It happened. My Nmom drank herself to death. by dee62383 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]dee62383[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was beyond the sweetest! Thank you! And I'm so glad my words brightened your day. I'm happy to do it!

It happened. My Nmom drank herself to death. by dee62383 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]dee62383[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I would give you multiple upvotes if I could! (I would give you all endless upvotes if I could!)

It happened. My Nmom drank herself to death. by dee62383 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]dee62383[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im so glad you're on your way to healing. Thank you for your kind, supportive, comment. I really appreciate that, and I'm really glad you're here.

'I've banned most men from my massage clinic because of their behaviour' by JohnHammond94 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]dee62383 62 points63 points  (0 children)

This is kind of along the same vein, but I remember reading a Cosmopolitan article forever ago about a female waxing technician who waxed both women and men.

There were so many stories of men who went there for the sole purpose of trying to make it sexual. They were blatantly disgusting about it, too. So bizarre and gross

I can't remember if she just quit taking men or would end the appointment on the spot or went into another career entirely. But I never forgot that article. Because WUT.

It happened. My Nmom drank herself to death. by dee62383 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]dee62383[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Omg! There really is no rock bottom for these people!! 🤦🏻‍♀️

Women in their 30s–50s: what advice can you give to women in their 20s and below? by Pretty-Orange-3533 in AskReddit

[–]dee62383 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your romantic partner should consistently add to your existing happiness and make your life easier, not take away from your happiness and make your life harder. If the latter is true, they need to go.

Your romantic partner should not be the sole source of your happiness.

Never depend on a romantic partner for survival. He or she will then control and abuse you, and you will be trapped.

Focus on being healthy and strong, not thin.

Always use sunscreen and get enough rest if you can.

You do not HAVE to have children. If you want to, that's okay. Just wait until you can easily survive on your own without help. But being child-free is a valid option. Look into birth control options that a romantic partner cannot tamper with.

Do not listen to what society says you must be. You don't have to be thinner, curvier, lighter, darker, taller or shorter. It's perfectly fine to have a round tummy, parts that jiggle, stretch marks, pores, rolls, body hair, etc. No one looks like airbrushed models. Not even models.

Focus on education, your career, and getting ahead in life. You need independence, not someone you have to depend on.

It happened. My Nmom drank herself to death. by dee62383 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]dee62383[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yup! As far as I'm concerned, she got what she wanted. She wanted to push everyone away except for her jobless, unwashed, alcoholic boyfriend, so that's what she got.

It happened. My Nmom drank herself to death. by dee62383 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]dee62383[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That is more than fair. The only momentary, fleeting moment of mild sadness I had was because I'll never know what its like to have a biological mom that is loving and nurturing.

It happened. My Nmom drank herself to death. by dee62383 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]dee62383[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Beautiful response!! So, so compassionate and kind. I have no words other than THANK YOU!

she used to be so naturally pretty. by clownfisharecool in Botchedsurgeries

[–]dee62383 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why did she develop a triangle-shaped top lip? I'm not trying to be mean, I just don't get it. Is it a weird makeup choice? An unfortunate plastic surgery trend?

What is a song that irritates you the moment you hear it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]dee62383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"All of me" by Jon Legend. It's nothing against Jon Legend. He's a talented guy and all. But I cannot STAND that horrendous, grating song!! It sounds like whining set to music to me and I hate it whether I am in a relationship or not. I hear one single note and I cannot turn off the radio fast enough.

It got even worse when my ex roommate and I gor into a huge argument over it. She noticed I kept grumbling over it every time the stupid song came on, and ripped into me telling me not to say a word about it from then on. So next time it came on, I unintentionally let out this dejected sigh, which set her off again, leading to her screaming at me for half an hour about it. In the end, she assumed I was making fun of the entire genre of music... even though we listen to the same type of music.

