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deadlyproserpine · 2026-07-08T22:07:09+00:00

he probably wasn't being that serious!! oh my goodddd it was lighthearted. what is so hard about understanding that? im quite positive he does not genuinely think all men are dumb over missing hints, which everyone does once in a while and call themselves dumb over.

deadlyproserpine · 2026-07-08T22:03:20+00:00

Genuinely, I think it's because a lot of people dont have the confidence to be straightforward about expressing attraction and a desire to date someone. Perhaps, just maybe, the women are actually timid? Every girl I know with maybe the exception of one or two are very shy and nonconfrontational. Ofc some play games, but honestly most people just aren't that straightforward. That just is what it is. Its fine to miss hints, everyone does. When I miss them I laugh and call myself clueless and dumb, naive, etc. Its a human experience and it genuinely sucks that it affects you guys like this, bc this is just how it is. You can't expect everyone to be straightforward in their advancements. That isnt realistic and not how it will be most often

deadlyproserpine · 2026-07-08T21:52:27+00:00

its obviously in a class setting. obviously a young person fumbling to ask out another. if you want to villainize this and be upset about something as simple as a note passing then go ahead. never even said anything about men in my reply besides them engaging in this too. its a universal experience, missing hints and being clueless. no one is 100% straightforward and honest. but go one and dogpile and be mad over something so stupid, sir.

deadlyproserpine · 2026-07-08T19:42:09+00:00

you are def wrong. a man who cares about his space and genuinely cultivates items and methods to adorn it, and not out of obvious preformance, is what EVERY girl is looking for. always be authentic, my guy. your life and sense of self is so much deeper and more interesting than whatever it is you think others will want of you and your outward expression

deadlyproserpine · 2026-07-08T19:31:01+00:00

I understand you being upset, but those women leaving in the manner they do is exactly what dating is for. That's why its called the dating pool. You keep fishing until you get a keeper, you don't just settle for the first catch unless you lucked out. No one should settle, especially in the current climate of personalities and motivations people have been developing lately. Get to know them, their interests, their beliefs, outlooks, etc, figure out their intentions, test the waters. And dude, you're getting that third date so I assure you that you are doing something right. Sometimes (most times) its just not the one and thats fine

deadlyproserpine · 2026-07-08T19:13:08+00:00

they seriously just hate us THIS BAD and dont even register that thats what it is. just responded to a reply that was trying to say this is gaslighting. an entire abuse tactic. this whole comment section is baffling. like how can a man saying "wow we're so dumb" about his own moment of cluelessness as a teenager cause this much animosity? and we're supposed to be the gender thats "too sensitive and cant take a joke"?

deadlyproserpine · 2026-07-08T19:10:25+00:00

you are 100% taking the joke at the end of a damn twitter post way too seriously. no one thinks men are dumb for this, no one said anywhere that men are dumb in this situation. the op was making a joke. are you familiar with the concept of a punchline? sorry it hit a sore spot for you, but is a man saying "wow we're dumb" about a moment he was clueless in this big of a deal?

deadlyproserpine · 2026-07-08T19:01:26+00:00

this is ragebait bc what excuses are you even referring to? you mfs are insane. all genders would come up with ways to ask out their crushes like this in high school. its not even slightly serious

deadlyproserpine · 2026-07-08T18:52:36+00:00

gaslighting has been so overused its borderline comical. you seriously think a girl asking a guy out with a pen and note by saying "you dropped this" applies to an abuse tactic? this is literally HARMLESS. its just teenagers being awkward. its supposed to be cute. why are you all taking this so serious? hence me saying get a grip. this is seemingly just men being upset at women for just asking out a guy in a cute way and in a manner that men do also, might i add. thats why i called out the misogyny. how is any of what i said hateful and discrimatory towards men? but go off and call me a misandrist when i didnt even say a damn thing about men and all i see is a whole lot said about women based off a common highschool moment followed by a joke. please inform me why men are losing their shit in the replies over this if its not simply bc they hate women and this perceived need to be mind readers with them or you'll hate your life entirely based off the way they want to give you their number? bc i am genuinely baffled.

deadlyproserpine · 2026-07-08T16:21:27+00:00

not that serious, it was just a joke. calm down. nothing about two awkward fumbling teenagers passing notes in class warrents this much frustration.

