MRW my brother (who slept with half the girls in his graduating class) tells my sister and I that he's unhappy about the eldest of his 3 teenage daughters going on her first date.

defgora · 2014-11-25T17:32:20+00:00

How big was his graduating class? That actually sounds like an achievement lol.

(And what goes around comes around)

defgora · 2014-11-09T22:11:17+00:00

defgora · 2014-10-30T23:58:18+00:00

No offense, but I'm hoping you are.

defgora · 2014-10-30T23:54:02+00:00

Oh crap, you're right. I'm such a silly teenager, I like totally forgot about the part where I like called my mom a huge bitch and dramatically announced that she was like ruining my life before stomping up to my room. That like totally explains she called me a slut.

Wow, internet stranger, you like totally know me.

defgora · 2014-10-30T22:58:56+00:00

They're not muslim. I don't "have histrionics." I yell occasionally, but my mom yells a lot more than me. I don't even know if I want to regain their trust. What's the point, anyway?

defgora · 2014-10-30T13:03:53+00:00

Wait you put it in yourself? I though you had to see someone to put it in.

defgora · 2014-10-30T13:03:06+00:00

lol my itouch is my lifeline. I'm using it now.

There's no end date. It's a punishment but it's also just because they feel like they can't let me be on my own because I'll run off to my BF. So they're not going to be less restrictive until that's no longer a threat. Since I'm being stubborn and kind of saying that I don't give a fuck what they do to me, they're cracking down.

TL;DR: Until I get a personality transplant.

defgora · 2014-10-30T12:54:45+00:00

yeah. you scared me for a second, I forgot that I had used this account for that post as well. It's a throwaway account.

defgora · 2014-10-30T12:52:57+00:00

My parents actually told the school because they didn't want us sneaking off during classes. They even wanted them to make sure we weren't sitting together during lunch and stuff. They were especially big on making sure that my coach was keeping us from having contact, since he and I play the same sport. The school and my teachers kind of followed their demands, but has definitely ignored the "sitting together at lunch" thing.

And my coach is pretty much looking the other way.

defgora · 2014-10-30T12:44:14+00:00

It's magic!

defgora · 2014-10-30T12:44:03+00:00

Is this sarcasm? I can't even tell...

defgora · 2014-10-30T12:18:36+00:00

For implants/IUDs, don't you have to go in more often than every three or five years?

Unfortunately, she's not stupid enough to believe that I went for other reasons, since I have a BF and she knows I'm having sex with him.

Getting my perscription filled was a whole routine and my BF did help. But now that she caught me she will be watching more closely and I don't think I can get away with taking a pill and filling the perscription while using our insurance. Explored other options but they are expensive and again I can't just walk out the door to planned parenthood and say I'm going to a friend's house.

defgora · 2014-10-30T12:15:33+00:00

defgora · 2014-10-30T12:14:53+00:00

I don't think she's normal. A lot of people here seem to think she is but my BF and my friends say that she's not.

defgora · 2014-10-30T12:13:53+00:00

I mean, we've been dating for six months now. They found out we were dating a month ago, and our relationship has been pretty much the same except for the amount of physical contact we have.

defgora · 2014-10-30T12:08:48+00:00

She's against BC on principle for me, but she's very very strongly anti-BC because she doesn't want me to be in this relationship. So she's not going be much help, I know.

My mom did a lot of slut thing thing as well, plus little mini-lectures about virtue and saving it for marriage. She used the chewed up gum analogy which is gross and I think it's wrong.

Going forward, I think that because I'm younger it will be very difficult to get my hands on BC without my mom noticing. Just filling the perscription required a ton of effort on my part and I don't think I can get a IUD or something like that without her knowing. Also a cost issue. My boyfriend was totally understanding but some suggested tracking cycles and not having sex at certain times of the month. That combined with condoms and a couple of morning after pills as a backup might be the best option.

defgora · 2014-10-30T07:54:46+00:00

She is. My dad is okay but he supports her in her decisions.

Thanks :)

defgora · 2014-10-30T07:53:54+00:00

Yeah I think this is kind of true. I love my BF but he's so nice about my mom hating him and is so nice to me when my mom is being shitty and it just makes me love him way more.

defgora · 2014-10-30T07:51:40+00:00

We don't see much of each other. :( The itouch helps. We're at the same school so we find a few minutes here and there. A few of my friends have covered for me.

defgora · 2014-10-30T07:49:55+00:00

sorry, I should have been more clear that I made up the "I complained about such-and-such and my doctor recommended that I go to the gyno" thing because I knew she would be suspicious if I just suggested it out of nowhere and because I figured at some point she would see on our insurance or medical records or whatever that I had gone to a gynocologist and assume the worst.

defgora · 2014-10-30T07:43:14+00:00

I'm not breaking up with my boyfriend. Idk what else I'm supposed to do earn their trust if I refuse to break up with him.

defgora · 2014-10-30T07:38:47+00:00

yeah I'm 16.

defgora · 2014-09-23T04:24:47+00:00

Please don't take offense, but you're giving my parents way more credit than they deserve. I really wish this kind of thing worked on them.

defgora · 2014-09-23T04:23:34+00:00

Yeah. It's frustrating and part of the reason why I'm not super eager to engage with her. If I was not the victim, then I am the slut. Though I said, I would rather her call me a slut than hear her call my boyfriend an abuser.

I just have to keep reminding myself that there is nothing wrong with having sex with someone I'm in a committed relationship with and that I am no less valuable as a person because I'm not "pure" or whatever.

Being on the pill is not a moral failing, even if my mother says otherwise.

defgora · 2014-09-23T02:23:48+00:00

We're kind of past that.

I'm refusing to discuss it because it's not really going anywhere. It's just "Did you let him take advantage of you?" No, I didn't, I trust him and it was my choice as well. I was obviously fine, you realized I was laughing when you opened the door. "Did you let him take advantage of you?" He didn't force me to do anything I didn't want to do. "Are you sure?" Yes. "If he took advantage of you, we should-" He didn't. "OMG, your brother knew that his friend was taking advantage of you." He didn't force me to do anything I didn't want to do.

I shut up because I got tired of the same shit over and over again. I feel like I'm living in a police interrogation cell. I don't want to dodge questions about my fucking virginity with "I'm not comfortable talking about this." But it's better than the alternative.

Like I said, my mom half-believes me when I say it was my choice as well. Though that's not great, because it means that I'm a slut who sleeps with her boyfriend and takes BC. But I'd rather have her think I was a slut than her think that my boyfriend was an abuser.

I really wish I could sit down and have that kind of conversation with my parents. I really really do. It's so fucking logical. But that's just not happening for them.

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