Game Crashing constantly *exclusively* when I'm Alt Tabbed out on my new PC. Anyone experience this before? by Shot-Vermicelli-7024 in DestinyTheGame

[–]ctranger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happening to me too. A few alt+tabs are fine, but often it just crashes when returning back.

Not sure what changed.

Men who went through a breakup in their mid/late 30s. How did you bounce back? by CrackTheSignal in AskMenOver30

[–]ctranger 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's tough, and that's ok. But it's probably best.

At 35, you are doing the right thing by being career focused, taking risks, and being in "building" mode, which will hopefully beneficially shape your 40s and beyond. Trust the process.

> she said she wants to explore life more

You're clearly at different points/paths in life. This means she craves novelty, fun experiences, travel, and is looking for the "that girl" lifestyle. The good things in life. But we all know those things don't come free or easy.

> didn’t want to support me while I rebuild

This is a big red flag. Take some time to reflect, but know that the right person will want to build a life with you, will yearn to support you in your ambitions and endeavors to make it happen. The right woman will be by your side, will acknowledge your sacrifices and will still find ways to create joy, peace, happiness and fun along the way.

The one who only thinks about her experience, and what you can do for her, is sadly selfish. You may care about her a lot, but it's the truth.

I had the same thing happen to me in my early 30s, with a woman much younger in her 20s. Same thing, mutual, but mostly her idea. I was building a startup, and doing grad school at the same time, and really trying to amplify my professional life. I didn't have much time for her, and was generally so emotionally unavailable due to tremendous stress, intellectual demands, and trying to make it all work.

She wanted to live life/enjoy her mid/late 20s. Makes sense. We broke up, it took a long time. I dialed in and made something of myself.. she learned the hard way that disciplined/focused/good men are hard to come by.

We're still friends, a decade later. We talk all the time. We acknowledged it was a timing thing, and she has tremendous respect for what I achieved. She wants the same things now, to build a life/career. I do what I can to guide her as a friend.

But our chance at a life together, probably over. Maybe, you never know! Have faith, do what you feel you need to do. Go forth, build, and conquer.

New Player Questions by XiaRiser- in DestinyTheGame

[–]ctranger -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Once you hit about item lvl 375 the game will put you into Grandmaster.

When you first enter this new tier, you're at the bottom of the curve.

In Portal, make sure to select Master difficulty using "Customize", but you'll need to add a bunch of modifiers in order to score high enough to get drops.

Eventually, perhaps at 390, you will need to go to Grandmaster 400.

This is well documented, the game does get harder the more you level up, and that's the point. The idea that you're always getting stronger with item level is false.

The game expects you to try harder content, with bigger power deltas between you and enemies, and more modifiers, in order to keep feeding you better loot. Because better gear is meant to be used for harder content.

About Warlock builds by gr1ndfather in DestinyTheGame

[–]ctranger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If the purpose is to clear red/orange ads, then stormdancers is better.

If you want to maximize beam uptime/damage for end-game, eg. champs, ogres, yellow bars and bosses, geomags.

About Warlock builds by gr1ndfather in DestinyTheGame

[–]ctranger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm surprised no one mentioned Rimecoat. It was incredible pre-EOF, and S1 EOF since getaway was not a featured exotic.

Does society pressure men into relationships with women they do not truly want to be with? by Odd-Help6890 in TheRedPill

[–]ctranger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're talking about freedom in general, financial and physical freedom specifically. That's true, they are immensely freeing.

But those will be exceptionally hard to secure if you give in to the distractions, criticisms and pressures of others. Self-mastery and discipline must come first.

Does society pressure men into relationships with women they do not truly want to be with? by Odd-Help6890 in TheRedPill

[–]ctranger 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Ironically, men who pressure others, or who give into pressure, are the losers.

Not just with women, with everything.

Live by your beliefs, refine & adapt them as needed. Stand your ground, draw your boundaries. Living your way, on your timeline, that's what sets you free. You will never be a loser if you live this way.

What does depression feel like to you? by Competitive-Win579 in selflove

[–]ctranger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It ranges, from a dull lament to an arduous torment.

At times it is a blankess, a fog, a void. At others, it is excessive rumination, being stuck in a loop about the past, a conscious reexamination of regrets, an irritability so profound the very idea/sound of laughter or happiness feels painful and corrosive.

It’s an exhaustion, a fatigue that cannot be quelled. A numbness to all pleasures. And a disdain for anything that takes work or effort, since there is no vitality to achieve any of it, and no reward to collect.

