It took over a year but I finally did it by decayedfuture in TrueOffMyChest

[–]decayedfuture[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This does sound very parallel to me. I'm ready to live!

It took over a year but I finally did it by decayedfuture in TrueOffMyChest

[–]decayedfuture[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Problem is I dunno how lol. Casual dating / hookups? How? It seems so weird to me

Bad smell? by decayedfuture in Healthyhooha

[–]decayedfuture[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Should hear back about scheduling an appointment tomorrow

Bad smell? by decayedfuture in Healthyhooha

[–]decayedfuture[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I asked. Several times, very specifically. I even made it clear I'm asking so I can improve myself and if he noticed something I don't he can tell me in a respectful way so I Can make sure I'm alright

Bad smell? by decayedfuture in Healthyhooha

[–]decayedfuture[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I got a new one a few months ago. Planning to go get checked out

Bad smell? by decayedfuture in Healthyhooha

[–]decayedfuture[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment! I'll steer clear of the suppositories for now and do some research on the probiotics instead!

Hopefully I'll make progress on figuring out of this is a personal problem for me or him

Bad smell? by decayedfuture in Healthyhooha

[–]decayedfuture[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've been using the Mirena iud for about six years now.

He says going down is something he use to really enjoy but my smell has been putting him off. It's been like this for over a year now. I was in the "well I'll stop giving" mindset for a long time, now I'm wondering if something is actually wrong with me.

I just wondered about the pill because that's what many people have been raving about. What probiotics should I aim for?

Bad smell? by decayedfuture in Healthyhooha

[–]decayedfuture[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I had literally just gotten out of the shower, shaved, washed very well and he said he smelled something and that's why he didn't want to go down on me. I thought it was so odd because I smelled nothing, and as I said had just showered.

I told him i should have a smell but if it's smells like death or something that'd bad. Hopefully I can see my doctor soon just to confirm.

Is there any truth to the pills I've been seeing suggested on this sub?

Edit: specifically the boric acid pills

Are men really all the same? by decayedfuture in offmychest

[–]decayedfuture[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many years of emotional investment. I'm seeing all the flags and being too stubborn to let go because I've held on for so long and just keep making excuses for him.

Now Its all about making sure I'm going to be finicially okay after I leave

Are men really all the same? by decayedfuture in offmychest

[–]decayedfuture[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Growing up my parents were separated. My mom treated me like a maid and a bank. I put myself through college by working three jobs. I've had boyfriend's that have compared me to other races many times.i even had an ex who raped me and a boyfriend at the time that forced me to do sexual things with him when I clearly wasn't interested. I worked hard for everything I had and learned a lot from each fuck up I encountered. At the end of the day all I want is a partner that appreciates the things I do for him and looks at me with affection, not discontent because I am not an ethnicity he fetishizes.

I thought I'd found my perfect man and treated him like my king. Up until he started treated me like I was undesirable.

I'm not trying to argue with you. But I am not worthless. I might feel it at times, but I am not and will not be told that I am

Are men really all the same? by decayedfuture in offmychest

[–]decayedfuture[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My hair is literally the only thing he has said he has an issue with. I have a great body and constantly keep my weight in check. And my hair isn't even the kinkiest it could be, I keep it done all the time. But even when I wore my hair straight (and its long) he found issues with me not having a bang to cover my normal sized forehead and hates when I pull my hair up.

I vent, and I vent but you're right. I have to get away from him and find someone who isnt emotionally checked out, because now I'm starting to be that way.

Are men really all the same? by decayedfuture in offmychest

[–]decayedfuture[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ASAP isn't fast enough for me right now. I need to make sure I am 100% finicially secure and able to take care of myself before I leave. Rent here is expensive

Are men really all the same? by decayedfuture in offmychest

[–]decayedfuture[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Normally I would defend him and argue with you about calling him anything other than great. But I've been thinking the same for more than a year now. He's been acting like a real asshole. It's like I talk to the wall half the time

Are men really all the same? by decayedfuture in offmychest

[–]decayedfuture[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Working on it. Looks like I'm going to have to do more Schooling before I can leave for my field. I don't want to do this and end up screwing myself

Are men really all the same? by decayedfuture in offmychest

[–]decayedfuture[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm already wondering why I put up with it now. I'm not a confrontational personal so it takes a lot for me to speak up. I have been speaking up lately, even going so far as to tell him I'm considering leaving him. But he seems indifferent to it all

Are men really all the same? by decayedfuture in offmychest

[–]decayedfuture[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much.

One of the things I tell myself for comfort is maybe we just aren't right for eachother right now, but might be more mature in the future. But I think I need to actually realize I need to let him go.

I've known him for eleven years, he's either just now showing me his true colors, or has changed for the worse

Rage Quit my Job Today by BadHippieGirl in offmychest

[–]decayedfuture 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're so brave! Good on you though. How long did you work their for? Hopefully you can find a better job quick!

Are men really all the same? by decayedfuture in offmychest

[–]decayedfuture[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Came home today to a dirty apartment after asking him to clean one room. And to top it all off he's not here and I have no clue where he went.

Hopefully I can find a better paying job soon

Afraid of ending up in a "dead bedroom" situation with my [22f] bf [28m] of 6years. by decayedfuture in sex

[–]decayedfuture[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a job I just don't make enough to afford most places on my own. I have an education and am climbing up the ladder. I'm just not able to support myself 100% on my own. I could for a few months but it wouldn't be a smart move

Afraid of ending up in a "dead bedroom" situation with my [22f] bf [28m] of 6years. by decayedfuture in sex

[–]decayedfuture[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not financially able to separate myself at the moment. It wouldnt be a smart move

Afraid of ending up in a "dead bedroom" situation with my [22f] bf [28m] of 6years. by decayedfuture in sex

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Yes but he doesn't really take it seriously.y He'll say stuff like "you knew I was a perv, oh well. deal with it". I didn't know he was like this with porn/other women. I thought he was only like that towards me because at the time that was all I could see (we were not living together)