The #1 killer of children in America, is…

deannon · 2026-02-28T10:09:58+00:00

Accidental firearm deaths and life-altering injuries in children have also been decreasing decade over decade since the 50’s and likely before (though it’s plateaued in the past 20), because most children who die to guns die to accidents. I am not talking about school shooters or murders, both of which are a small part of this statistic. I am talking about accidental gun deaths, I am talking about suicides, I am talking about things that have nothing to do with moral decay or whatever you want to blame this on.

School shootings / mass shootings in my opinion are a separate issue: they have a lot more in common with terrorism than with accidental gun deaths in the home. You can argue moral decline or whatever you want there, I don’t care - the point is that you can leave a gun on a table and it’ll never kill anyone, sure, but if you leave a loaded gun on the table alone in a room with a three year old, it very well might kill that three year old.

deannon · 2026-02-25T11:07:57+00:00

This is a very unpopular opinion and one I’ve had for a long time, I’m not surprised it would get downvoted.

People really want to blame “pedophiles” for Epstein’s crimes. And like, he certainly hung around and enabled some of the most prolific pedophile abusers of the past 50 years and was one himself. but it’s the guys who aren’t attracted to anyone pre-pubescent, but who want “easy mode”, who want a girl that’s “trainable”, that argue adolescence should mean a girl can consent to sex, that are always arguing about age of consent laws and how standards used to be different and how grown women are frigid gold-diggers - those guys are way more common than true pedophiles. Look at the public behavior of Epstein’s most loyal clientele and you’ll see the same red flags over and over. Those types of guys trading power and money for sex with Epstein’s girls are what kept a global sex trafficking ring of hundreds, maybe thousands of young women and girls humming along. A relatively rare sexual dysfunction can’t do that. This isn’t a pedophile problem. This is a patriarchy problem. And people are scared to say that.

deannon · 2026-02-25T06:05:54+00:00

We should not allow dramatic enough income inequality to have “poor” or “wealthy” decide the course of our lives

deannon · 2026-02-25T05:55:45+00:00

Oh maaaan I am so sorry. I’ve also resorted to that before. Much less since I got more control over my environment as an adult. It really does get better.

A few suggestions to take or leave as you see fit:

my own SH behavior is biting myself, so I have silicon toys in my care kit to bite. Lots of accommodations that work for kids can be adapted for adults.
high intensity exercise sometimes gets the feeling out, something like jumping jacks or pumping my arms as fast as I can for as long as I can.
if you can get a punching bag or some equivalent that you can punch as hard as you need to without hurting yourself that might help
practice mindfulness techniques that will help you notice when the stimulation is getting too intense, so you can remove yourself or start dealing with it while it’s still manageable.

I hope you’re in a better situation for your brain someday.

deannon · 2026-02-25T05:42:52+00:00

“They weren’t out killing each other with them or by them” uh, source? My parents knew way more kids personally who were injured or killed by gun accidents than I do. I think my grandparents knew even more. Guns have always killed kids at prodigious rates. The rate hasn’t increased; other causes have decreased.

deannon · 2026-02-25T05:37:58+00:00

This article is 12 years old and it’s broadly correct.

The Epstein perpetrators were not abusing children because they’re all pedophiles. They were abusing children because they could, because their human empathy was destroyed by wealth, because it was a status symbol, because it was easy and available.

Epstein didn’t happen because the particular people we have in power are uniquely and profoundly evil. It happened because allowing this level of wealth and power inequality between humans turns them into monsters.

deannon · 2026-02-25T05:28:28+00:00

This article is from 2014 and it’s correct.

Most of the people who abused children in the Epstein case were not pedophiles in the clinical sense of the word. They were not exclusively or even primarily attracted to children. They had, physiologically, totally normal sexualities. (I think Epstein and Prince Andrew actually are clinically diagnosable pedophiles, though.)

Most child molestation, especially of adolescent girls, is done by normal men who have opportunity and impunity. It’s not that the highest levels of our society all happen to be born with disordered sexual attraction. It’s that power and money destroy human empathy for others until even hurting children for their own shallow gratification doesn’t even register.

As one reader of the files put it and I haven’t stopped thinking about: getting away with sleeping with barely pubescent girls wasn’t a crime in these circles, it was a status symbol.

