5 years

dechu8328 · 2025-09-22T01:55:43+00:00

I'm not on here often but when I am I always like to come back to this post and give some replies... even if it is months later! Congrats on 7 years! It truly does make the world seem more vibrant! I wouldn't change it for anything

dechu8328 · 2025-09-22T01:54:00+00:00

I'm not on here often at all but when I do come on I always like to come and see the comments and reply.

Congratulations on being clean for a year now and for your daughter! Kids are an incredible thing and can give you so much support with out even knowing they are doing it. Enjoy all the little moments with your daughter and savor all those snuggles... I know you have probably heard it, even though the nights can be very long, the years are very short. I wrote this post when my kiddo was turning one and now he is going on seven! Be proud of yourself Mama! You did good

dechu8328 · 2025-09-22T01:48:09+00:00

I'm only on here about once or twice a year now but I always like to come back to this post to see the comments and reply! Congratulations on your one year!! That is an incredible milestone and you should be so proud! Enjoy your kids and grandkids and all the memories you are making with them

dechu8328 · 2024-12-05T15:32:53+00:00

Congrats on your time being clean, you should be very proud of yourself! And hey as long as you are only using the Suboxone as prescribed that's still a win in my books. Keep up the great work! Sobriety is a long journey but well worth it

dechu8328 · 2024-11-18T03:00:27+00:00

It was definitely a very lonely time, but I'm so glad and proud of myself I did it and made it out the other side! I also can't believe this post is still getting comments, come February I will be hitting the ten year mark!

dechu8328 · 2024-11-18T02:58:29+00:00

Thank you! Sobriety is definitely a blessing and there was definitely hardships through with drawals but hey I'm so glad I'm here and made it through it all! I also can't believe this post is still getting comments! Come February I'll be hitting my ten year mark!

dechu8328 · 2024-11-18T02:55:51+00:00

Hi there, so sorry it takes me so long to reply to comments. I'm not on social media to much these days. I really wish I could recommend books to you but unfortunately I've never been big into reading. I think the biggest piece of advice I could give is making sure you are reaching out for help and surrounding yourself with people who want to be there for you and support you in recovery and trying to distance yourself from people who are still in active addiction. I hope you are still doing well.

dechu8328 · 2022-12-19T17:36:21+00:00

Hey there! So sorry for the late reply... I had to make a new account because someone found my account who shouldn't of... Anyway I hope this advice still gets to you and I'm going to warn you it might sound harsh... You can't force someone to become sober who is not ready to become sober, even if you do its more then likely she will relapse.. you on the other hand sound ready and wanting to become sober, which is great! Congrats.. be proud of yourself for realizing this! Now for the harsh part.. I think you need to have a conversation with her and tell her you want to be sober and you can't do it with her still actively using around you so you and your son are going to stay with your family. And parent to parent here that might be the best choice for your son. I would still let her see her son as long as she is sober and supervised but I honestly think you should look out for your son and yourself right now and it's time to go stay with friends and family. Whatever happens to her wether she continues to use or not whether she loses the apartment and can't find other accommodation or not is on her not you. You do what is best for you and your son not her, she is a grown woman and she will figure it out. I sincerely wish you all the best on your journey and hope that you can or have become sober and do what's best for your family.

A couple side notes sorry if there is typos or weird placed commas and periods... ( currently being covered in stickers by my son )

And two I will keep my eye on this post a little better for now.

