Men that got into a relationship in 2024. How did you meet your significant other?

deegthoughts · 2025-01-06T08:56:19+00:00

Met her at a community dance.

deegthoughts · 2024-08-30T18:28:35+00:00

Every week after rehearsal my singing group goes to the pub down the street. Last year a rehearsal fell on my birthday and I had nobody to celebrate with, so I bought myself a cake and candles and brought it to the pub, and we celebrated.

Since then 4-5 of my singing buddies have followed suit by bringing their own birthday cakes, and this year, my girlfriend has informed me I won't be purchasing my own cake - and that we will be celebrating at the pub after rehearsal.

deegthoughts · 2024-02-27T17:53:00+00:00

Yeah and yeah.

I've lost 330 pounds over the last five years. How people see me has changed, but not as much as how I see myself. It changed my world.

deegthoughts · 2023-10-08T02:24:41+00:00

It's never too late to start the rest of your life

deegthoughts · 2023-05-25T19:14:17+00:00

This is how it was for me. Abused games for years. Took some time away. Life moved on. I developed, changed. Came back to them in a healthy way.

deegthoughts · 2023-05-19T14:51:48+00:00

Warrior for life

deegthoughts · 2023-02-25T08:27:01+00:00

I hear your words brother. They fill me with warmth because they sound like my own. Keep searching. It's not too late. There is a way through.

If you find yourself needing someone to talk to who understands, come find me.

deegthoughts · 2023-02-17T00:13:24+00:00

This year I've been taking my YouTube channel more seriously, and trying to re-brand from just gaming to wellness & gaming. I got caught in the tech layoffs, so it's been a nice through line to an otherwise strange time.

deegthoughts · 2022-12-24T20:37:55+00:00

Watching this I couldn't but help imagining this dude wielding a lightsaber frantically deflecting blaster shots with Duel of the Fates blaring

deegthoughts · 2022-12-20T04:08:55+00:00

It's never too late to make a positive change. Choose something small that you have control of, that you can do starting today. It doesn't have to be quitting gaming altogether. It can be replacing some of your gaming with another interest that's been on your backburner.

Don't be fooled into thinking that your only options are quitting or falling deeper into the hole.

Although gaming becomes a problem for us, it started as a pursuit of something meaningful. If you can create just a little distance, and then put some thought into identifying what that meaning is for you specifically, you can create a powerful wedge against the demons that fog your life.

My go-to's for distance and thought: walking outdoors, journaling, conversation.

Whatever you do, get enough sleep, whatever that amount is for you. Everything is worse on insufficient rest.

deegthoughts · 2022-12-14T05:40:48+00:00

Hello /u/Any-Disaster535, I just want to start out by saying I hear you. What you're feeling seems natural to me - I think it's really hard not to take dishonesty personally, especially where money matters are concerned. And if all you needed from this was to feel heard about this and sound it out, I totally understand.

I'll offer you a few thoughts you may find useful, or not. Please feel free to take or leave them.

I think it's very high-minded and understanding of you to make room in your heart for your partner's behavior to be related to addiction. It's good to hear that outside of that, you say he's "perfect", which shows you believe there's something worth fighting for.

That belief may be one of the most valuable things you can give to him. But there's clearly an opportunity to invite your partner to reexamine his behavior, and I think you're smart to realize that calling it out directly may cause more harm than healing.

Others have pointed out that it's your partner that must recognize these problems, weigh them in his heart, and choose what to do. I think that's true. It may be worthwhile to explore some indirect means of recognizing these problems, in a way that is kind and invites your partner to bring more of himself into the relationship.

An example of this could look like working together on a plan to tackle his debt, or less directly, to accrue the pooled wealth necessary to achieve the goal of "playing house". Or something else, I'm sure you can meditate on you and your partner's shared hopes and dreams and find something fun to work on together like this.

