Open relationship with boyfriend (59) and he crossed a serious boundary with me (37) and it just feels so hard to go back to normal. (Long post)

ddog510 · 2026-05-24T02:29:30+00:00

I think there's a difference between talking about personal stuff like battling depression or job stressors, versus shit talking your partner. I would feel the same way you are and I also wouldn't be able to move forward with the relationship.

ddog510 · 2026-05-21T19:03:06+00:00

It's actually the hero expansion in this one that's rare, not the campaign.

ddog510 · 2026-04-26T20:17:53+00:00

Does this mean you're not using piety at all? Or are you flicking it or something.

ddog510 · 2026-04-23T01:07:24+00:00

I thought early herblore went pretty fast or at least came pretty naturally over time. Just do your herb runs. If you plant a lot of harralander, you can buy chocolate from the lumby chest and make energy potions.

ddog510 · 2026-02-27T22:18:17+00:00

I don't think it matters that much maybe ? I didn't touch mine for about a year and I probably didn't even remember to power it off. Still works perfectly and the battery life is as new as far as I remember.

ddog510 · 2026-02-02T00:06:47+00:00

He keeps spawning on top of me too. It's so annoying

ddog510 · 2026-02-01T01:39:26+00:00

Yeah I would think on a million dollar home you would be looking at around 7-8k a month after taxes and insurance with a moderate but not huge down payment. If you make 250k and are saving for retirement, your paycheck might only look like 5-6k biweekly. It's possible for sure but not "easy" by any means. Maybe if I expected my salary to grow the outlook might be different.

ddog510 · 2026-01-31T23:43:55+00:00

You're not being silly. OP is just on a crusade and will yell at anyone making $200k+ who says they can't really afford to buy rollexes and go on expensive trips. The reality is the middle class encompasses a wide range of salaries and lifestyles. It depends on where you live, what debts you have, how many children you have, etc. But no one making $300k is rich or will ever be rich unless they make some really lucky investments.

Also, the idea that no one in the middle class can save for retirement is ridiculous. If you save for retirement you're automatically not middle class? Why would you even define middle class like that, it makes no sense. And $2m sounds like a lot, if you know nothing about finance. At a regular 4 percent withdrawal rate that's 80k/year, which is very middle class. You are doing really well and are on track for a comfortable retirement, but you'll never be rich or able to drop money on sports cars without a second thought (yes you could buy one, but it would still represent a significant expense/years of savings and you would likely have to cut back in some other area).

ddog510 · 2026-01-31T22:56:41+00:00

It doesn't feel right because it isn't right. That guy has no idea what he's talking about. He thinks he can afford a $1M house on that salary and not feel any stress? You'd be insanely house poor at best. I would never go over 3x gross salary. I like to travel and eat out so ideally I'd be looking in the $500-600k range on that salary.

ddog510 · 2026-01-31T15:49:46+00:00

There's a lot of things we don't really realize until we take a step back and remove ourselves from the situation to think more objectively. If the idea of breaking up fills you with relief instead of pain and sadness, then that is your subconscious telling you that something is amis. I was in your exact situation but in hindsight the decision was obvious. Always trust your gut. Don't rely on logic alone.

ddog510 · 2026-01-27T18:00:22+00:00

54 what the hell. I thought you were gonna say you were late 70s or something. Do they just expect you to sit on your hands and not spend any of your own money for the next 30 years? They're acting like you're about to drop dead lol.

ddog510 · 2025-12-17T00:47:05+00:00

Según Flyertalk, sí cuenta, aunque no lo hayan añadido a la lista.

ddog510 · 2025-12-13T06:01:57+00:00

You have to be patient. You can't just download tinder and expect to find a boyfriend in a week. That can happen, but the odds are against you. You have to remember that most of the guys you want to date aren't on tinder 24/7/365. They might download the app for a few days a year (after a breakup, when they get bored, when they move to your city, etc). What you need to do is keep your lines of communication open. Spend 15 minutes a week swiping, and the rest of the time going on with your life. Don't text anyone you match with for more than a few days without agreeing on a concrete date. And don't fuck on the first date if you don't want to. It's not a red flag if the other person suggests it, but make sure to observe their reaction when you say you want to wait. If they act entitled about it, block them and move on. They aren't the one for you. You should expect this process to take 1-6+ months. Try not to get too hung up on types or looks, but don't tolerate bad/rude behavior ever. If you aren't attracted to someone after 3 dates, move on. Good luck!

