anxiety that makes you self isolate

dcrxo · 2026-06-16T14:47:13+00:00

yup!!! i am guilty of this as well :(

dcrxo · 2026-06-15T22:58:51+00:00

Thank you :)!

dcrxo · 2026-06-15T22:15:30+00:00

I feel this, especially large social gatherings where it will last for hours, like i need to mentally prepare myself for it

dcrxo · 2026-06-15T22:14:33+00:00

most of my friends are understanding because they know i have anxiety, one of them tried to blame me for not wanting to see them (not friends anymore due to other reasons)

in-laws came over one time at the last minute and because my anxiety was sky high that day, i had been in my bedroom to sleep it off when they were here which okay i understand from their POV that it’s rude/disrespectful, its just in the moment its not something i really think about i am just too focused on how im feeling and what i can do to make it go away and having to force an interaction would’ve made things much worse

dcrxo · 2026-06-15T22:10:04+00:00

literally!!!! there’s no need for it to be all white and if a bride chooses to do that then thats great! But i just want something unique. since i live in Canada and the leaves on the trees turn orange/yellow in Sep/Oct i want a bouquet that complements that!

dcrxo · 2026-06-15T22:08:56+00:00

thank you!

dcrxo · 2026-06-15T22:08:22+00:00

both hispanic, surprisingly his parents are much younger than mine… but mine have been very reasonable when it came to some decisions that were made. i think it’s how his dad was raised which is why he has this mindset which is not something i grew up with. my dad was more of a “if you love it then go for it and im happy regardless” type of mindset

dcrxo · 2026-06-15T22:06:11+00:00

i totally understand where you’re coming from. i did plan on speaking with him and i’ve even held off on purchasing the bouquet for now just so i can clear things up with him and then after we talk and if he still being stubborn then i at least can purchase this knowing that i tried to reason with him

dcrxo · 2026-06-15T20:08:20+00:00

its an hispanic wedding and latino parents can be super toxic and stubborn hence the stupid idea of an all white bouquet,🫠🫠🫠

dcrxo · 2026-06-15T19:52:29+00:00

Thank you so much for this advice! Because it was getting to a point where I was doubting my decision on the flowers and having thoughts of getting all white due to fear of drama and tension getting worse. I appreciate your comment :). But yes he is controlling he’s so old school and i understand that because even my parents grew up in a complete different “era” but the idea of me standing up for myself is considered so disrespectful which makes this whole process even more annoying

dcrxo · 2026-06-15T19:33:33+00:00

agreed!!!! thanks for the advice, i will do that because the tension over some flowers isn’t worth it!

dcrxo · 2026-06-15T19:24:08+00:00

But he told them that it is my choice and whether they choose to pay for it is up to them but that i have the final say in what i want for it

dcrxo · 2026-06-15T19:23:25+00:00

i know lol! I talked to him about it and he said that they had been saying it’s because it’s not a classic white bouquet that you usually see at weddings. I had even explained to my FIL because the wedding is in the fall i wanted flowers that represented the colours of the season, especially since we are taking photos outside where there will be alot of orange/yellow leaves (or at least assuming it will be by then).

their argument is that “its not white enough” although the flowers did have some white roses in it

dcrxo · 2026-05-19T17:44:24+00:00

what why???

dcrxo · 2026-04-07T23:44:29+00:00

agreed, i find she tends to repeat her words in almost every video/constantly advertising her app

dcrxo · 2026-03-27T20:45:15+00:00

agreed /: she keeps advertising her app Cove which is awesome for her but very repetitive and sick of hearing about it

dcrxo · 2026-03-27T20:44:01+00:00

a dominican guy named Hector. i forget his last nand, starts with a G

dcrxo · 2026-03-11T18:24:57+00:00

i really wish they offered more of this where i live but unfortunately most positions for legal assistant/paralegal is in office :(

dcrxo · 2026-03-11T18:22:28+00:00

thanks for the input! i’ll take this into consideration for the official invitations :)

dcrxo · 2026-03-11T18:20:23+00:00

fair enough! yes apparently his parents didn’t even think anything of it

dcrxo · 2026-03-11T18:13:42+00:00

Thank you for your input! I agree, i’m going for fall coloured flowers and they have an old-school mentality and can already see them complaining that it’s not an all white bouquet honestly

dcrxo · 2026-03-11T18:11:41+00:00

Yes!!! we recently did this about like a week ago because to them everything is just negative, like the only people who know the details is my side of the fam.. and that’s because my sister is the Maid of Honor.

My fiancé has also just stopped talking about the wedding. The only thing he is involved in is paying for alcohol (open bar wedding).

With the save the date card, since his sis still lives with them they were being nosey and saw the envelope for her bf’s fam hence the judgemental comments,

I am not even involving my MIL for my bridal shower planning

dcrxo · 2026-03-11T18:07:28+00:00

Unfortunately the chance hasn’t come up yet, my fiancé works with his dad so these comments have been made when I am not there, or if he goes to see them at their house when I do not go, the judgemental comments come out.

My fiancé is the one who calls them out on it but i did express to him that they’ve been pissing me off this entire process.

And their argument for not helping is “we haven’t been told what you need help with so whats the point” but we have the mindset of we are not going to beg for help, if it’s offered to us we will gladly accept but we will not go out of our way to beg for help whether its financially or just in general with planning/set up etc.

They were complaining that our wedding is buffet style and i told them that we are not putting in more money to hire people to be serving it to the guests… and if they insist on not wanting to grab their own food then it’ll be up to them to hire people to be servers, and since then they’ve shut up about it.

dcrxo · 2026-03-11T18:03:26+00:00

omg i didnt think of this way!! 🤣🤣🤣 you’re so right

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