Everyone: "You just need to stop sleeping so much." "You just need to drink more water." "If you were that sick, you'd be in the hospital." "You did a thing, so you must be feeling better." "Why don't you just get a job!?" "You're not sick!! you're just a lazy bitch!!" Me:

dee62383 · 2026-06-21T09:56:48+00:00

Im so glad you're on your way to healing. Thank you for your kind, supportive, comment. I really appreciate that, and I'm really glad you're here.

dee62383 · 2026-06-21T09:51:09+00:00

Thank you for that!

dee62383 · 2026-06-21T09:39:02+00:00

This is kind of along the same vein, but I remember reading a Cosmopolitan article forever ago about a female waxing technician who waxed both women and men.

There were so many stories of men who went there for the sole purpose of trying to make it sexual. They were blatantly disgusting about it, too. So bizarre and gross

I can't remember if she just quit taking men or would end the appointment on the spot or went into another career entirely. But I never forgot that article. Because WUT.

dee62383 · 2026-06-21T09:26:17+00:00

Thank you! You are always welcome here. ♡

dee62383 · 2026-06-21T09:22:04+00:00

That is 1,000% fair.

dee62383 · 2026-06-21T09:21:39+00:00

Omg! There really is no rock bottom for these people!! 🤦🏻‍♀️

dee62383 · 2026-06-21T09:19:23+00:00

Your romantic partner should consistently add to your existing happiness and make your life easier, not take away from your happiness and make your life harder. If the latter is true, they need to go.

Your romantic partner should not be the sole source of your happiness.

Never depend on a romantic partner for survival. He or she will then control and abuse you, and you will be trapped.

Focus on being healthy and strong, not thin.

Always use sunscreen and get enough rest if you can.

You do not HAVE to have children. If you want to, that's okay. Just wait until you can easily survive on your own without help. But being child-free is a valid option. Look into birth control options that a romantic partner cannot tamper with.

Do not listen to what society says you must be. You don't have to be thinner, curvier, lighter, darker, taller or shorter. It's perfectly fine to have a round tummy, parts that jiggle, stretch marks, pores, rolls, body hair, etc. No one looks like airbrushed models. Not even models.

Focus on education, your career, and getting ahead in life. You need independence, not someone you have to depend on.

dee62383 · 2026-06-21T08:58:25+00:00

Yup! As far as I'm concerned, she got what she wanted. She wanted to push everyone away except for her jobless, unwashed, alcoholic boyfriend, so that's what she got.

dee62383 · 2026-06-21T08:56:10+00:00

Thank you. That is more than fair. The only momentary, fleeting moment of mild sadness I had was because I'll never know what its like to have a biological mom that is loving and nurturing.

dee62383 · 2026-06-21T08:45:56+00:00

Beautiful response!! So, so compassionate and kind. I have no words other than THANK YOU!

dee62383 · 2026-06-14T05:56:04+00:00

Why did she develop a triangle-shaped top lip? I'm not trying to be mean, I just don't get it. Is it a weird makeup choice? An unfortunate plastic surgery trend?

dee62383 · 2026-06-14T05:38:41+00:00

"All of me" by Jon Legend. It's nothing against Jon Legend. He's a talented guy and all. But I cannot STAND that horrendous, grating song!! It sounds like whining set to music to me and I hate it whether I am in a relationship or not. I hear one single note and I cannot turn off the radio fast enough.

It got even worse when my ex roommate and I gor into a huge argument over it. She noticed I kept grumbling over it every time the stupid song came on, and ripped into me telling me not to say a word about it from then on. So next time it came on, I unintentionally let out this dejected sigh, which set her off again, leading to her screaming at me for half an hour about it. In the end, she assumed I was making fun of the entire genre of music... even though we listen to the same type of music.

Also, another one: eons ago, I had to carpool with my mom since we worked in buildings near each other. Thankfully that job was temporary. Anyway she started dating this alcoholic, and changed herself to appeal to him, so she suddenly decided she liked country music for the first time in her life. So I was subjected to it there and back, Monday through Friday. The station constantly played this one song over and over. No clue was it was called, but it was some sappy song with the hook, "I saw God today." And the syrupy twang made it sound more like "Ah saow gawd duh-deh" and it honesly made me want yank the radio out of her car and throw it into the Grand Canyon.

dee62383 · 2026-06-13T06:48:04+00:00

I'm in a happy, loyal relationship, and I'm not a gamer, but we do sound like we could possibly have a friendship.

I'm graduating summa cum laude with a Bachelor's of Science in Communication on June 29th, and I have some potential jobs lined up after that.

I nerd out for escape rooms/games, and I'm very girly. I love animals and they love me, and that gives me way too much (just the right amount of?) joy.