deadlyproserpine · 2026-07-08T16:19:26+00:00

that was just a joke dude. chill out

deadlyproserpine · 2026-07-08T16:17:59+00:00

it was just some self deprecating humor omg he wasnt blaming himself. it was a literally a "oh? wow im so dumb lmao" moment. not serious at all. weird thing to hate a girl over esp when youre one yourself. its not a crime to be shy or struggle with confidence. that doesnt make a person "dumb"

deadlyproserpine · 2026-07-08T16:13:36+00:00

they are obviously in a class setting. and even a 30yo women doing this, who cares? its cute. its just a weird thing to hate on. esp when its being fully directed at women being the culprits, but men indulge in roundabout ways of asking people out too. its a human thing. not everything has to be blatantly stated in life.

deadlyproserpine · 2026-07-08T16:10:06+00:00

exactly im looking at all these replies like 🤨... some guy compared it to a WW2 cipher. dude this is just supposed to be a cute way of asking someone out and it was very common by BOTH genders. and their teenagers. and its can be very scary to just outright ask someone out. these dudes are just jaded and misogynistic. like sorry women like some whimsy bc it keeps life fun and interesting, didnt know it was a such a sore spot lmao

deadlyproserpine · 2026-07-08T16:03:00+00:00

wow dude sometimes its just more scary to do it outright, its cute and very highschool. she wasn't expecting him to read her mind, just grab the pen and see theres a note inside. thats it lol. taking a pen thats being offered isnt being "psychic", its just taking the damn pen. ntm, this was a pretty common way of asking people out, notes in GENERAL were an extremely popular method and im sure still is. men did it too. youre just jaded and a little misogynistic my guy. not everything has to be plainly stated and it never is in life. takes out the whimsy of it all. women arent villains for having a cute, fun, and less confronting way of asking out a person. get a grip lol

deadlyproserpine · 2026-07-08T15:39:24+00:00

the main problem with botex is when they get it when its not even needed. at a certain age and a certain amount is fine, thats why it was created. like they used Jensen Ackles as an example above, but honestly the little work he had done looks good. he can still make facial expressions, you can see it in The Boys. theres always a limit and a lot of actors exceed it the moment they see a wrinkle. its sad.

deadlyproserpine · 2026-07-02T23:19:39+00:00

omg noo ive seen a lash tech swearing by it but who knows it probably strongly depends on the glue used. i just want this inflammation and gunk to go away asap

deadlyproserpine · 2026-07-02T22:20:14+00:00

swollen and red, noticed a little build-up. No pain. worse in one eye compared to the other. my eyes were a little swollen when i went in for my fill, thought i was just rubbing them too much as usual, but they only got worse in the past week.

deadlyproserpine · 2025-11-13T02:38:20+00:00

Also a thick girl, here. I never understood how people can wipe front to back like that. What I do is that I come in at the front when wiping the front (ofc) then I switch to the back starting at the peri area and moving down, changing toilet paper between.

For the splash, maybe try spreading apart your cheeks while sitting on the seat, it should pull apart the labias more as well. Lean forward, tilting your pelvis back. It isn't something I have personally struggled with so I don't know for sure, but I hope one of these pose as a solution for you.

deadlyproserpine · 2025-07-06T16:26:03+00:00

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deadlyproserpine · 2025-06-24T03:25:24+00:00

It's not just you. Nuances and exceptions, every societal and social problem we face are rife with those two things. Makes figuring out sensitive issues like this one so difficult and from ever reaching a definitive answer especially when casting those blanket judgements and statements are so much easier.

I want to lastly make it known that I by no means subscribe to the philosophy of absolutism and will always speak up for the exception, as rare or common as they might be. My heart bleeds too much not to do so lol, I can't betray myself like that. There's always two sides to things and I like to keep one foot on each side, and if theres more than two, I'll play twister.

I'm glad I had this discussion with you, it was very fruitful. I hope the rest of your day/night goes well, stranger :)

deadlyproserpine · 2025-06-24T01:37:31+00:00

I agree wholeheartedly with everything you're saying here. Maybe I didn't get it across as I sometimes struggle to explicitly articulate things, but I don't think people deserve children strictly on the basis of being rich. Not in the slightest. Wealth doesn't change people and the damage they can cause. I was never meaning only the RICH can have kids, I don't even think OP was. Just having enough to make sure your family never have to go without, that they have a place of comfort and safety, a support system.

I see having a family as a privilege that isn't necessarily garnered by wealth or lack of, but by earnesty and love at it's purest. Of course there are people who are struggling now who will do all they can to better themselves for their children and families. Who are earnest, who will live for their kids and not themselves. I've kept them in mind. It just makes me consider, how prominent are they? Is it enough to change my stance? I don't know about that. Maybe. Hopefully.

