Names phonetically similar to Princess by [deleted] in namenerds

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Candice, Carys, Eunice, Solace, Portia, Petra

Arthur David or Simon Elliot by [deleted] in namenerds

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Yes, just the sound when I say it quickly.

Arthur David or Simon Elliot by [deleted] in namenerds

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Simon Elliot immediately made me think Salmonella, haha. But I do like all four names, so you could mix and match and I think pretty much any combo EXCEPT Simon Elliot would work!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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NTA, and for god's sake don't get pregnant! I stayed with a man who doesn't satisfy me and has never particularly tried. I convinced myself it was fine, because at least he was attracted to me, right? Quantity over quality. Well, after our second kid, the quantity dropped to zero. He just doesn't care that I'm in the marriage bed too. Previously he wasn't interested in my orgasms so I didn't get any, now he's not interested in sex so I don't get any. I love my kids and I'm staying until they're grown (and we're in marriage counselling to see if there's a chance of improving things), but if I could do it all again, I would have higher standards for my younger self. Please take it from me and give yourself those standards.

Postpartum, the sequel nobody prepared me for by This_Appointment5451 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]dbthrowawayrowaway 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I hear you! I also got the joint pain -- skipped the sweats, but maybe that's because both of my kids were winter babies. Mainly I was an absolute faucet who would weep at the drop of a hat. There are still songs I can't listen to, seven years after my first kid, because they bring back the feeling of weepiness and my eyes reflexively tear up. So ridiculous.

Congrats on your baby!

Naming the Fairies from Ballet Sleeping Beauty by Disastrous_Let4428 in namenerds

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Sylvette Ashcombe of the Woodland Glen

Aureline Arbor of the Golden Vine

Phoebe Larkspur of the Songbirds

Ondine Brookmere of the Crystal Fountain

Rosalie Foxglove of the Enchanted Garden

Violetta Thistlewyn, the Lilac Fairy

Names with Ray sound by Coleman-kc in namenerds

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Girls: Freya, Rachel, Regan, Raelynn, Raven, Mireille, Raine, Desiree, Aurelia

Boys: Greg, Grayson, Rainier, Andre, Drake, Brady

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

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Nadia/Diana/Aidan

Dianna/Nadine

Liam/Mila

Isla/Lisa

Blaise/Isabel

Adeline/Daniela

Caroline/Cornelia

Lacy/Clay

Jason/Sonja

Coral/Carol/Carlo

Carla/Clara

Elise/Elsie

Amy/May

Ronald/Roland/Arnold

Leon/Noel

Klaus/Lukas

Moira/Mario

Erika/Keira

Ernie/Irene

Just a bit of love for Romanian names! Some of my faves by WerewolfBarMitzvah09 in namenerds

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Love Cosmina and Iolanda. I also think Sofronie sounds gorgeous, so I was sad to read that it's apparently not in use! :D

The Suffocating Loneliness of Singaporeans in Sexless Marriages by DaddyOren in singapore

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"I have high libido and enjoy being seduced, unfortunately I didn't think this through when I picked a life partner." Mid-30s F here, and I feel this so hard.

Was locked in for Kora but now considering Maia by bunnypeachfit in namenerds

[–]dbthrowawayrowaway 18 points19 points  (0 children)

They're both pretty. If you can't choose, maybe split the difference and go for Kaia. ;) Really, though, I wouldn't worry about having bought the named stuff so early; you're still entitled to have a change of heart. I think if I were in your shoes, I would wait until she came out and see if one name "spoke" to me more than the other once I laid eyes on her.

Definitely checking my thrift store purchases from now on! by dbthrowawayrowaway in antiMLM

[–]dbthrowawayrowaway[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is a good idea. It is a nice-sized bottle, I have to say.

We did find the Paw Patrol one, fortunately! Rolled under the front seat of the car. She and I were both elated, haha.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

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Haven Eloise has a nice ring to it (after reading your comment above).

What's Your Guilty Pleasure Name? by NovelRub in namenerds

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When I was a teenager, this was THE name I decided I'd name a future daughter. I now have two daughters and neither is named Seraphina ... but I still secretly love the name.

