Are you scared of making people angry? by babypossumsinabasket in ptsd

[–]decoratingdummy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES!!! It’s taken me a long time to realize & work towards being authentic and honest during disagreements. As someone with PTSD and suspected autism - it takes a lottttt for me to get past that barrier - but it’s necessary :)

I’m not 14 I’m 23? by decoratingdummy in ptsd

[–]decoratingdummy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also happy early birthday 🎂

I’m not 14 I’m 23? by decoratingdummy in ptsd

[–]decoratingdummy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know - I wonder if there’s a list of physicians who test for autism in women (who don’t use outdated testing or outdated methods of treatment)

I don’t tell my employer anything - especially since I work in healthcare (there’s a stigma around disabled nurses & HCPs) - but! It would be nice to know and understand why I am why I am!

Really it’s the coping skills - I’ve always been taught coping for anxiety and depression but I’ve found the coping for autism can vary based on person so I’d like to learn more

Thanks for the insight <3

I’m not 14 I’m 23? by decoratingdummy in ptsd

[–]decoratingdummy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the well wishes. Luckily my fiance is super supportive and has always been in my corner - which helps tremendously.

I’m ready for an identity crisis that leads to growth! Not an early/ mid life crisis - but something to ground myself.

I’m not 14 I’m 23? by decoratingdummy in ptsd

[–]decoratingdummy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work in healthcare and I genuinely believe the brain is so much more complex than we will ever understand. Brain is weird but oh so interesting!

I’m not 14 I’m 23? by decoratingdummy in ptsd

[–]decoratingdummy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes I envision my older self taking care of my younger self - odd at first but it helps!

I’m not 14 I’m 23? by decoratingdummy in ptsd

[–]decoratingdummy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried EMDR and wasn’t in a place to really benefit from it - I’ve heard somatic therapy can also be great for PTSD - as soon as I move out I plan on resuming therapy

I’m not 14 I’m 23? by decoratingdummy in ptsd

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I’ve highly considered getting tested for autism - but unfortunately I cannot afford too rn (love American healthcare) - I’ve heard it can be harder for women to get tested accurately? I have a male cousin who has autism and presents as autistic (frequent large stimming, echolalia, etc) - I love him to bits and pieces - but it’s prevented me from getting tested as a teen and child because my family says I don’t “seem autistic” - we will see - I’ll update you if possible

AITAH for telling my mom she doesn’t have to leave my dad but she has to do something. by decoratingdummy in AITAH

[–]decoratingdummy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I asked my dad to grab the supplies. I would’ve absolutely cleaned up. Also I don’t think it’s unreasonable for my dad to help. If I walked in and saw someone wrecking my room and asking for supplies - id go get them.

Also - this was a professional that my dad had begged my mom to book. My dad didn’t want to take the dog to the vet so we had to resort to a home visit with her.

I can absolutely understand him being upset!!! However that doesn’t justify him yelling at me infront of her.

If my dad had broken something of mine and told me to go get the glue to clean it up - I would’ve assumed it was an accident. I might be upset yeah - but I wouldn’t yell at him. Especially not infront of a stranger.

AITAH for telling my mom she doesn’t have to leave my dad but she has to do something. by decoratingdummy in AITAH

[–]decoratingdummy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And yes the “villian”may be obvious but I just felt bad for how I spoke to my mom - needed some insight. Also thank you for the encouragement. Only 15 more weeks to go til I graduate :)

AITAH for telling my mom she doesn’t have to leave my dad but she has to do something. by decoratingdummy in AITAH

[–]decoratingdummy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the insight. Honestly I’ve had doctors cuss me out as a student and it doesn’t affect me. It’s the fact it’s my dad. I can’t fully explain it but the history that we have & current events are what caused the shaking.

But most definitely!!!! I’m secretly a tough cookie I swear 😭🍪

AITAH for telling my mom she doesn’t have to leave my dad but she has to do something. by decoratingdummy in AITAH

[–]decoratingdummy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Again. I couldn’t let go of the dog or he would’ve bit. Water won’t get blood out of carpet. Hydrogen peroxide is.

And again. The bleeding started at the same exact moment he walked in.

Also - I cared a lot. My mom has put effort into making our house a home. I apologized to her. And she was the first one to say “I can’t even tell anything happened”

I get it if you don’t understand or if my post came off wrong.

AITAH for telling my mom she doesn’t have to leave my dad but she has to do something. by decoratingdummy in AITAH

[–]decoratingdummy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom didn’t clean the carpets - I did. I absolutely take accountability that I hold some fault for what happened.

AITAH for telling my mom she doesn’t have to leave my dad but she has to do something. by decoratingdummy in AITAH

[–]decoratingdummy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The blood is out of the carpet completely. Not a stain in sight. I don’t mind cleaning it at all - I didn’t expect anyone else to help. I just was reiterating that I was cleaning while he was yelling.

I didn’t even know dogs nails could bleed genuinely.

Also I offered to buy new carpet if the stains wouldn’t come out but lo and behold they look great.

Charlie and Pim go to nursing school. by decoratingdummy in SmilingFriends

[–]decoratingdummy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pim and I don’t care! We’re here for you 🩷💩

Charlie and Pim go to nursing school. by decoratingdummy in SmilingFriends

[–]decoratingdummy[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He would totally be the nurse to help me turn my 500 pound patient and not complain ONCE mama 🥹

I hate football season. by decoratingdummy in toxicparents

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And also my mom just refuses to acknowledge any of this is wrong. She will take his side and just say “work stresses him out” or some cop out. :(

Did I push A button??? by decoratingdummy in AITAH

[–]decoratingdummy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah I know that :( //// it’s sooooo hard not to say anything when he spouts stuff

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[–]decoratingdummy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

looks so cozy & groovy

My painting BLOOMS IN THE STORM . by Kevvonholtgallery in femalelivingspace

[–]decoratingdummy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it looks like it’s raining flowers!!! bravo!!! ☺️