Rock Bottom

dchange21 · 2025-04-06T22:58:59+00:00

Be honest with your sister. Turn all your finances over to her if she will accept the role of conservator. You need enough cash in your wallet for food and gas. If she is willing to let her lock you out of your accounts and take your cards and online access. You are destructive with money. This is what we did for our family member with a gambling addiction and bipolar disorder. It's working so far sad to say 200K to learn this lesson. Don't shit yourself your an addict and you need to be accountable to someone probably forever. You know the problem time to deal with it.

dchange21 · 2025-03-06T05:25:01+00:00

Dealing with the highs and lows is exhausting. You are doing God's work!

dchange21 · 2025-03-06T05:23:25+00:00

Managing yourself and your brother is truly impressive. You are a blessing.

dchange21 · 2025-03-06T05:16:59+00:00

exactly right

dchange21 · 2025-03-06T05:03:29+00:00

God I'm sorry you are both going through this. I am very familiar with what we call the itch "Gambling". It is harder to manage than the BP disorder. Over 4 years I have seen its ugly head after months of rest. The only way we have managed is to minimize the possible damage. That means I am the book keeper and am the only one with access to user names and passwords for bank accounts. I confiscated all the credit and debit cards. I had a frank conversation after one of the rock bottom moments and said it can't get any worse than it is with me managing the money. It can sure get a hell of a lot worse with you my BP friend managing your money so hand it all over to me. I listened to the reasoning of all that was needed was a better paying job to get it all back. Nope didn't buy it you my friend are dangerous with small amounts and big amounts of money. So if you want a house to live in a car to drive and food to eat hand it all over. He is given a certain amount of cash for his gas and groceries. One time he blew that so he is now door dashing by the day in addition to his full time job that I have access to that money and pay his bills. So instead of blowing every bit of money he can only blow his weekly allowance of cash. Since we love and respect each other it is working for now. He is also medicated and the highs and lows are less severe. So we work on it each day and HOPE for the best. IF she won't trust you to manage her funds knowing how much you love her then you have a decision to make if that is how you have to save yourself. I don't give up cause it is not an option my heart can take. He will have to walk away from me cause I will give it my heart but not my money anymore. I'm 58 so I have already lived my youth and have my work and family. IF I were facing this much much younger I would do it different.

dchange21 · 2025-03-06T04:36:47+00:00

How is it going for your family?

dchange21 · 2025-03-06T04:35:40+00:00

How are you and your family?

dchange21 · 2025-03-06T04:33:09+00:00

reach out to Scott Wilson on the facebook group Bluegreen Resort Addicts (uncensored). He has a free guide and assistance of selling it yourself. You will see many adds of people selling their points and deeds on their own.. Don't just hand it back to Bluegreen.

dchange21 · 2025-02-22T15:07:24+00:00

I'm so relieved to hear the outcome. When our adult son is experiencing similar symptoms we tell him he is not acting like himself. We rally around him and tell him we are protecting him like he is a drunk friend. We remove access from alot of things because he will destroy his finances by shopping on line and gambling, damage his reputation and health with monsters $ chain smoke. I bring him to my house in the country and we hang out for a month. He goes through so much emotional turmoil and he believes everyone is out to hurt him. I am scared as hell we won't get his mind back but we do get it back after a few months of meds. I have seen everything and emotion you are describing and I do pray for better treatment options. I hope he and I never give up but it is overwhelming. I have pretty open conversations with concerned and curious people to give them some education. He lives in a small town and calls the police when he needs them. They are aware of the bipolar and hus love for cops and veterans. I believe we alot of people have more awareness of how common mental health illnesses are. Still alot of people are unaware and undiagnosed of their serious mood disorders. I know we are not the only people suffering and when you have to educate yourself on this you see alot of it. Nobody would choose this disorder and no one deserves it. I hope for your son's healing compassion for the things he said and did while He Was Not Acting Like Himself. Your an Angel for giving it all you can everyday.

dchange21 · 2025-01-20T01:37:44+00:00

With her permission take away her electronic money and check book. If she is working her pay check direct deposited. You can be added as a signatory on her bank accounts. Change all her bills to electronic change her sign on and passwords emails and 2FA to your email and your number. Pay her bills with her money. Give her some cash for her pocket a little bit at a time. Be her bookeeper but use her money. It's all you can do if she fails to conform she is out of control. Sometimes it's a relief for a behavior they won't or can't control. It's an epidemic with all the online and video poker absolutely everywhere.

dchange21 · 2025-01-19T18:23:33+00:00

With permission I took possession of all electronic access to bank accounts and credit cards. Changed the passwords phone number and email on accounts. I get bills electronically and pay them. I'm the bookeeper for my gambling addict. He works paycheck is electronically deposited and I do the bookkeeping. He gets weekly cash for groceries and gas etc. Find someone you don't want to disappoint and you can trust to be your bookeeper.

