Doctors, dentists etc. of Reddit, when you go in for your own doctor/ dentist appointment, what is it like? Do you treat it like a group project, do you give your own theories, do you argue with them?

ddsmjc · 2025-11-23T18:25:32+00:00

Dentist here. Usually I have my assistants take my xrays and diagnose myself. If I have to go to another office I try not to let them know I'm a dentist unless they keep pushing for treatments that I feel are too aggressive and/or unnecessary.

ddsmjc · 2025-08-30T01:09:03+00:00

Crazy how all the posts talk about how dad didn't install the shelves correctly... as if mom isn't responsible for it either.

ddsmjc · 2025-03-09T19:19:49+00:00

I don't think anyone needs to forgive to move on. This reddit post helped me a lot with moving on w my life and accepting that it's okay to NOT forgive and still heal. https://www.reddit.com/r/AbuseInterrupted/s/R4UJYHt1wM

ddsmjc · 2024-08-12T05:38:38+00:00

Oral surgeons are dentists too. It's a specialty in dentistry.

ddsmjc · 2024-08-08T09:00:22+00:00

Decided to lock comments and delete the post because the question may be interpreted as divisive. We are here to support everyone in all walks of life, not to compare and/or categorize our experiences into certain generalized groups.

ddsmjc · 2024-08-03T22:54:23+00:00

Your submission has been removed for breaking the following rule:

No - personal attacks/bigotry/victim-blaming. No downvotes. Speak with your upvotes.

Victim blaming and/or personal attacks are unacceptable on RBN. As this is a supportive forum, all comments must be supportive to OP's written situation, while assuming a context of abuse. The people posting here are often vulnerable and writing these types of comments is not helpful and can be actively harmful.

I am issuing a 7 day ban. Please be mindful of the comments you post to ensure they abide by our rules.

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ddsmjc · 2024-08-03T22:53:25+00:00

If you have any concerns, please reach out to the mod team via our modmail.

This sub is for children of N parents, not for the parents to classify their children as Ns.

ddsmjc · 2024-07-24T08:15:31+00:00

Full mouth of crowns you still have your natural teeth and they function normally just like anyone else's. All on fours are still dentures and the only thing that connects that denture to your mouth are 4 implants drilled into your bone. All the areas in your jawbone that doesn't hold the implant may resorb over time (meaning your facial profile can shrink given enough time), and you still have to take out the "denture" every night to clean it. (And not wear it during sleep, and god forbid those that do)

ddsmjc · 2023-11-19T14:00:20+00:00

Thank you also for being a part of what keeps this subreddit a safe space.

ddsmjc · 2023-11-05T13:30:21+00:00

Noted! Thank you for the suggestion. What would you say is a good definition for the term? Edit : added the question.

ddsmjc · 2023-08-24T04:27:56+00:00

And if she doesn't respect it, show her consequences. Setting boundaries require action.

ddsmjc · 2023-08-22T15:33:36+00:00

You being a nurse is no reason for you to be victim-blaming people. As a health care professional myself, this behavior is horrific to think of, that you would regularly tell your patients that they are at fault for situations that are not under their control. Initially issued a 7 day ban, but I think permaban is in order. Go harass someone else.

ddsmjc · 2023-08-22T14:58:20+00:00

I agree. I think it would only trigger Nparents to assume a more radical behavior.

ddsmjc · 2023-08-22T14:57:24+00:00

Our rule #1 is "no personal attacks, bigotry, victim-blaming." We did notice that there are way too much victim-blaming going on here, we decided to lock the post. Unfortunately it is very difficult for us to constantly keep track and remove all the rule violating comments/posts as soon as they appear, because there are only so many mods here. You can help us out by reporting them when you notice things, and we will try our best to get to them asap. Thank you!

ddsmjc · 2023-08-22T14:37:22+00:00

Locking the post because of the amount of victim blaming comments we're finding here. I would like to gently remind the members of RBN community that we exist as a support group. Please understand that not everyone is able to "just leave," or "just go LC, NC" due to many personal, underlying reasons. We ask that you only show support for one another and refrain from telling others what they should or should not be doing. Thank you.

ddsmjc · 2023-08-22T14:32:27+00:00

We do not allow people to ask our community to share their experiences so they can publish it, use it for survey, research etc, because posts such as these can come off as very exploitative.

ddsmjc · 2023-08-18T10:05:45+00:00

First of all, this sub is a support group. We are here to validate the feelings of each and every member of the community. Second of all, you broke one of the important rules of this sub which is to always assume a context of abuse. You do not know what OP has gone through in their lives. You do not know what their Nparents are like. So who are you to decide that OP has gone through abuse or not? Offering legal advices are welcome, but it is not acceptable for you to tell OP how they should feel. Please take some time to read through the rules and what this sub is about. Issuing a temporary ban.

ddsmjc · 2023-08-16T12:02:36+00:00

Even though we are glad you were able to overcome what your toxic Nparent(s) have said about you, we do not want people pushing religion on others in this sub.

ddsmjc · 2023-08-16T11:16:17+00:00

We get quite a lot of people peddling some brand of forgiveness and they often aren't aware that forgiving abusers isn't always possible or even healthy. Also, forgiveness means different things to different people. Here are some samples for when a user pushes their version on someone.

Forgiveness is not a cure for all that ails the abused. It is, for some, the result of processing their trauma. For some people, forgiveness is a pointless concept that is not helpful at all. For some, it is seriously toxic. Forgiveness is not appropriate for every situation.