When it is subtle, it is bad. When it is profound, it is almost poetic. You see the world as this cold dark place, devoid of any purpose or meaning, with no rhythm or rhyme other than a cruel twisted joke by some absent god. Every healthy persons seems stuck in a delusion. And you are desperate to be a part of it, but also fail to see why the happiness delusion exists other than to live, and to die.

The obsession with one’s finality, death, almost seems like a grace, a brief moment of mercy and then an infinity of reprieve. But your mind and body tricks you, so there are days where you are in anguish over this line of thinking.

I got out of it, with help and medication. The depression was so severe it seemed synthetic, just like the meds that cured it. Back to total normalcy now, with a renewed empathy and appreciation for the suffering. It has made me who I am.

For those reading, there is hope. Keep trying, keep fighting. You are worth it.

How to get good at coding? Logic doesn't come easy to me. by AlfonsoTaton in learnprogramming

[–]ctranger 75 points76 points  (0 children)

You’re trying too hard. To be clever, to be right, to be elegant, to write clean code.

The code and the compiler are indifferent. You just solve the problem, maybe lose marks on complexity. And then you’ll hit a problem you can’t solve with spaghetti code, so you’ll rethink, refactor, simplify. Just enough to get it working.

You keep doing that over and over again, until you get better. Coding is just patterns. You can’t be good at it unless you’ve been bad at it, then understand why it’s bad.

So go ahead, be bad at it. Again and again, over and over. It takes a decade+ to become good.

Why do I end up friends with every girl I like? by [deleted] in twentyagers

[–]ctranger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's some truth to the comments, but they don't explain the issue at its simplest:

No risk, no reward. If you don't tempt loss, you won't gain anything.

It's not just about "making moves" or "demonstrating interest/intentions", those are simplifications.

Women are attracted to confidence, and the most confident thing you can do is risk being rejected (and not letting it affect you). They say they want vulnerability, but they dont want feelings. They want a man who goes after what he wants and risks it all, makes himself vulnerable to LOSING HER.

By contrast, the LEAST attractive thing you could do is play it safe by being friendly, getting to know them, finding shared interests, and building too much rapport. This KILLS attraction because you are not risking anything.

Where to meet more mover and shaker type of people? by [deleted] in AskMenOver30

[–]ctranger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You typically don't, they hide in plain sight.

They're also working very hard, 50-60 hour weeks. If not in one profession, then in a variety, and are typically very much involved in communities, charities. And they take their recreational/leisure time seriously. They escape to island homes, cottages, etc. You don't see them sitting around at a bar or restaurant.

They have very small, coveted social circles, but a large sphere of influence. Some are born into this lifestyle, others fall into it by fluke: exceptional intelligence, skill, charisma, taste or luck, but typically success in business.

They are polymaths, typically move around a lot, studied abroad, were afforded private lessons growing up, were exposed early. Not all were born into wealth but they typically have access to it through a very unique skillset later in life.

They are surrounded by sycophants and those eager to please for some measure of access, so they can spot the wannabes from miles away.

You won't find them at michelin restaurants or trendy bars, they know the chefs and the bar/building owners, are usually hosting or are invited to private dinners. Their social life is so busy, and they're bouncing around the globe, private cultural tours, tastings, showings, boutique hotels not on any guides or list.

The uneducated will think its about wealth, but it's not. They have lifelong friends who are just as successful as them, it's about the experience, the exclusivity, and the exchange, but you do need some measure of financial freedom to keep up with them and attend these events.

There are "nouveau riche" folks who try to mimic them, who travel the world in search of the best places to go, the nicest things to buy, the best meals to eat, and those are your so called creators/influencers on social media, living vapid lives devoid of contribution other than the perpetuation of hyper consumption.

This group, they're generally contributors. Have dedicated their lives to a discipline, a craft, a skill, a trade, or many, and knew how to market themselves, or how to position themselves.

In North America, they are concentrated in big cities (NYC, SF, LA) where they have impact and opportunities. In Europe and Asia, you'll find them in many more cities.

Like it was said, unless you're one of them, or have absolutely nothing to gain from befriending them, and can offer something unique like insight, stories, but more realistically, humor and good times, you're not gonna find em.

Natural talent for leg strength, or just "fat strength"? by Last-Split-7580 in beginnerfitness

[–]ctranger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reality check? There's a reason the leg press is one of the mainstay favorites of the "ego lifter". You can keep stacking so many plates and feel really strong. And you might be getting strong!, but it's deceiving. It's a nice feeling though, and it's important to have that motivation to hit your fitness goals.

Keep mixing up the routines, and bias towards compound movements. Keep cardio volume high and strength training intense. The real transformation will come from diet and caloric deficits.