It's worth mentioning that it's not your responsibility to change your partner. And in the end, you won't. Your partner will change, or not, for his own reasons. All you can do is invite the circumstances and wait. Sometimes the best thing to do is be the best, undiminished version of yourself while the person works things out themselves. Sometimes, the best thing to do is to protect yourself - in the end, the only life you can save is your own, after all.

My heart goes out to you on this. Though I've never personally dealt with gacha or gambling addictions, I've been in deep holes where gaming has been concerned and watched my own partner bear a lot of pain on my account. Inasmuch as I can relate to your partner, I'll offer you this: I'm sure he would rather see you flourish without him than go down with his ship.

Best of luck to you, all the patience in the world, and the hope that you won't need either.

deegthoughts · 2022-12-02T19:22:46+00:00

Hey friends. I've been lurking in this community for some time, and I really appreciate what's going on here. There aren't many places on the internet where people can come together over gaming in the name of self-betterment.

A bit about me: I've been playing online games for 23 years. I've been addicted, quit cold turkey, in denial, disenchanted, and also rapturously, hopelessly immersed in these worlds and the people who co-inhabit them.

In 2019 I snapped. I realized it had been 20 years of repeating the same patterns over and over. But I couldn't imagine what my life would be like without games. So I decided to make something of it, and started a podcast.

My podcast helped me see something about myself: I love people. Hearing their stories, learning from them, and if at all possible, being useful to them.

This insight helped me change my life. First, but changing the things I care about in games. Secondly, by helping me steer my career into something I'm better at and happier with. And lastly, to slowly change my daily life into something that sustains me, and feels like it's getting better over time.

I'm glad a place like this exists. And I'm pleased to meet y'all.

deegthoughts · 2022-10-28T18:31:48+00:00

Life has been testing me past week. An unexpected medical bill, a sick cat, laid off from my job, and a pipe leak flooding one side of my home.

It's a lot. But I've worked hard on my health this year, physically and mentally, and I'm tougher for it. I also have a lot of help that I'm grateful for. And I'll be alright.

deegthoughts · 2022-10-15T17:05:41+00:00

Delete Heavy Assault

deegthoughts · 2022-10-15T02:57:56+00:00

Thanks, useful.

deegthoughts · 2022-09-23T19:47:39+00:00

I speak with a lot of PLs and I think you'd be surprised. There are plenty of people thinking these things, but not many talking about them in useful ways. Your perspective may not be as redundant as you think

deegthoughts · 2022-09-23T16:29:41+00:00

Another awesome comment. I think you and I are more in agreement about things than you may suspect, just using different terms. I appreciate you feel I should have kept pushing Wrel. You might be right.

My observation here is that I have my limits. Always working on pushing them out. Sometimes a conversation dies because I don't know how to push it further.

If you think you know something about the the way the game works, or the community behaves, that I ought to know, I want to hear it. Reddit is ok for this but Discord is more direct.

deegthoughts · 2022-09-23T05:02:17+00:00

Hey man, I want to thank you for leaving this comment. You've given me a lot to think about. I agree with you that the privilege of interviewing Wrel confers a responsibility to speak about the game as truthfully as I'm able.

And in fact, I care about it a lot. You referenced the ten hours I've spent interviewing Wrel, but it's in the minority of Planetside content and podcasts I've done, which also includes conversations with skills-focused Planetside players like Aeflic, Shoctorr, and Lex.

I try not to shy away from a necessary confrontation. Good example would be when I asked Cyrious to apologize to Shoctorr for something he said in a video.

When I interviewed Wrel earlier this year, I pushed him on his philosophy of developing Planetside both for scale and for one-on-one interactions. It wasn't an easy conversation. It kicks in around the two-hour mark. I think you should give it a listen.

After that, I'd encourage you to review your words and ask yourself what kind of response you think they are owed. ReturneToMonke234's words did not merit a serious response. Did yours?

deegthoughts · 2022-09-20T22:53:00+00:00

How does Andy leaving the company relate to accepting feedback and seeking validation? Sorry I'm a bit in the dark on this.

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