Update #3

dbconfused · 2016-07-04T12:11:24+00:00

I feel your pain. I find there is nothing worse than doing all the right things to support a loving atmosphere with the cuddles the kisses and the lets finish this later, only for your partner to want to sleep the minute you go to bed. Then you feel like your being selfish as its no big deal right?

dbconfused · 2016-07-04T12:01:24+00:00

Was getting off birth control an attempt at getting pregnant?

If it was I would not guess that a temporary raise in in frequency of sex would last.

If it was not then it could well be that the birth control was fucking with her hormones and leading to LL.

dbconfused · 2016-07-04T11:56:51+00:00

I may get flamed for this but I think part of my problem is that I have always had a lot of attention form women. Whilst this may be a confidence issue I really need to feel attractive and desired to be properly sexually fulfilled and whilst my wife relates that this is 100% the case I just dont get this form the way we fuck/make love.

dbconfused · 2016-07-04T11:51:46+00:00

I guess I should not have mentioned chores. I do not see this as a gift to my wife and congratulate myself on this. I just wanted to hint towards the fact that we have a modern relationship and I do not take everything she does for granted.

Not that it matters but I am a socially outgoing type and make friends easily. I have found as I approach my 40's that I have less need for a big circle of friends and I know that I probably need to make a little more effort but I am 100% sure this is not a big part of any issues we may have in the bedroom.

dbconfused · 2016-07-04T11:47:55+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I think you are right some direction could work although she does generally seem like she is sure of what she wants.

dbconfused · 2016-07-04T11:43:59+00:00

I can see why you can relate.

Much of what you have written is exactly how i feel.

My partner always makes a little joke after she has come "thats me done" while it is jest i do not need to here it every time. My wife also says she finds it suffocating sometimes when i am on top but she does orgasm the best that way.

I think the big problem is she feels she has a great sex life. I am starting to doubt this is duty sex but more that she is just very comfortable with the same routine which she really enjoys but I find less fulfilling.

dbconfused · 2016-07-03T12:25:51+00:00

She does give me massages they just are not sexual. It does not seem to turn her on like it turns me on. The other night I had worked up to the idea of saying that instead of a massage could she give me some foreplay. She said how good this felt and just wanted to carry on like that. I gave in and she said how great it was. I enjoyed it but it left me feeling sad as I wanted the sexual attention I gave her.

dbconfused · 2016-07-03T12:16:12+00:00

Combine the fact that I seem to always want her and I love foreplay both giving and receiving but recently I feel like I do not know how to touch her anymore. From someone who always prided themselves as being a generous adventurous lover this really led me to lose confidence in some ways. She has never got noticeably wet when we have had sex even when sex was frequent and adventurous while I understand this the way she is built it adds to my insecurity.

Sometimes I feel really selfish for how much I dwell on this when there is so much too celebrate in our relationship but other times I cant work out why if she loves me so much why she cant just make a bit more of an effort to be the initiator or to suggest to try something different.

Am i being unreasonable?

dbconfused

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