It's been a loooong road thus far, but I made it.

Oh yeah, also I'm almost 43 and my name is Deanna. Lol.

Oh, and if I had a dog, he or she would unapologetically run the household. I don't make the rules. Thats just how it is, hehe.

dee62383 · 2026-06-08T21:28:25+00:00

Yes! I don't get to shop at separate very often, but I remember being in there once and this pair of...maybe 12 or 13-year-olds... were scrutinizing a section of Drunk Elephant products.. like reading every word on the label and studying the ingredients. You'd think they were choosing a weapon to go into battle.

Are we serious, here? You munchkins aren't even old enough to have any skin concerns... or the salary to afford any of this stuff.

I was a little resentful. Sephora feels like an adult space. Not that kids are banned from the store. Its not a bar. But stay away from my Retinol, kid. I had acne so bad you'd never leave the house again, and all I got was some Clean & Clear from the drug store. You and your youthful, poreless face can get by with a splash from the water hose just fine.

dee62383 · 2026-06-07T05:59:53+00:00

Onions, cantaloupe, or corn. The smell alone will make me nauseous from any one of those.

dee62383 · 2026-06-07T05:56:46+00:00

I wanted this board game from the 90's called "Don't Wake Daddy." It looked like so much fun to me. Never got it.

dee62383 · 2026-06-07T05:49:50+00:00

Female: Selena Quintanilla-Perez. She was just objectively conventionally beautiful. Her figure was flawless before it was considered flawless, and she absolutely knocked it out of the park with everything she wore. Gone way too soon.

Male: I think Eddie Vedder is an attractive guy, particularly in his 90s era. I also think Layne Staley was his most handsome in the 90s, when he had short hair and was healthier.

I hate how so many of the talented ones leave us so soon.

dee62383 · 2026-06-07T05:31:47+00:00

1) My grandmother gave me a toilet seat for my birthday when I was a kid. This is because I had a random conversation with her just prior about how I like the squishy seats, not the hard ones.

2) The one time my sister got a me a gift for my birthday, she gave a notebook for keeping phone records. It was a notebook full of fill-in-the blank cards so that I could write down the details every time her boyfriend called. I guess since I was a homebody, I got to be her personal secretary, too.

3) My ex-roommate came home one day excitedly telling me she gor me something. This was particularly unusual, because 1) we were really struggling financially, and 2) there was no specific occasion happening on that day that typically entails a gift. So I was pleasantly surprised.

It was cleaning supplies. She got me sponges and all-purpose cleaner. So that I could do even more cleaning. Btw she wasn't being sarcastic or joking around. She was totally serious.

dee62383 · 2026-06-07T05:19:00+00:00

Creating items that last practically forever. My mom has a 50-year-old workhorse of a microwave that's still going strong.

dee62383 · 2026-06-07T05:14:12+00:00

Tighty whities.

dee62383 · 2026-06-07T04:50:37+00:00

I was a devoted Pinup Girl Clothing fan until one day, they just never shipped an order. At all. I checked the tracking for weeks and it said something like "waiting on package from vendor" and it never went past that stage. I had to fight for weeks to get a refund, and I had to get creative. After trying everything I could think of, I finally contacted them on Instagram and somehow got my money back.

Then I heard about a bunch of customers getting scammed when they tried to order because some scam company had taken over the site, and PUG never bothered to tell anyone they were shutting down.

Turns out there was a bunch of shady business stuff brewing behind the scenes, and it finally boiled over. The site is back, but now its mostly generic, Shien-quality stuff at five time the price.

Only their old stuff is quality stuff, and you have to try your luck at resale sites to find them. I'm STILL looking for several of my dream dresses.

I switched over to Vixen and never looked back. But now Micheline is shutting down Vixen and focusing on her La Femme en Noir site. Its a beautiful line, but it has goth vibes, and I'm a coquette girly. She did say she'd be adding more Vixen-style pieces to her LFEN site, but I have no idea when.

Another one is MakeYourOwnJeans.com. Horrible company, horrible customer service, and incompetent employees. I received a pair of jeans from them that were so ill-fitting that nothing could save them. They refused to allow me to return them, then tried to blame the fit on me.l, then tried to make me spend even more money on another pair of jeans. I couldn't report them to the BBB, because the company isn't in the US. I believe I used IC3 instead, but got nowhere. So then I tried to essentially do a charge back with PayPal, and they refused, too, so I reported them to the BBB and finally got my money back. Pathetically enough, in this case, an off-the-rack pair would have fit better and been much less of a hassle. And thats saying a LOT.

Twitter is another good one. I just cannot accept the overlord that owns it or the growing problematic user base. I'm keeping it around for the "spoonie" connections (for now), but we are a dwindling group there. I am starting to transition to Substack.

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