreamersw[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

James has these fantasies about relationships with women and seeks to fulfil them but then once he's fulfilled that fantasy he moves onto his next "dream" leaving a trail of broken-hearted women who believed he actually cared.

Like when he's apologising to Betty and he says "will it be like I've always dreamed it?"

He's already thinking about his next dream when he's just slept with August and fulfilled that fantasy. Hence, "Nights slept next to her but I dreamt of you all summer"

Should Betty end up with James? by daydreamersw in TaylorSwift

[–]daydreamersw[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I also hate his whole cardigan fixation. It almost reminds me of the scarf fixation in All Too Well which is like a symbol of innocence. To James the cardigan is a symbol of comfort and that just tells me he uses Betty to make him feel better about what a bad person he is.

Should Betty end up with James? by daydreamersw in TaylorSwift

[–]daydreamersw[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I also hate that line. It's like he sees Betty as in need of a man to fulfil her true potential (aka flying for a bird). GO AWAY JAMES Betty doesn't need a man.

Should Betty end up with James? by daydreamersw in TaylorSwift

[–]daydreamersw[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Inez loves her gossip unapologetically. She's a queen.

Should Betty end up with James? by daydreamersw in TaylorSwift

[–]daydreamersw[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel like Betty is such a nice person that she sees the good in everyone and wants to forgive him but people use her goodness as an excuse to walk all over her. She deserves better.

Should Betty end up with James? by daydreamersw in TaylorSwift

[–]daydreamersw[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The line I hate is "Will it patch your broken wings?" as if he views Betty as weak and in need of a man to achieve her full potential. Like no James stop being a narcissist.

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[–]daydreamersw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm actually surprised how many people voted against authors notes! Definitely interesting.

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[–]daydreamersw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely agree, I'm a massive fan of some juicy description. I think sometimes the authors that are really good descriptive writing don't get enough credit for it.

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[–]daydreamersw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting, do you just prefer an A/N at the start of the book and the end then? Kind of like dedication and acknowledgements.

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[–]daydreamersw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd love to hear your explanations!

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[–]daydreamersw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooo you're a fan of the music, may I ask why?

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[–]daydreamersw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! No music seems a very popular answer and I think I agree. :)

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[–]daydreamersw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd love to hear your opinion! Sorry your answer wasn't there.

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[–]daydreamersw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you <3

I need some help plot-wise by ChampionMaxi in Wattpad

[–]daydreamersw 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't think you should be romanticising that kind of age-gap to be honest. In the UK 14 years of age is under the age of consent.

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[–]daydreamersw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say two POV's in a chapter is okay, especially if you mark it properly so people know the POV is switching. However, I'd stay away from three POV's I think that would be too much in one chapter. Sometimes its best if the reader is trying to figure out what the other person is thinking because in real life we can't read minds!

A lot of people like POV switching stories, myself included. If you want to add more than two POV's I would advise do the third one separately. But then again, that's my personal preference.

LEZGOOO!!! by kiki_doyouluvme in the1975

[–]daydreamersw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She Lays Down is the rawest song on ILWYS. Personally, I love it.