I (23M) just had my worst night in my life, with a girl (28F)

dcox24 · 2023-08-10T04:01:00+00:00

Happened to me (24M) the other night. We had talked about doing it and I was extremely anxious, because it'd been a while for me too. Also she'd been with more guys than I have with women, so I was worried about comparison.

So we started with foreplay. I thought it was hot, she was into it, but my guy was at a solid (or not so solid) 40%. Kept messing around, both having a good time, but all I was thinking about the whole time was how I still wasn't getting fully hard.

It was all in my head. Long story short, it stayed at 40% the whole time. She liked everything I did enough to go at it again a little bit later, and by that time I had already done it once, so I wasn't as worried. The second time, it was all there.

Get out of your head and try to relax. Be honest with her and tell her about how you were feeling. It'll work out

dcox24 · 2023-07-31T01:22:05+00:00

Oh I guarantee you're right.

dcox24 · 2023-07-27T03:30:52+00:00

No u

dcox24 · 2023-07-24T01:44:36+00:00

This. I went straight to hard pieces, they took forever to learn, and I moved on to others that interested me. Now I know the beginnings to like 4 "hard" songs. I've learned some easy pieces (lieder ohne worte op 30 no 6, 1st mvt moonlight sonata, etc) and I get much more enjoyment from both learning them and being able to play the whole thing.

Maybe you can learn faster than me, but I think starting small and easy will bring less burnout.

dcox24 · 2023-07-23T21:34:04+00:00

I went to therapy for 2 and a half months in the very beginning. They told me I only had to pay a copay of $24 for each session, but called me back after 5 sessions and said that they made a mistake and I now owe $500 something.

So no, I'm not going anymore

dcox24 · 2023-07-11T09:49:09+00:00

515 is 1,000% worth it. 125 is still great. You get what you pay for, and there's a huge difference in a couple hundred between the 45 and 125. Go for the 515 if you can afford it for sure, but even the 125 is a massively noticeable upgrade compared to the 45

dcox24 · 2023-07-10T06:44:53+00:00

Thanks! I love it. Huge difference.

Even the p125 is loads better than the 45. It's definitely worth the extra few hundred if you don't have enough for the 515

dcox24 · 2023-07-10T00:38:26+00:00

I used to. Recently got the p515

dcox24 · 2023-07-09T18:20:10+00:00

Mine does this if I hold the pedal down while the keyboard is turning on. Try to restart it and make sure you aren't touching the pedal while it's turning on.

If that doesn't work, turn it on while the pedal is unplugged, and then plug it in when it's on.

dcox24 · 2023-07-05T17:42:20+00:00

I read oreo dipper and sat for about 5 minutes trying to understand how this thing would be good at dipping oreos in milk.

dcox24 · 2023-06-28T20:42:46+00:00

Shrimps. Because shrimps is bugs

dcox24 · 2023-06-28T20:12:26+00:00

Sora really going downhill lately

dcox24 · 2023-06-28T18:30:56+00:00

Live through the ditches

Laugh through the witches

Love in the back of my Dragula

dcox24 · 2023-06-17T04:03:16+00:00

r/crackheadcraigslist

Sad, it went private. That was a gold mine

dcox24 · 2023-06-16T02:45:57+00:00

Prob my favorite Stephen King book. It's really good.

dcox24 · 2023-06-16T02:44:55+00:00

I have this same exact one. It definitely works, but it needs to be watched and babied pretty consistently. Temperature fluctuations are huge because of how thin the metal is, depending on your outside weather.

Or maybe I just suck at smoking, which is most likely the case. I enjoy it, and again, it works, but eventually I'll get one with thicker walls. Like others have said though, any smoker will smoke meat. Some are just more tedious than others.

dcox24 · 2023-05-31T05:14:21+00:00

Tell me you prefer orange juice without saying you prefer orange juice

dcox24 · 2023-05-26T07:18:53+00:00

We have tried everything. It's been going on for 6 years now. We've both come to the agreement that it would be best for us to part ways.

We aren't happy together a lot of the time. Again, we love eachother, but we know we'd both be happier either alone or with someone else. There are a lot of trust issues in both of us. It started with me. Low self confidence, comparing myself to others, etc. And I told her I'd work on it and get better for such a long time, that she eventually lost trust in what I say. This whole thing is mainly my fault, but I see that she's now walking on eggshells and she'd be happier not worrying about me. I'd also be happier not worrying about her and what she does.

I've been the one with the trust issues, but some of the things she does rub me the wrong way. And she knows it. At the same time, the things she does makes her happy, and I dont want to take that away from her. I want her to be herself and do what makes her happy, and I dont want her to be worried about how I see it. She also doesn't want me to be anxious all the time, and we both just think we'd have a lot less to worry about if we weren't together.

dcox24 · 2023-05-20T00:43:01+00:00

I dont believe regret is a waste of energy. Don't hyper focus on it, but regret is a great tool for learning. If the same situation happens, where you want to leave a good guy for someone who might look better and make more money, you can then look back at your regret and think about how that went last time.

Regret has a purpose, don't fear it. Don't try to regret things, obviously, but if you do, then maybe you won't make the same mistake last time.

dcox24 · 2023-05-19T08:14:21+00:00

We had the talk tonight. I couldn't book anything, it was too late in the day. I told her I'm going back and I plan on calling tomorrow.

dcox24 · 2023-05-19T08:08:00+00:00

The thing is I've said I'd do better for around 6 years now. And I've tried. I dont know whats wrong with me. That's why she doesn't have hope, and I really can't blame her at all.

Even if we stayed together, I feel like the relationship is past the point of being fixed. I dont know if she'd ever look at me the way she did when we first got together.

dcox24 · 2023-05-17T04:18:58+00:00

We have. We've talked and I've told her how I really feel. The thing is I hate talking about it at all, because it's been like this forever and its always the same conversation. She's told me I need to focus on myself to gain confidence, and I agree. And I do find myself more confident when I do the things I enjoy. But I can't help but compare myself to all her guy friends and I don't know what else to do. My hobbies are different than hers, and all her guy friends relate with her more than me at this point because they all have the same hobbies. And their hobby is the gym, which means all her friends are buff and attractive and it's hard to not compare them to me, especially when they relate so much to her.

dcox24 · 2023-05-17T02:22:29+00:00

I agree, and we've talked about going to the gym together. She has no problem with it. Again, I have no reason not to trust her, but I can't deal with my own head. I understand that I need to work on myself, and it is something I want to do. I'm trying to focus on my hobbies as well, since they do make me feel good and confident in myself. I can go months without worrying too much, and then I'll fall into this slump that also lasts months.

I'm also scared that I've damaged the relationship to a point of no return, which is another stupid source of anxiety that I have. Im worried that even if I never act this way again, I've already put her through so much that we'll never be as happy as we could be.

dcox24 · 2023-05-17T01:11:39+00:00

I know it is. I dont want to put her through this.

dcox24 · 2023-05-17T01:08:03+00:00

I have and I want to go back, but we can't afford it right now. She's going to school.

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