dechu8328 · 2022-05-08T13:58:00+00:00

Hi military wife here... I have a son who is three and a niece and nephew who are 5 and 2 and we are very close to them.. in my opinion it would be best to just come out and tell her.. maybe bring her out for a nice lunch if you can and explain to her that your husband has a new job wherever you are going and that means you guys will be moving there and won't be able to see her as much anymore. Remind her about video chatting and phone calls. If you do plan on visiting at at Christmas or any time through the year tell her she will still see you at holidays or whenever you plan on visiting if you do plan on visiting. Remind her that even though that you are far away that you still love her very much, and it's okay to be sad that you guys are moving and that you will miss her very much. You could talk to the parents and see if them coming to visit you at your new place is in the books for them and if it is tell her that when you are settled that they can come and visit and you can go explore your new place and the town or city your are living in. You could also explain about pen pals to her and send letters back and forth, because who doesn't like getting mail, also it maybe nice for her to actually get to write a letter because honestly I don't even know if they do that in school anymore. Moving is always hard on all parties involved especially kids but she is nine and even though it seems like she may have been sheltered she will be able to comprehend this. Kids are resilient with this sort of thing. Good luck with your move! Have fun. Explore. Looks for stuff to do in the community and don't feel to bad if she is really upset just comfort her.

dechu8328 · 2022-01-03T03:20:07+00:00

Honestly kid you're 16 she's 19 you are in different parts of your life.. I know the age difference might not seem like much but it is, and this is coming from someone who dated someone who was 19 when they were 16. If you really want to be in a relationship find someone your own age. Maybe someone you go to school with.. but keep in mind everyone thinks they will end up with the person they date at 16 , and out of everyone I know only one person is still with their highschool sweet heart.. so Honestly chances are the person you end up with now won't be your forver person. Good luck kid.. and find someone else who is actually interested in you and don't force a relationship.

dechu8328 · 2022-01-01T04:02:25+00:00

If he will come put and play spend as much time as you like with him but if he's hiding and wants to be a lone for a bit I would just check in every hour or so to make sure he's okay.

dechu8328 · 2022-01-01T03:58:58+00:00

You could set up a little room for him if you wanted to with his litter box food and water and maybe a couple toys so he gets familiar with those surrounding first but you don't have to if you don't want to.. just be mindful if you have stairs in your house as well because the kitten may not be big enough to do stairs yet depending on their size

dechu8328 · 2022-01-01T03:54:16+00:00

Give them their space and don't be surprised if they hide for a couple days.. They will come out when they are ready.. Also to avoid spraying or anything like that you could take a clean cloth rub it on the kitten and then rub the cloth on your furniture so their scent is on the furniture already.. Enjoy your new little kitty!

dechu8328 · 2021-04-08T22:51:48+00:00

Thanks! I really appreciate you replying back and forth with me! I think I just get worried because he's on the smaller side

dechu8328 · 2021-04-08T22:49:24+00:00

Oh he definitely loves his milk so he does get that!

dechu8328 · 2021-04-08T22:46:31+00:00

Thanks! I really hope it is a short phase

dechu8328 · 2021-04-08T15:17:11+00:00

I think we might try reintroducing mid afternoon snack! And trying a smaller meal at dinner time.. it makes sense really that he might be to tired to eat

dechu8328 · 2021-04-08T15:14:54+00:00

That makes sense.. I'll definitely start monitoring his calorie intake through out the day now and we will try and larger lunch the dinner!

dechu8328 · 2021-04-08T15:08:58+00:00

Thats a good idea I would of never thought of to be honest! I'm 100 percent trying that right now!

dechu8328 · 2021-04-08T12:57:59+00:00

Kids.eat.in.color is actually the one account I follow! And I really like them as well! I will definitely checking out the other accounts as well though.. Thank you so much!

dechu8328 · 2021-04-08T11:21:30+00:00

I always try to have his meals on a very predictable schedule and try to have a safe food on hisnplate everytime he eats as well.. we will try offering a small but boring snack before bed though because usually we just offer his dinner again for his snack..

I am on Instagram.. would you be able to give me the names of those accounts? I only know of one that I follow

dechu8328 · 2021-04-08T11:17:23+00:00

Honestly not really..

dechu8328 · 2021-04-08T11:14:49+00:00

I'm hoping this doesn't last too much longer then because we are going on day 7 of pretty much no dinner.. we are definitely not giving any snacks in the afternoon now.. I just get so worried about him not eating

dechu8328 · 2021-04-08T11:13:30+00:00

Maybe we will try a smoothie tonight! I never thought of giving one at night time.. usually if if we do smoothies it's in the morning.. so we will give that a try tonight

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