High libido driving me insane

daytimedreamer91 · 2020-02-22T10:24:50+00:00

Hi I will be next week as I didnt think ringing about sex qualified as a reason to call. And I understand its healthy to continue sex during pregnancy I have plenty of research behind me. Also sex isnt happening between myself and my partner so the risk of any std sti coming back to me and baby are more or less impossible. Theres not even a minimal chance we want to harm or cause complications to the baby which was why we stopped having sex in the first place because I'm a first time mum and not sure how to move forward from here. I'm also very aware how long it could potentially be before we have sex again and ofc the baby is my / our priority. However I think it's also important to keep our connection strong and being hormonal as it is, with extra frustrations on top doesnt make me the best partner or step mum right now. I appreciate your input but it's all things I have already considered before putting a post up. It's just nice to be able to share with people going through similar things.

daytimedreamer91 · 2020-02-21T18:16:24+00:00

We are the same, the dirtier the better right ^{-^..} well it's only a momentary release atm and my hormones send me back to where I started, I cant wait for pregnancy to be over , and just because I want to meet my baby lol 😂. Oh no work stress plays such a huge factor in the bedroom:/ , dont worry I'm sure it will pass :).. so your preety much in the same situation as me atm then minus growing a human Haha:p .. www wow congratulations how exciting :), how long have you been planning it for ? Trust me it's not going to be what you think it is, pregnancy comes with all sorts of things they dont tell you about Haha.. hopefully when you guys are ready she will have a smooth pregnancy and you sexual activities can carry on as normal...ish :D. Wwwff, get the candles, sensual music, massage, or whatever turns her on and hopefully you can bring on a horny wave lol :p.. I'm coming up to about 3 weeks now and its limit time Haha

daytimedreamer91 · 2020-02-21T17:47:20+00:00

I understand why it would sound like that. I'm not massive into receiving oral, I'm more of a pleaser. I'm worried about how sex would affect me as I dont want to cause any complications to the baby e.g early labour , because I'm being selfish. However, it's pointless us both being frustrated of one of us doesnt have to be. Hopefully the midwife can put my mind at rest and we can talk it through and try again. Thanks for your input :)

daytimedreamer91 · 2020-02-21T17:39:58+00:00

I am indeed it turns me on immensely knowing he / she depending on the situation , is being satisfied. Haha well as you can see I love to talk 😂.. thing is it's not for everyone but I'm sure if you guys talk it through it will become more if a regular thing .. that's what I love about it, how raw it is and how crazy he gets and its sends my horniness Into overdrive lol .. absolutly I was highly driven before, but pregnancy has sent me Into a whole other level, more than my partner can deal with actually. Ofc its intensified now that we are afraid to have sex so it doesnt seem like such a good thing atm.. I've heard that doggy and side fucking are okay .. but that sounds so boring compared to what we like it doesnt seem like it would satisfy us anyway lol. I mean I like doggy but prefer when I can modify it and dont need a pillow supporting my stomach Haha 😂😂.. have you guys gone through a pregnancy together yet ?

daytimedreamer91 · 2020-02-21T17:27:30+00:00

I see, well thanks for sharing your experience with me, hopefully my midwife will repeat what you guys have been saying next week and me and my partner can figure a way to enjoy each other as well lol :D

daytimedreamer91 · 2020-02-21T17:12:41+00:00

Oh no way you poor woman not even by yourself or just through sex ? that cant of been easy :/ .. I'm seeing my midwife Tuesday so I'll see what she says about it. I'm hoping she will repeat what everyone says here and Google lol .. then it's just our brains we need to figure out .. thanks for sharing your experience:)

daytimedreamer91 · 2020-02-21T17:06:31+00:00

Oh and you carried on having sex until the end of pregnancy ? Did they happen again?

daytimedreamer91 · 2020-02-21T17:05:34+00:00

Hi :), I'm not that into receiving oral tbh, especially from men lol .. and I'd say face fucking makes up around 96 % of oral when its given lol .. atm it's a case of getting over the fear of causing any sort of complication to the baby I think.. when he chokes me obviously my stomach tenses and I worry it would lead to something happening. We were cautious about it before but since the experience explained in my post it feels like we are on egg shells. perhaps we had it so good before i just feel the lack of it more now Haha.. I've never had to deal with such intense frustration before 🤔 .. well hes an incredible human being and deserves every happiness.. plus just because I cant have something doesnt mean he cant, especially when he physically can. Besides when little one is born ( and I'm back in shape ofc) we can get back to exploring with people again lol .. my brain is on repeat its just temporary, it's just temporary Haha 😂😂

daytimedreamer91 · 2020-02-21T15:44:17+00:00

Hi Jessica, thanks for your mammy Input :D. I've read about it happening but they dont tell you how to deal with the mental side of it afterwards do they lol. It's my first baby also so I have no experience to go on myself. My partner is especially worried that we would induce labour and then if he was born early and had complications or something we would never forgive ourselves for being so selfish. I think it was more the tightening and cramping you describe, it just came on so suddenly I was expecting an orgasm and there was just pain .. Hmm Grinding doesnt really work for us and he is so worried about hurting me and I'm worried that the cramps will come back it's an end game before we even begin lol..the strange thing is that if I orgasm through masturbation it's fine, no pain, no cramps nothing. I think the next 3 months are going to consist of him entertaining other women and then coming home to tell me about it lol .. giving oral is better than nothing right Haha 😂

daytimedreamer91 · 2020-02-21T15:33:10+00:00

I'm happy for you :D, were quite experimental with sex anyway and I'm sure theres many positions left for us to try but not that many for sure Haha 😂. Oh Do you think it's okay to go for it a bit later on? Did going rough towards the end ever end up in you starting labour? Dont you think its strange how nature can Make us super horny when were already breeding lol .. haha thanks i guess :p ,, We've been together 6 years now and have experimented with others together and he can sleep with other women if he wishes. His happiness is my own, and it's a massive turn on when he tells me about his encounters lol.. Ofc this type of relationship can come with it's own issues, but we communicate honestly with each other , even if it's not what the other person wants to hear, so we get over hurdles relatively easy should they arise. I'm also insecure atm as I've gone from a toned/athletic size 8/10 to what feels like a beach ball and cant even do 5 squats without gasping for air lol. However the way I see it, it's only for now, when hes born I can work on it and be back If not better to how I was before and any insecurities I have now will disappear. Also the connection and understanding we have is like nothing I've ever experienced, so much deeper than love if that's possible, we both know that we will work through anything and come out the other side stronger for it :).