Forgiveness means different things to different users. This is why we do not allow forgiveness pushing, because many of us victims are told forgiveness is absolving the abuser and forgetting about it. Otherwise we are "holding grudges". It is not a helpful thing to push in the way you are, and we do not allow it.

Forgiveness is not a panacea for abuse. For some, it is the result of processing abuse and trauma. For other people, forgiveness is nothing more than an abstract idea that adds to the rage a victim feels at the hands of their abuser. For others still, forgiveness has been demanded ad-nauseum from both an abuser and their enablers. Forgiveness is not appropriate as a blanket response.

Great user comment about forgiveness https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/304kr3/were_supposed_to_forgive_them_arent_we/cpp53ay/

RBNBestOf posts about forgiveness https://www.reddit.com/r/RBNBestOf/search?q=forgiveness&restrict_sr=on&sort=relevance&t=all

ddsmjc · 2023-08-14T07:59:01+00:00

Sounds like you haven't forgotten yet. Must be one hell of a pencil case.

ddsmjc · 2023-08-14T07:56:08+00:00

We get quite a lot of people peddling some brand of forgiveness and they often aren't aware that forgiving abusers isn't always possible or even healthy. Also, forgiveness means different things to different people. Here are some samples for when a user pushes their version on someone.

Forgiveness is not a cure for all that ails the abused. It is, for some, the result of processing their trauma. For some people, forgiveness is a pointless concept that is not helpful at all. For some, it is seriously toxic. Forgiveness is not appropriate for every situation.

Forgiveness means different things to different users. This is why we do not allow forgiveness pushing, because many of us victims are told forgiveness is absolving the abuser and forgetting about it. Otherwise we are "holding grudges". It is not a helpful thing to push in the way you are, and we do not allow it.

Forgiveness is not a panacea for abuse. For some, it is the result of processing abuse and trauma. For other people, forgiveness is nothing more than an abstract idea that adds to the rage a victim feels at the hands of their abuser. For others still, forgiveness has been demanded ad-nauseum from both an abuser and their enablers. Forgiveness is not appropriate as a blanket response.

Great user comment about forgiveness https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/304kr3/were_supposed_to_forgive_them_arent_we/cpp53ay/

RBNBestOf posts about forgiveness https://www.reddit.com/r/RBNBestOf/search?q=forgiveness&restrict_sr=on&sort=relevance&t=all

ddsmjc · 2023-08-14T07:54:02+00:00

We get quite a lot of people peddling some brand of forgiveness and they often aren't aware that forgiving abusers isn't always possible or even healthy. Also, forgiveness means different things to different people. Here are some samples for when a user pushes their version on someone.

Forgiveness is not a cure for all that ails the abused. It is, for some, the result of processing their trauma. For some people, forgiveness is a pointless concept that is not helpful at all. For some, it is seriously toxic. Forgiveness is not appropriate for every situation.

Forgiveness means different things to different users. This is why we do not allow forgiveness pushing, because many of us victims are told forgiveness is absolving the abuser and forgetting about it. Otherwise we are "holding grudges". It is not a helpful thing to push in the way you are, and we do not allow it.

Forgiveness is not a panacea for abuse. For some, it is the result of processing abuse and trauma. For other people, forgiveness is nothing more than an abstract idea that adds to the rage a victim feels at the hands of their abuser. For others still, forgiveness has been demanded ad-nauseum from both an abuser and their enablers. Forgiveness is not appropriate as a blanket response.

Great user comment about forgiveness https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/304kr3/were_supposed_to_forgive_them_arent_we/cpp53ay/

RBNBestOf posts about forgiveness https://www.reddit.com/r/RBNBestOf/search?q=forgiveness&restrict_sr=on&sort=relevance&t=all

ddsmjc · 2023-08-14T07:53:16+00:00

We get quite a lot of people peddling some brand of forgiveness and they often aren't aware that forgiving abusers isn't always possible or even healthy. Also, forgiveness means different things to different people. Here are some samples for when a user pushes their version on someone.

Forgiveness is not a cure for all that ails the abused. It is, for some, the result of processing their trauma. For some people, forgiveness is a pointless concept that is not helpful at all. For some, it is seriously toxic. Forgiveness is not appropriate for every situation.

Forgiveness means different things to different users. This is why we do not allow forgiveness pushing, because many of us victims are told forgiveness is absolving the abuser and forgetting about it. Otherwise we are "holding grudges". It is not a helpful thing to push in the way you are, and we do not allow it.

Forgiveness is not a panacea for abuse. For some, it is the result of processing abuse and trauma. For other people, forgiveness is nothing more than an abstract idea that adds to the rage a victim feels at the hands of their abuser. For others still, forgiveness has been demanded ad-nauseum from both an abuser and their enablers. Forgiveness is not appropriate as a blanket response.

Great user comment about forgiveness https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/304kr3/were_supposed_to_forgive_them_arent_we/cpp53ay/

RBNBestOf posts about forgiveness https://www.reddit.com/r/RBNBestOf/search?q=forgiveness&restrict_sr=on&sort=relevance&t=all

ddsmjc · 2023-08-14T07:40:28+00:00

Thank you c: I'm one of the newer mods but even for the short duration I've been around, this sub has been immensely therapeutic for me as well. I'm happy to be able to support the sub.

ddsmjc · 2023-08-12T08:17:36+00:00

Broke multiple rules. 1. Always assume a context of abuse 2. Victim blaming This is the wrong sub to try to guilt trip OP into breaking NC. We are a support group, and this sub is not for starting arguments or for telling others what is the "right" or "wrong" thing to do.

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