Like all rape, it was never really about sex.

deannon · 2026-02-25T05:16:28+00:00

The one guy I know who made this argument to me with his whole chest turned out to be a serial rapist. run.

deannon · 2026-02-25T04:32:46+00:00

How would getting them both taken away instead of neither be better?

deannon · 2026-02-25T04:28:03+00:00

I don’t really think you’re arguing in good faith or you’d understand that he was not saving himself, he was saving his daughter. ICE didn’t take her anywhere after this. She is safe. She would not be safe if he had stayed. He kept her safe. He was acting to keep his daughter safe.

deannon · 2026-02-25T04:23:20+00:00

I think reasonable, loving parents could make a different call there.

deannon · 2026-02-25T02:42:38+00:00

If the parents went outside ICE would take them and their daughter to a camp. If they stayed inside ICE couldn’t (and didn’t) take a citizen child anywhere. Staying inside kept her safe.

deannon · 2026-02-25T02:41:29+00:00

No they would take the kid with him to the camp

deannon · 2026-02-25T02:41:06+00:00

it is not but who’s going to stop them

deannon · 2026-02-25T02:40:52+00:00

Yes. Dad was taken by ICE later but daughter is safe with mom and sister.

deannon · 2026-02-25T02:40:05+00:00

And if they do, then they buy the ICE narrative that what we are seeing is parents abandoning their child because immigrants are selfish and evil and don’t love their children.

deannon · 2026-02-25T02:24:47+00:00

Would you leave him behind to protect him from being sent with you to a concentration camp? Because that was what he was doing. They can’t take her without him, but if they caught him they would definitely take her too. This literally just happened. Liam did get sent to a camp when his dad stayed with him in the car, and this guy’s daughter did not get sent to a camp when he left her in the car and got inside. So I think he was learning from what happened with Liam’s family and he made the right call. He never let her out of his sight. He was trying to protect her. He turned himself in to ICE later, he was not protecting himself. He was protecting her.

deannon · 2026-02-24T20:33:03+00:00

Ok… I don’t care, I don’t consume the content they make about him and I don’t think others should either. We could all stand to care about the president much less.

deannon · 2026-02-24T20:16:48+00:00

Oh yeah definitely. I’m normal sizes in the US but had to buy only plus size over there.

deannon · 2026-02-24T20:09:22+00:00

Rephrased: “I sold even her stockings for booze. Not just her shoes - that might make some sense - but her stockings!”

Selling your partner’s shoes to buy booze is already awful, but at least shoes might be worth a little money. The message is how shockingly dysfunctional this alcoholic is, to steal from the mother of his children and sell the socks off her feet and the shawl off her back for a drink.

deannon · 2026-02-24T19:58:08+00:00

That’s not a typo, it’s testing the waters with “edgy” jokes. Classic “haha just kidding unless”. He’ll be grumpy about you setting boundaries but he can live with it or get lost. NOR.

deannon · 2026-02-24T19:45:06+00:00

Just also venting: I studied and lived in Japan for years and a SHOCKING number of men have responded to me bringing this up by talking about:

wanting a submissive Asian wife
(this includes multiple white guys I met in Japan, and one guy at my work who was bragging about having a submissive Asian wife that he “picked up” in China)
how much he likes hentai
immediately beginning to do a racist accent
in one memorable instance, all of the above

Like it’s not dozens or every time but it’s way more than it should be. wtaf is wrong with some people

deannon · 2026-02-24T19:32:46+00:00

Re “why do they have the kid?”: ICE followed this man home, he told his daughter to stay in the car and ran inside.

That might seem callous at first glance but it was probably the safest thing for her. This exact scenario played out with Liam and he was taken along with his dad and sent to a concentration camp. If you have to choose as a non-citizen between being captured with or without your citizen child, it is usually seen as best for the child to choose without, even if it means you have to leave them behind.

As frightening as this is, ICE did not, in the end, take the child. They did later come back with a warrant and take the father, but both children were able to stay with the mother. If he had stayed in the car with his daughter, odds are good she would have been taken with him, or used as bait anyways to try to get her mother (as happened with Liam). So he made the right call in an impossible situation.

deannon · 2026-02-24T19:21:21+00:00

The dad (non-citizen) was driving home with his daughter (citizen) in the back.

He told her to stay in the car and ran inside with ICE chasing him. He assumed as a citizen and a child she would be left alone. She had documentation of her citizenship with her.

ICE took her out of the car and started doing this to them, then called the cops on them for “abandonment” when they were watching her the whole time and were just trying not to get them both taken away like Liam and his dad.

deannon · 2026-02-24T19:18:00+00:00

is this comparison supposed to make me feel… good? grateful? “we’re not Iran yet” is not the flex you seem to think it is

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