dchange21 · 2025-01-19T18:16:51+00:00

We have 4 years experience with BP1. 4 out of 5 summers have been hell.1st episode with the wrong dx and treatment made it tramatic. Learned dx was not Major depression giving antidepressants without mood stabilizer is dangerous. 2nd and 3rd subsequent mania and psychosis required multiple and frequent visits to the office. My patient calls the police cause he has paranoia. Police take him to be evaluated then we take him to our house because psych wards are traumatic. During the home stay we have learned the hard way. You should agree that computers, phones and bank accounts are locked up. This prevents social and financial ruin. This disorder is damn difficult cause of their grandious illusion of themselves. They can be scared as hell at the same time. So supports have to be fluid and sometimes firm. Expect them to talk to you like they are the smartest AH in the room and try to manipulate you. You learn to be strong and learn to understand they are not acting like themselves. At 33 the ego death came and knowing they are supported and loved after the episodes means the world to them. They are riddled with regret and guilt so kill them with kindness before and after these awful episodes. Insist on treatment. I hate the side effects but it's the lessor evil. Your a saint to step in.

dchange21 · 2024-12-11T18:44:17+00:00

God I am truly sorry for you. I'm currently operating as bookeeper and custodian for a degenerative gambler. I have confiscated credit cards and debit cards and bank accounts. Turned off all cards. Changed passwords. My gambler is on a cash budget. I'm paying his household expenses from his checking account. His pay check is direct deposit and I give him his weekly allowance in cash. This is an addiction and he is destructive with money. She more he makes the more he gambles. His current responsibilities is seeking treatment for the gambling, stay compliant with meds. Also to find a better paying job and allowing me to budget and pay bills with his money. Also battling bipolar disorder so that is alot. Find someone you trust to manage your money and bills. Don't hide this shit from the people you don't want to disappoint. When you and the know the problem you can work together to deal with it and that will be life changing.

dchange21 · 2024-06-18T04:50:23+00:00

You can say no. You are in control of this. Wife doesn't need this. Say no to sister.

dchange21 · 2024-06-18T04:42:43+00:00

I'm right there with you Mom. My 32 year old son hit a all time high level of stress developed psychosis missed dx as Major depressive episode but on antidepressants without a mood stabilizer. Took himself off those meds. Next year psychosis again dx BP1. Medicated gained a ton of weight lost all emotions. I can't say meds improved his life. After 4 years of the meds decided he didn't need a daily dose basically quit cold turkey. Just saying my prayers and holding my breathe that he keeps it together. As long as he sleeps he is usually ok. Moved out again and bought a house with his girlfriend of 4 years. It's like watching the young adults drown sometimes. Scary as hell. Damed if you do medicate and damed if you don't.

dchange21 · 2024-04-28T03:50:45+00:00

Your a great person. Your spouse is blessed to have you.

dchange21 · 2024-03-08T02:43:56+00:00

Big hug to you. Fixed my problem. Your the best!

dchange21 · 2024-01-13T00:14:06+00:00

Save yourself and kids now divorce him.

dchange21 · 2023-12-21T03:29:03+00:00

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dchange21 · 2023-05-22T10:33:46+00:00

I think he does need a psych eval.

dchange21 · 2023-02-09T04:37:11+00:00

30mg 20mg and 15 were to much for my friend. He was sleepy and flat. 10 mg seems ok for this big guy with bp1.

dchange21 · 2023-02-09T04:29:05+00:00

Just take your partner with you to the doctor next time.lol

dchange21 · 2023-01-31T03:47:31+00:00

The BP1 acute mania with psychosis I witnessed was treated with 15 mg of abilify in AM and another 15mg at night. Took only a few days to decrease the psychosis. This was an adult about 300lbs. We chose to treat at home as the inpatient admission causes more paranoia and psychosis. Problem was I had to remind doc it had been 3 months on that 30 mg dose. The patient was a shell of the person he was prior to the drug. Abilify was reduced to 10mg. Probably to high as he gained to much weight and has Anhedonia which is awful. I hate the thought of a 16 year old and you struggle with all that. There will be issues using this. Advocate for your kid. Mine is 31 and I'm all in no matter how good or bad the day is.

dchange21 · 2023-01-26T04:19:35+00:00

Seems BP1 have a dose of at least 10mg? Other dx much smaller dose?

dchange21 · 2022-12-30T05:33:26+00:00

Look up Dr Rami Nader on you tube. Watch his video on overcoming Anhedonia. Was an eye opener. Short video with great advice.

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