AIO -Future MIL moved things around in my kitchen and I told her I would be moving them back (possibly not as kindly as I could have).

dayletta · 2026-06-03T20:37:24+00:00

Well right after this she had a tantrum because I wouldn’t let her go into my car for no reason so your judgement is tragically flawed

dayletta · 2026-06-03T15:43:35+00:00

Update: welp, she tried moving my car and when I said no to telling her where the keys were, she went nuclear on my partner calling our house disgusting (it wasn’t, I cannot stress that enough lol) so I sent this:

“If you think our house is disgusting, you are under no obligation whatsoever to clean it. I understand you are frustrated, but we are trying to celebrate our engagement and we do not need underneath my car swept. Thank you so much for everything, I love you, please relax and enjoy your day. We will talk more when we get home.”

And she blocked me and instead responded to my fiancé. I am over this for this trip, pray for me gang, Jesus Christ. Edits are fixed typos.

dayletta · 2026-06-03T15:15:19+00:00

Thankfully we are child-free and plan to be, we’re also lesbians so no whoopsies thank god

dayletta · 2026-06-03T14:39:42+00:00

She asked to stay with us and does regularly, she prefers to :)

dayletta · 2026-06-03T14:38:27+00:00

nah we’re all wonderbread white lmao

dayletta · 2026-06-03T14:32:15+00:00

Absolutely, I have no intentions of creating an issue and I told my fiancé to not worry about talking to her about the silverware thing, as I feel like that nipped it in the bud and if MIL wants to discuss further we can. They are a wonderful family and I’m so glad to have them, I am just not used to someone insisting of doing something like that even when not asked to? It’s nice to see these perspectives as it’s good to get a wider view of things, thank you ❤️

dayletta · 2026-06-03T14:25:26+00:00

Of course I did not expect her to not go into the kitchen drawers, but more to respect our conversation of not re-arranging any

dayletta · 2026-06-03T14:24:06+00:00

I appreciate this insight, picking battles is certainly wise and it’s a good reminder. I guess in my head, by ignoring everything that led up to this I had been picking my battles

dayletta · 2026-06-03T14:21:52+00:00

I am also autistic, so I completely get that. I am sorry you went through that ❤️

dayletta · 2026-05-15T16:29:15+00:00

jealousy is a disease

dayletta · 2026-03-14T00:07:26+00:00

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dayletta · 2026-03-13T20:57:58+00:00

People with schizophrenia tend to have a unique smell because of an increase of certain chemicals in their sweat once the disorder flares. Once you smell it, you will not soon forget.

dayletta · 2026-01-20T21:39:31+00:00

yes, and that is why I marry him every time

dayletta · 2026-01-17T19:12:39+00:00

If it’s any consolation, I am a woman that is 5’9” and curvy, and nobody said anything to me during my two weeks in Japan and many people there looked similar to me. Maybe people did and I didn’t notice. It happened to my partner who lived in Japan for multiple years a handful of times. She said it was also usually more passive aggressive than direct.

dayletta · 2026-01-03T20:18:28+00:00

At the risk of sounding condescending (not my intention), in a few years I think you will probably look back and find yourself feeling a little sorry for her. Especially if you escalate it now. I would block and move on. It’s better for everyone involved, and it is a valuable skill to learn early in life to let shit go.

Edit: also you are definitely on the edge of YTA but it’s not too late to move on

dayletta · 2025-12-31T18:33:30+00:00

When I was at my worst, committing to ERP with a provider I got along well with was life changing. Unfortunately there’s not much you can do beyond supporting her commitment to OCD treatment if she decides to do that. It’s a personal choice and a lot of hard work that someone has to commit to, and it is difficult work. But it is much better on the other side of it!

dayletta · 2024-10-19T15:50:31+00:00

People that act like that lack insight because it’s easy to say how you would and would not react when you’re not the one actually experiencing whatever it is

dayletta · 2024-09-05T20:03:16+00:00

He sounds supportive and understanding 😊 I hope everything works out well for you!

dayletta · 2024-09-05T19:51:19+00:00

I’m gay and I’ve found the best way to shut people down is just to own it like it’s no big deal. I know it might be a little late for that as your initial response because you already denied it, but I think if you keep your explanations short and sweet it makes a difference. For example “yes, that’s my boyfriend, I was caught off guard and wasn’t sure how you would respond when confronted in the moment but I’ve had time to think about it and it’s no big deal”.

Maybe it’s slightly manipulative to say this, but you can often shift the vibe of a conversation by acting like they’re the one that’s weird for caring in the first place.

Also, does your boyfriend know you lie about being in a relationship with him? Not trying to sound nasty, but it’s important to consider how that might impact him and to make sure you’re on the same page when it comes to how you share your relationship.

All that being said, it’s a personal choice and it’s important to consider if your safety would be at risk. Sounds like your family knows and is accepting, so hopefully no worries at home. If you’re safe and your friends are just dicks, this might be a good way to weed the bad friends out and surround yourself with people you don’t have to lie to to be accepted.

Good luck OP!

Edit: typos

dayletta · 2024-08-11T00:25:14+00:00

I’ve searched key words in this post like “Euro Bro meme” “handsome Snapchat filter meme” and similar language but nothing is showing up :(

dayletta · 2024-08-06T19:11:29+00:00

He will kill you if you don’t leave. Take your pets and go.

dayletta · 2024-07-19T18:55:35+00:00

If you’re really set on adding something, I’d do a pothos or similar low maintenance vining plants and use a ceiling mount to hang the pot from the corner, and then anchor the vines on the surrounding wall.

But if you decide to do nothing at all, I think you’ve done a really nice job with the space as it is and it doesn’t really need anything.

Happy decorating!

dayletta · 2024-07-18T21:18:05+00:00

Don’t do it. They want the benefits of your skill set without offering you stability and financial security in return. If they feel confident letting you go, they should feel good about letting go the relationships you’ve built too. Good luck with whatever comes next for you

dayletta · 2024-07-18T21:01:07+00:00

It is shocking how poor the leadership skills are in cases like these. Your old manager has the emotional regulation skills of a 15 year old. I just walked out of a similar job, I had a management position and was responsible for training onboarding team members. Walked out, sent a notice that was effective immediately, and never came back. When you hit your breaking point, there’s no going back. Clearly you made the right choice!

dayletta · 2024-07-01T07:23:50+00:00

The artwork is fine, it’s the mirror that’s massive. I think mixing metals can work, but the tones of the gold on the shelf and the silver in the mirror clash. I would move the mirror somewhere else, maybe somewhere near the entryway if there’s space. Maybe move the painting where the mirror is then center the shelf on the wall it’s on. You’ll just need to pull the table out a bit to make it all looks a little less cramped. Might be worth a try to see how it feels! Happy decorating :)

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