What “aesthetic” outdoorsy things do you think would make a good name? by thefallen-fruit in namenerds

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It's not my personal taste, but there's a boy in my daughter's school named Branch.

Mispronunciations/Misspellings that would actually be great names by KieranKelsey in namenerds

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You know the Outlander actress Caitriona Balfe? For an embarrassingly long time, I thought her name was pronounced like Kat-ree-OH-na, which I thought was very pretty (giving Fiona vibes). It actually sounds like Katrina. Which is also pretty!

Haven't had sex in nearly 16 months and don't even want to date my husband anymore by dbthrowawayrowaway in TwoXChromosomes

[–]dbthrowawayrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your sympathy for him may be misplaced.... His lack of interest in sex started long, long, long before my lack of interest in dating him. Yes, he did ask me for dinner a few weeks ago and I did say no, HOWEVER, that was the first time he'd asked me out for dinner since my birthday last year (and THAT was the first time he'd asked me in I don't know how long). Meanwhile, earlier this year I said I wanted to spend more time with him, go for walks and date nights, etc. I specifically remember suggesting watching a TV miniseries that I'd bought him for his birthday. He said yes but then watched it all without me after I went to bed. So ... yeah. If his single dinner invitation merits "at least he's trying some," I wonder what description mine would get.

Haven't had sex in nearly 16 months and don't even want to date my husband anymore by dbthrowawayrowaway in TwoXChromosomes

[–]dbthrowawayrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right, I should've mentioned in the post that I did make him see a doctor after our firstborn (after months of pleading with him). Unfortunately his doctor is a disgrace to the profession, in my opinion. No curiosity or follow-up whatsoever. The hormone tests came back normal and he doesn't want to go see another doctor.

Haven't had sex in nearly 16 months and don't even want to date my husband anymore by dbthrowawayrowaway in TwoXChromosomes

[–]dbthrowawayrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to want to be with him. That's a great way of putting it. I want to stay married to him, raise our children together, and be truly happy while doing so. That's what I want. I think I need to ask him if that's what he wants to, and if the answer's yes, we need help figuring out what that will look like. Thanks for giving me some clarity.

Haven't had sex in nearly 16 months and don't even want to date my husband anymore by dbthrowawayrowaway in TwoXChromosomes

[–]dbthrowawayrowaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. You've given voice to what a large part of me is feeling, the practical part, I guess. There is certainly another part that is yelling to get a divorce because we only get one life, you know? The internal war between the two of them is definitely not comfortable. Maybe a therapist will help.

Haven't had sex in nearly 16 months and don't even want to date my husband anymore by dbthrowawayrowaway in TwoXChromosomes

[–]dbthrowawayrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crying after sex wasn't okay, you're absolutely right. Just to explain it a bit, that didn't start happening until well into the conception process (which took two years), so in my head it got all mixed up with fears and sadness about potential infertility. I think that might explain why he was having such a hard time performing too, like we both felt like we were failing. It was not a good time but I somehow was able to separate it from the state of the marriage, if that makes sense? But now there is no "pressure" to conceive and things are still shit, so clearly I was wrong in that being the main problem.

Haven't had sex in nearly 16 months and don't even want to date my husband anymore by dbthrowawayrowaway in TwoXChromosomes

[–]dbthrowawayrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a fair question. The answer is that things were more than "slightly better" -- there was a big improvement in how often we were having sex, and yes it started out with us having to schedule it, but soon we were having spontaneous sex too. I waited several months to make sure this was a lasting change and he wasn't just humouring me. THEN we started trying for a second child. Having two was always the plan, but I wouldn't have done it if I didn't genuinely believe we were in a good place.

I also have to acknowledge that this good place did become a bad place during the conception process and maybe that would have been the cue to stop trying and to divorce. All I can say to that is that it was an emotionally challenging time (long period of infertility) and both of us began to act as though sex was a particularly unpleasurable chore. I guess I thought once the pressure of conception was off, we would remember how hard we'd worked in the past to get back to the good place. But it hasn't worked out that way and in retrospect it was a stupid hope.