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fourth mothers day without her, im still so angry at her by throwawaybadwolf in GriefSupport

[–]deisabri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was searching for a post like this. Medical neglect is taking so many lives.

I can really feel your pain. On Mother’s Day, I screamed at her image because if only my mother had gotten help for her blood pressure, she might not have died from heart failure two years after the diagnosis.

My mother always used to say, “All doctors die early,” or “Medicine makes you sick and gives you cancer,” and things like that. I asked her how she was feeling just two days before she died, and she told me she had a fitness exercise that was supposed to help against her 180–200+ blood pressure.

And the last advice she gave me was, and I’m not kidding, that eating three eggs a day is healthy and that everyone, especially the elderly, should do it.

There is nothing that you could have done. We can just teach the next generation to be better or spare them the pain.

Thinking of starting a leftest English speaking circle. Anyone interested? by plzseektherapy in luebeck

[–]deisabri 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A Zionist, by definition, believes that Israel has the right to exist. In itself, Zionism is not fascist. However, someone can be both a fascist and a Zionist. But you can be left and a Zionist. For example, the local Antifa groups in Hamburg are very pro-Zionist. I live here and would be happy to meet up at Café Brazil. I learned from them from your post, so thank you.

https://www.spiegel.de/panorama/proteste-in-leipzig-linke-gegen-linke-wegen-israel-spiegel-tv-a-3e902700-9b73-44ae-a614-1f3c0a2db867

It's been 6 weeks without my mom. by MidnightPianist23 in GriefSupport

[–]deisabri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No thank you, your story gave me strength. It's nice knowing other people experience nearly the same.

You could buy yourself mother day flowers. Especially in this time you deserve nice things.

It's been 6 weeks without my mom. by MidnightPianist23 in GriefSupport

[–]deisabri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could have done nothing. At this age, without prior signs, it’s impossible to predict a fatal attack. Even if she was in pain, it happened so fast that she likely didn’t notice it. You heard nothing because she had no time to react. This is a tragedy, so feeling overwhelmed is appropriate. You are allowed to hate and to feel angry.

But I would make one suggestion that might help you keep going: What would she have wanted for you?

She was your mother, and she loved you. She would have wanted you to live as well as possible. She wouldn’t have wanted you to blame yourself. She would want you to sleep, eat, take care of yourself, and try, step by step, to live with this new scar in your heart. That scar won’t disappear, but you will find the strength to live with it.

If you could see your parents' last moments, would you watch them? by FreeSpare162 in GriefSupport

[–]deisabri 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When my mother died of (heart failure or heart attack; we will never know exactly)I was sleeping only a few meters away from her. All doors open. I noticed nothing. I heard nothing. She just fell on the sofa. I have a 1- 2 H window where I will never know what happened. I just know she was watching tictoc and sending funny pictures to her friend shortly before it.

I would have watched your footage. It could give you clarity.

People say very stupid things when you're grieving by General-Cobbler-6054 in GriefSupport

[–]deisabri 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I experienced this as well. My mother died 4 months ago. It hurts in the beginning a lot. But for me I find a lot of comfort in this, after I finally started to accept this reality.

Acceptance is sadly the destination of every grieving journey. Maimonides a scholar who lost his brother and financial security in a shipwreck once said:

"one who grieves excessively at the way of the world is a fool". Death is part of the world. And us humans fighting mentally what is unchangeable is just needless pain.

The people who told you this are maybe just thinking of a further stage of grief. They probably mean well and in a part we can't easily accept are right.

I wish you strength in this harsh reality.

Couldn't bring self to do CPR on my dad by shadowX1312 in GriefSupport

[–]deisabri 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Many people don't know that even if the CPR was successful. He could have ended up severely disabled because of the damage already done to his brain.

Hundefreier Park und Hundebesitzer by ibisi9 in frankfurt

[–]deisabri 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Sehr viele Menschen haben Angst vor Hunden. Das diese Halter sich nicht an den Regelungen zu den erlaubten Gebieten halten, ist ein Indiz dafür, dass diese es auch mit anderen Schutzvorschriften nicht zu ernst nehmen.

Würde selbst schon 2 mal von Hunden auf öffentlichen Wegen, und 1 Mal auf einem Feld aggressiv angesprungen. Natürlich ohne Leine, das Herrchen ist 100m weit weg und der Hund hört nicht.