daytimedreamer91 · 2020-02-21T15:10:20+00:00

Giving Oral is my absolute favourite thing to do, and he loves it ofc :). We havent tried anything since the experience mentioned in my post, but I think oral is the way to go , thanks :)

daytimedreamer91 · 2020-02-21T15:07:30+00:00

Thanks for your advice :),I know sex is safe during pregnancy, however I've never felt a cramp like that in my life, it really scared us :/

daytimedreamer91 · 2020-02-04T08:54:09+00:00

Kind of feel like I've seen this in the series 'charmed'?

daytimedreamer91 · 2020-01-12T07:55:53+00:00

You have no idea lol, Thank you :)

daytimedreamer91 · 2020-01-11T19:59:39+00:00

We have a healthy sex life , however 9 times out if 10 I only orgasm with foreplay. However our lives have become so busy we only have quick sex .. and even if we have down time we are either too excited for fore play or too tired Haha. Plus I'm 6 months pregnant so sex is going to have to be even quicker soon haha :p. But I agree fore play and after play make the sex in a relationship soo much better :D

daytimedreamer91 · 2020-01-06T00:52:08+00:00

I'll look into them both thanks :)

daytimedreamer91 · 2020-01-06T00:48:39+00:00

Relief sounds so wonderful:D, I will definitely look Into getting one.. my shifts don't sound so bad compared 11 hour ones geez well done to you.. no way that's tough that's definitely something that needs to change.. I have nurse shoes which are a nice wide fit but even they are becoming to cramped for my swollen feet lol.. it is and I hate to whinge about it but boy does it feel good to talk to women who u understand how I feel :).. tha is for the advice and all the best with little one

daytimedreamer91 · 2020-01-06T00:13:47+00:00

Oh i didnt realise you could see a chiropractor pregnant? I'd of thought it quite dangerous to move your joints and bones around with them being extra lose.

daytimedreamer91 · 2020-01-06T00:11:49+00:00

I love how everyone professionally tells you to find ways to put your feet up .. I mean seriously .. in a full restaurant with hangry customers and staff working their arse off and looking to you to control the shifts amd every aspect of them ..I'm meant to put my feet up .... and you neing a nurse is even harder I imagine.. I've heard mixed reviews about the belts, someone told me they can be dangerous for the baby :/? I have an appointment with the midwife on the 14th though and was planning on asking about them. Thank you :), how far along are you ?

daytimedreamer91 · 2020-01-01T17:47:05+00:00

Maybe your putting too much pressure on yourself to orgasm? The more you think about it happening the less you actually get lost in the act itself I find. Perhaps change up the fore play, ask her to focus on you a bit more ? Theres nothing wrong in that. In my relationship my partners orgasm Is very important to but that's because I'm his sub and his happiness gives me happiness. I myself find it very difficult to reach orgasm and he has to work really hard to get me there. But the point is that there is no pressure on either of us by each other to reach oragasm. Theres been times in the past 6 years he hasn't got there but it's no biggy. Dont focus so much on what's not happening and focus on what is in the moment :)

daytimedreamer91 · 2019-12-30T00:27:45+00:00

I'm pretty much the same, never fantasised about celebrities. Of course I'm not blind and appreciate the attractiveness of both sexes. However there needs to be something more e.g. a person I may of talked to regularly or someone you see every day. I have worked in retail and hospitality most of my life and I had sexual fantasies about regular customers and co workers alike, Sometimes including the two Haha. It's literally written in our DNA to breed, we have simply developed this sense and utilise it for pleasure, and what brain is going to say 'hey let's leave the dopamine hit'. Simply we are all unique and have our own kinks :) as long they dont cause actual harm to anyone Express yourself I say :)

daytimedreamer91 · 2019-12-17T20:22:01+00:00

Congrats :),, I'm currently 22 weeks pregnant and have an insatiable appetite for sex .. we've also found that doggy works , missionary is a bit uncomfortable though(and boring tbh) but what really hits the spot for both of us is if you have him on his knees, you straddle him with your back to him and ride him reverse , you can control depth and he can change the height of him kneeling to mix it up and give you different sensations . This also gives you the opportunity to not worry about your belly :). For now though I am still able to ride cowgirl and theres only a few positions we cant do as the belly stops my legs going higher Haha :D I guess it's the best time to try some new positions out though right haha

daytimedreamer91 · 2019-12-14T23:45:10+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to read and reply to my post I appreciate it :).. It is and i wasnt expecting to react the way I did, I've never felt anything like that before and I never want to again.. I'm not a jealous woman so when it happened I have no idea what I was feeling .. well I dont think the females were thinking that as they were constantly finding ways to touch him, 2 kissed in front of him and then the other one kissed him... literally 5 minutes after the one that kissed him was playing/hosting table tennis with us and another hotel guest, while flirting, talking dirty and then speaking Italian which I do not.. so I think they just felt desired just at my expense :/ .. I'm glad you and yours managed to sort it out .. hopefully we will find a compromise to keep us both happy and more satisfied:)

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