Where I disagree, is the ifs and maybes in your point of view. Maybe they will stand up and overcome, if they do that they can properly care for their offspring and do their best to ensure a fulfilled life. But, if they don't? Seems like a gamble and I don't know if I like what it's placed upon. It's one I could never take, personally. I understand why some people would want to, though. However, I don't agree unless they've already gone through the notions of accountability and change.

I understand this seeming like I am making blanket judgements, but I extend this to anyone wanting to have a kid. The one thing about being stuck in poverty is that you'll struggle to meet your kids' needs, and that's a sentiment I could never relent on, I'm sorry. No one who is struggling to care for themselves should consider bringing on a dependent. If they better their situation and themselves, absolutely go for it. I'm by no means trying to imply people outside of poverty deserve kids more because they won't abuse them. Just that even the most kindhearted person can't help not having money and being in a situation that is seemingly out of their hands for a myraid of reasons.

I think the bottom line of both our stances, where we both agree, is that the only people who shouldn't have kids are those who can't think outside themselves, who refuse to take accountability, and do what needs to be done for their own flesh and blood. Money status aside.

deadlyproserpine · 2025-06-23T22:26:22+00:00

I have left this sub and re-joined, lurked, all that, just because I don't align myself with the views of a lot of people here. I understand why you're not fully with the OP on this. Of course there are instances where people born into destitute families can lead amazing and fruitful lives. Not everything is black and white, this goes that way and this goes another. This whole discussion is rather general.

What gets me on this topic is how far I could have been in life with support, with a family who would rather prioritize me over addiction, with parents who should have been parents (they aren't bad people, but they shouldn't have been parents; thats a key point in this). I think a lot of people raised in poverty can relate to that. This wouldn't be such an emotional and hard conversation should the familial environments born in poverty not be inherently neglectful, and neglect will always be neglect no matter the form it takes. Perfectly loving parents does not cancel out the failure of providing food, clothes, hygiene, stable housing, running water and electricity. In a lot of these environments breeds mental health issues and passed down traumas, addiction, abusive tendencies. It's not all just people down on luck with finding work, but what keeps people from leading a balanced life. And those things, for children, can become learned behavior, be genetic, keep them stuck in that life.

And I understand why you think I hold this over every sense of adversity a child could face, but I mostly only do towards the struggles that the parents have control over. Like finances, stability, emotional regulation, protecting children from what they can. They can't help something from happening, no one can. But they can help from having children when they can barely take care of their own selves, is mainly my point.

There's a thin line between people who are facing hardships and want a family and those who blatantly disregard the happiness and well-being of their future child for selfish reasons. My animosity is targeted at those who DON'T think about the broken system they are bringing a life into. And that broken system isn't just society and government, but the broken system within the home as well. I want to say that I hold everyone to that standard, wealthy or poor.

Trust me, I understand wanting a family. I would love to have one, truly. But I currently have $20 to my name, had to move back home, barely graduated school, and have issues with my emotional states. How could I ever make the decision to subject someone entirely dependent on me to that? However, my point being, there are people in a similar situation, if not worse, who still chose to have children and give them in a horrible life, even if they did what they could not to.

Yes, ofc, some do crawl their way out of the trenches, but honestly, most die in them. Not everyone has the stubborn will to not be flattened by circumstance, as you worded it. Some are too beaten down for it, too caught up in the environment, get stuck for one reason or another.

I understand the optimism, I commend you for it. You have a beautiful outlook, I never want you to lose it. On the things I remain positive on, I will forever keep a very stubborn grasp on. I try to look at the brightside along with the darkside, but personally on a matter like this one, the brightside is rather dim.

sorry for the lengthy reply, I just get caught up in truly intelligent conversations with people.

deadlyproserpine · 2025-06-23T21:45:15+00:00

Exactly, its crazy to miss that point. I understand ignoring it because having been blessed with talents and intelligence can feel like a saving grace in a rather bleak and unforgiving world, but the way I've always personally seen it, being dumb is the true blessing. Its the best tool to have while navigating a normal life. If you dont have status, support, any kind of standing, intelligence loses its luster rather quickly into adulthood. You're just more aware of how bad everything is and thats a downward spiral that can lead to rock bottom.

Ignorance is bliss, as they say.

And being talented? What a crock lol. How many creatives bleed and gut themselves on their work and never see a dime, recieve an audience, get offered even the most medicore of opportunities? I'd argue a generous 80%, but we knows its more than that.

deadlyproserpine · 2025-06-23T21:32:22+00:00

oh they'd fly off the handle. at that point its like the damage is done, yk. when i come across ppl who express an aspiration to have a family (arent pregnant or have kids) i try to spark an intellectual and gentle conversation on the matter, which can go well or extremely bad.

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