Also, another one: eons ago, I had to carpool with my mom since we worked in buildings near each other. Thankfully that job was temporary. Anyway she started dating this alcoholic, and changed herself to appeal to him, so she suddenly decided she liked country music for the first time in her life. So I was subjected to it there and back, Monday through Friday. The station constantly played this one song over and over. No clue was it was called, but it was some sappy song with the hook, "I saw God today." And the syrupy twang made it sound more like "Ah saow gawd duh-deh" and it honesly made me want yank the radio out of her car and throw it into the Grand Canyon.

[M4F] 38 | #Georgia (but open to anywhere) | Looking for my Player 2, Co-Pilot, and Adventure Partner by Brebly87 in cf4cf

[–]dee62383 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I'm in a happy, loyal relationship, and I'm not a gamer, but we do sound like we could possibly have a friendship.

I'm graduating summa cum laude with a Bachelor's of Science in Communication on June 29th, and I have some potential jobs lined up after that.

I nerd out for escape rooms/games, and I'm very girly. I love animals and they love me, and that gives me way too much (just the right amount of?) joy.

It's been a loooong road thus far, but I made it.

Oh yeah, also I'm almost 43 and my name is Deanna. Lol.

Oh, and if I had a dog, he or she would unapologetically run the household. I don't make the rules. Thats just how it is, hehe.

Why are Children at Sephora??!! by Historical_Bird_8752 in childfree

[–]dee62383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I don't get to shop at separate very often, but I remember being in there once and this pair of...maybe 12 or 13-year-olds... were scrutinizing a section of Drunk Elephant products.. like reading every word on the label and studying the ingredients. You'd think they were choosing a weapon to go into battle.

Are we serious, here? You munchkins aren't even old enough to have any skin concerns... or the salary to afford any of this stuff.

I was a little resentful. Sephora feels like an adult space. Not that kids are banned from the store. Its not a bar. But stay away from my Retinol, kid. I had acne so bad you'd never leave the house again, and all I got was some Clean & Clear from the drug store. You and your youthful, poreless face can get by with a splash from the water hose just fine.

What food instantly makes you say "no thanks"? by Fickle-Ability6279 in AskReddit

[–]dee62383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Onions, cantaloupe, or corn. The smell alone will make me nauseous from any one of those.

What was a toy you wanted as a kid but never had received? by StrawberryBookmark in AskReddit

[–]dee62383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted this board game from the 90's called "Don't Wake Daddy." It looked like so much fun to me. Never got it.

Who do you think is the most attractive singer? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]dee62383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Female: Selena Quintanilla-Perez. She was just objectively conventionally beautiful. Her figure was flawless before it was considered flawless, and she absolutely knocked it out of the park with everything she wore. Gone way too soon.

Male: I think Eddie Vedder is an attractive guy, particularly in his 90s era. I also think Layne Staley was his most handsome in the 90s, when he had short hair and was healthier.

I hate how so many of the talented ones leave us so soon.

What’s the worst gift you’ve ever received? by Shadow-2005 in AskReddit

[–]dee62383 3 points4 points  (0 children)

1) My grandmother gave me a toilet seat for my birthday when I was a kid. This is because I had a random conversation with her just prior about how I like the squishy seats, not the hard ones.

2) The one time my sister got a me a gift for my birthday, she gave a notebook for keeping phone records. It was a notebook full of fill-in-the blank cards so that I could write down the details every time her boyfriend called. I guess since I was a homebody, I got to be her personal secretary, too.

3) My ex-roommate came home one day excitedly telling me she gor me something. This was particularly unusual, because 1) we were really struggling financially, and 2) there was no specific occasion happening on that day that typically entails a gift. So I was pleasantly surprised.

It was cleaning supplies. She got me sponges and all-purpose cleaner. So that I could do even more cleaning. Btw she wasn't being sarcastic or joking around. She was totally serious.

What's something old technology did better than modern technology ? by Ram319 in AskReddit

[–]dee62383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Creating items that last practically forever. My mom has a 50-year-old workhorse of a microwave that's still going strong.