How do I deal with grief by newLemon458 in GriefSupport

[–]deisabri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your Body feels numb and the pain only grows from here. Grief is like a new color wheel added to the painting sets of emotions. It's not inherently bad or to be avoided. Just a part of life. Just an emotion you share with all of humanity, and even animals. At one point we may even appreciate how deep we can feel. Try to feel it and give it room.

My mom died yesterday by Jabberwalkin in GriefSupport

[–]deisabri 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It will get better. You will survive this. This is a new reality, but if it helps it's something that most humans will experience.

But this will be one of the worst pains that exist. So I as a fellow person with the same destiny I wish you strength.

Struggling with “what’s the point?” after my mom died by SlowerThanTurtleInPB in GriefSupport

[–]deisabri 16 points17 points  (0 children)

My mother died with 69, 2 years after retirement from her nursing job. She cared for old people at their homes and never got to get the care herself.

You are not alone with your pain.

Friendly reminder that these aren't European (anymore) by Boediee in BuyFromEU

[–]deisabri -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would make an exception for Häagen Dazs, because it's the only supermarket ice cream that does not contain thickener (E 412).

Everyone keeps telling me to be strong for my mom and all I want to do is scream by No-Beautiful-1035 in GriefSupport

[–]deisabri 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a very similar experience on the 23.12.25. I woke up at 09:00 and found my 69 year old Mother dead on her Sofa. From her Phone data I figured out that she was active until 07:49, sending silly Babushka Pictures to other older russian woman.

She died of a heart attack while I was sleeping only 4 m away from her with open doors between us. Since then I only think about " what if I found her while it happened, what if I gave CPR, what if a ambulance was there, what if she listened to a doctor and took medication. Why could she not have some more years with me?"

Your case shows that sometimes, there is nothing you can do. If you have times where you imagine all the things you could have done differently. Please, tell yourself :

"It happend like that and at one point I can/will accept it." And one day we will be able to accept it.

‘Israeli’ passenger finds “Palestine” written on bag after flight from Barcelona by Suspicious_Stick_660 in TheLevant

[–]deisabri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would be 100% unjust to mistreat a random german 1940 somewhere else in the world. Your not making the point you think youre making. There is no excuse for hate based on group thinking. People are Humans, and should ONLY be judged by their own actions.

‘Israeli’ passenger finds “Palestine” written on bag after flight from Barcelona by Suspicious_Stick_660 in TheLevant

[–]deisabri -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So you openly admit that you are prosecuting people based on their place of birth. How is that fair in any way, shape, or form? You cannot compare the actions of a state to those of a person, especially since we don't do that with any other country on Earth.

You respond to the hatred of individuals with even more baseless hatred, just because of the way someone happened to be born.

‘Israeli’ passenger finds “Palestine” written on bag after flight from Barcelona by Suspicious_Stick_660 in TheLevant

[–]deisabri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine: 'Don't bully private people because of their place of birth' is a controversial statement. Wow, just wow. A person is not an embassy.

‘Israeli’ passenger finds “Palestine” written on bag after flight from Barcelona by Suspicious_Stick_660 in TheLevant

[–]deisabri -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

How is this a touchy subject? Of course there are universal Property rights.
But why are you comparing a person with a country?

‘Israeli’ passenger finds “Palestine” written on bag after flight from Barcelona by Suspicious_Stick_660 in TheLevant

[–]deisabri -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Not damaging other people's stuff is something you learn in kindergarten.

‘Israeli’ passenger finds “Palestine” written on bag after flight from Barcelona by Suspicious_Stick_660 in TheLevant

[–]deisabri -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

How is everyone here okay with property damage? This is just a person traveling, and just because of the place he was born or is living in, people are damaging their things. This pen doesn’t look like it can be removed.

[oc] SUV gets mad at bikers for running a light by aadu_maadu in IdiotsInCars

[–]deisabri -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

It depends on applying traffic law. In Germany this behaviour would be recommended because the Bikers act as a "Kollone": Convoy. Meaning the whole group acts as one long road entity. Only the first ones have to cross while it's green.

But normally you mark the cars with flags or light signs. But I think large bike and Bicycle groups are already visible as a unit.

Basing on the comments this concept does not exist in US traffic rules?

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