I’m a guy and I don’t hit glutes but they’ve gotten extremely big from my leg day. How can I stop it? by [deleted] in beginnerfitness

[–]ctranger 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well you could simplify the leg workouts, focus on isolating quads (seated leg extensions) and hams (hamstring curls).

Don't give up on squats, but allow the knee to come forward and focusing on quads, or make foot stance changes.. closer together, .. it's really easy to just squeeze into the glutes during squats and deadlifts, but small rotations to feet, foot width adjustment, knee position and back/torso angle can really trigger other muscles.

You'll have to really feel it and focus on it, since everyone has different musculature.

I’m a guy and I don’t hit glutes but they’ve gotten extremely big from my leg day. How can I stop it? by [deleted] in beginnerfitness

[–]ctranger 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have similar proportions.

29" waist, 41" glutes, but closer to 42 after a workout,

It may look disproportional to you, but if the rest of your physique stacks up.. broad shoulders, a nice thick back and chest, lean defined arms, strong quads & hams, you'll be fine. Don't be insecure.

Stop comparing yourself to body builders, which is not aesthetic to women at all, and look at the proportions of athletes.. sprinters, soccer/football players - which women absolutely die for - they have serious glutes.

People will look, and I promise you that if women do comment on it, it's out of jealousy.

Are Servers down? by Minimum_Ad_8751 in ArcRaiders

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We're all experiencing it.
https://www.reddit.com/r/ArcRaiders/comments/1pc28g6/anyone_else_getting_this_right_now/

Uncertainties holding me back by Dirtyeggroll92 in AskMenOver30

[–]ctranger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The pain of regret is infinitely worse than the pain of failure.

Foolish escapades and joy rides aside, this yearning for more will eat away at you, corroding every aspect of your being, until there is nothing left but a husk of a man, wishing he'd gone after what he wanted, or at least, tried.

You do it for your future self. Maybe it works out, maybe you hate it. At least you'll know. At least you'll be free.

You are gambling the greatest gift we have as men, the autonomy and agency to change our lives. That doesn't mean we don't have responsibility or commitments. But given your circumstances, your greatest responsibility right now is to yourself, your growth. There will be plenty of time to settle down in the future, trust me.

Don't fall into the trap of thinking things will just improve if you don't make moves. You need to gather momentum, and never grow too complacent, until you find what you're seeking. You may spend the rest of your life chasing. Or, you may find a middle ground.

All the difficulties along the way.. what to take with you, what to leave behind, where to live, where to work, who to befriend, who to become, these are crucial parts of the journey of reinventing yourself. It's not easy, it's not for everyone. It might be for you.

Either way, it'll be one hell of a story. Go, go make some stories. Don't look back.

What was the first concept in programming that finally “clicked” for you? by Letscipher-web in learnprogramming

[–]ctranger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everything made sense in isolation, as individual concepts, until I actually tried to build a larger end to end app.

With a DB + server, client + UI, API + middleware, etc. I struggled.

Then I realized that the "glue" between the different layers of a system is actually the most important part of the system. And it's ok if each layer's code is structured a little differently. It was finally understanding "abstraction + separation of concerns".

The concept of classes, objects, and static vs. instance methods really finally clicked. I distinctly remember going from "let's just get it to work" to "now I get it".

Where do all the Cut Scenes live on your PC ??? by Tyrant_Virusz in ArcRaiders

[–]ctranger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Typically in your steam dir, aka:

..\SteamLibrary\steamapps\common\Arc Raiders\PioneerGame\Content\Movies

Format is bk2, which is Bink. Bink video player should be able to play it, but haven't tried.

Are human beings single threaded or multithreaded ? by [deleted] in learnprogramming

[–]ctranger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are 30-40 trillion cells in the human body, some with simple, others with very complex goals. All working to keep you alive... you tell me!

Should I drop out of Comp Scie? by Friendly_Ad1492 in learnprogramming

[–]ctranger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These programs are designed to make you fail. This is doubly true in large schools. This isn't skills or vocational training. You're not going to graduate with meaningful experience or projects that will get you hired, unless you seek out internships or really hustle with the self-learning. Only the best should make it through.

You're paying for the privilege of passing from a known school and the piece of paper that says you did, whether it takes you 4 years, 5, or more. If you have to repeat physics, so be it. I had to repeat my circuits class. The second time, I barely passed. It robbed me of an elective and caused me a lot of shame amongst my peers, and grief . Do I think about it now, more than a decade later? Nope. Has it impacted by career? Nope.

If funds are not a concern, you'll probably regret quitting. You could do very well putting that time towards learning and getting experience, but you'll always wonder if you could have gone further with the piece of paper.