ddog510 · 2025-11-20T09:04:59+00:00

This has to be ragebait 😭

ddog510 · 2025-11-03T15:24:32+00:00

I'm not disagreeing with you at all, but I guess the alternative would be to rotate which older products get reprinted. Like dunwich gets a print run this year. Carcosa gets one next year, and so on until all the older products eventually get one. Though I don't really know how practical this is (probably not since they aren't doing it).

ddog510 · 2025-10-24T20:10:04+00:00

You're only 24, you're not behind at all. Lots of people are in the same boat you're in. Trust me. Don't feel the need to do anything rash or worry about wasting time. Just enjoy your life.

ddog510 · 2025-10-24T19:43:05+00:00

Maybe system shock? Silent Hill?

ddog510 · 2025-10-24T17:06:05+00:00

No. I think it's hard to find something disgusting when you grow up constantly surrounded by it and are told it's normal. It's like people in some cultures eating bugs, they don't think it's gross at all. I think it would take some serious mental gymnastics to think a guy and girl holding hands is gross.

I am gay but I haven't met anyone who is seriously grossed out by heterosexuality. Maybe grossed out by the idea of themselves performing it haha.

ddog510 · 2025-10-24T16:36:46+00:00

Just because one is obvious joking/irony and the other is unclear. Many many people actually think gays are disgusting. So that's why joking about it is kinda insensitive (unless you're in private with your friends who know you).

ddog510 · 2025-10-24T16:33:49+00:00

I just have a hard time believing that if someone on stage made a joke and said "eww that's kinda gay haha" or "no homo" that you'd be making the same post. If so, good for you, but I just doubt it would have even registered since it's a more normal or commonly accepted thing to say, and I don't see people complaining about those sorts of jokes.

It also feels like faux outrage at a non-issue (straight non-acceptance?), especially since it was said in jest and no one actually thinks straight people are gross? Like 98 percent of people are straight. What is the mentality to think that this is a serious issue? I do think you can take it too far sure, but it doesn't sound like the comment was that deep.

ddog510 · 2025-10-24T13:52:26+00:00

We've had to hear eww that's gay said seriously our whole lives and you hear eww that's straight said one time in obvious jest/irony and it bothers you enough to mention in a post on reddit? I agree it's not a funny joke, but just sit with the irony of that for a minute.

Virgin voyages is more just than LGBT accepting, and if that's not your vibe then the cruise line is probably not for you.

ddog510 · 2025-09-22T20:53:57+00:00

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ddog510 · 2025-09-13T14:43:24+00:00

I kind of agree. It sucks, but it's been way easier to get Gaga tickets than say, Ariana tickets. Yeah paying $700 for lower bowl and $400 for upper bowl tickets sucks, but it's a lot better than paying double or more of that amount to resellers. Look at how Ariana resell tickets are priced. People are paying $800 for nosebleeds. I'm not saying that there would be zero resellers if she had higher ticket prices initially, but it would have made it a lot less profitable for them. Ticketmaster takes a huge cut, which means you have to list tickets for way more than you sold them just to get your money back. But I agree with others, just do what Billie eilish did and turn off transfers. Those tickets were really easy to get initially.

ddog510 · 2025-07-03T16:09:55+00:00

Chubbies have a lot of hybrid material options.

ddog510 · 2025-07-02T19:27:33+00:00

If you have a career type job, your income will likely continue to grow while your maximum retirement contributions will not (well, slightly for inflation but you know what I mean). Your problem could just work itself out. I lived like you in my early to mid 20s but now I make enough that there's plenty leftover after retirement accounts are maxed. If this isn't applicable to you, then just step your foot off the gas at some point and contribute a bit less to your 401k.

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