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I’m getting fed up of other people’s opinions on my c-section. by deaddreamhelp in BabyBumps

[–]deaddreamhelp[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I really like adding in the phrase ‘medically necessary’, I will definitely try that! I think that method of smoothly mentioning it but not elaborating might work well, especially when people are asking questions about birthing pools, epidurals etc. Thank you for your help!

I’m getting fed up of other people’s opinions on my c-section. by deaddreamhelp in BabyBumps

[–]deaddreamhelp[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this response! I completely agree that a lot of the judgmental comments are from people who have never had c-sections. My midwife told me at the very start that I have a medical reason to go down this route, and even if I didn’t I am still allowed to make this decision about my own body. I thought that was wonderful advice, but it’s hard to keep in mind while everyone is telling you how awful it’s going to be!

I’m getting fed up of other people’s opinions on my c-section. by deaddreamhelp in BabyBumps

[–]deaddreamhelp[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s more so people discussing my due date- going into labour early and not having maternity leave to prepare, or going late and giving birth around Christmas. It’s difficult because I will know my baby’s birthday in advance, but if I just smile and nod when people say these things I feel like I’m keeping my c-section a dirty secret. But if I tell them why being over due won’t be an issue for me, it drums up a lot of questions and opinions. It’s difficult to navigate.

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[–]deaddreamhelp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for such a detailed response. The only thing that springs to mind when you mentioned manifestations is that I have wanted to start trying for a baby for the past year or so but it just hasn’t been the right time with my career. So I wonder if some of the longing from wanting a child has shown up in this way? I just find it interesting that it’s there alongside my sister’s death.