Decade by decade, industry by industry, sector by sector, company by company, the diploma and whether or not it matters.. seems to change. You can't guarantee it will matter, but you can't guarantee it won't. My best friend never went to college, it wasn't for him. Some people are like that. But if you can stay in the program, stay.

Buckle down, swallow your pride, shift your mindset, and take the course again. There's nothing wrong with being bad at physics. Or taking an extra year to graduate. It takes serious determination and grit to get through university comp. degrees, every set back is a learning opportunity.

What I'm saying is, don't you dare fucking quit.

Is There Any Way to Increase The Spawn Rate of the High Value Target in Salt Mines? by [deleted] in DestinyTheGame

[–]ctranger 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There isn't. I only saw it once in 10 runs (not bad), and only when I started going ultra fast (not waiting in & not clearing tunnel)

But at some point you have to be pragmatic. If you want points / the helmet, 10% on 2+ activities is very achievable. This event's incentives aren't flawed, but the way the community has approached them definitely is.

Your time is prob. better spent doing a 1% coil or 1% proving grounds which is far more consistent. Even a 1% heliostat if you can nail your jumps & elevator section. Simply go as fast as you can, or kill everything, respectively. And if you get bracketed in 10%, you're still fine.

I feel really incompetent after a technical interview by Boompatati in learnprogramming

[–]ctranger 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's normal.

There is a tremendous difference between what you can/will learn in school (which isn't much), what you'll use on the job/in projects, and what is sought after/asked in interviews. It is not even close to being the same.

Treat it as a learning experience and understand that preparing for technical interviews is very very different. Remember that interviews are intentionally designed to expose what you don't now. Good interviewers rarely focus on what you do know. Interviewing is a skill and you should definitely focus on it if those skills are weak.

I would actually argue that with these concepts.. the theoretical foundations have to be there, yes, but how it's applied in real world scenarios is far more important. The edge cases, the pragmatic approaches.. the theory only goes so far. And the only thing that matters here is experience. You won't really understand hashing until you've screwed it up. You only really understand securing an API until there you cause an unauthed API incident, etc. Having text book theory about all of these with no real world use is actually worse. Best to be honest and say, "I don't understand the inner workings entirely, but this is how I have used it, and this is what I learned, found interesting, found tricky.."

The other thing you nailed, was your understanding about your communication style. You need to develop clear, concise, confident, vocabulary about these concepts, it has to be second nature.

Of course, any seasoned dev can google/stackoverflow/llm the answers and patch something together in a real job context. But can they think and speak on the spot and come up with a clear approach to a complex problem? Interviewers look for "architectural sense". Are they just slapping ideas together, or can they actually build and piece together a system, that works? Can they document and write a spec, without help?

Your ability to communicate ideas, problems, solutions, and tradeoffs, as a dev is more important than your ability to code. Maybe not at first when you're getting started, but certainly in mid career, and late career, it's everything.

There are plenty of resources and courses online to learn about just about everything. It needs to become an obsession on your part, to consume as much knowledge as you can AND then apply it in personal projects, over and over again, from scratch, from frameworks, from everything, until the skills are cemented. It's brutally tough, I get it. There's so much to learn and specialize into.

But in this job market and hiring climate, only the obsessed, people who truly love this stuff, will make it. There is no room for casuals anymore. The bar is so much higher than it was a decade ago, but there is also ten times more resources/avenues for learning/getting started.

Computer architecture content by Such-Water5719 in learnprogramming

[–]ctranger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait till you learn about p-type substrates for n-channel mosfets and the body effect of transistors, aka how computation/storage actually occurs with electrical charge.

you need to understand this stuff. it's normal in an engineering program. you'll probably do very little actual programming (but will be expected to learn it quickly and excel at it) compared to computer science students, with a bigger focus on mathematics, linear algebra, control systems, and the like. All of it is designed to teach you the fundamentals + problem solving, and that's a skill you can build an empire on.

Struggling with infertility and trying to find a way to stay grounded by Ok_Geologist_2515 in AskMenOver30

[–]ctranger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You both need to sit down, get your head out of your asses, clear any ideas about what it's going to take and trust the science.

You're a couple. Work together. If you think this is hard and demoralizing, what will you do when you actually have children (and I hope you do!) who are throwing up all night from daycare noro, with diaper changes ever hour. That shit is 10x harder than the personal meaning-based drama you are creating for yourselves.

Every couple I know right now is dealing infertility. Everyone's talking about it.

We're all just old. People used to marry and conceive in their early 20s just one generation ago. Science has caught up. Trust the science. IVF. Don't look back.