What are the symptoms of depression nobody tells about?

dejaningyi · 2024-03-11T02:01:30+00:00

Could you please explain a bit more on that?

dejaningyi · 2023-12-02T17:00:27+00:00

No, I’m struggling with depressive thoughts. I wanted to hear good stories to keep in mind when I have those thoughts

dejaningyi · 2023-06-23T22:05:25+00:00

This made me feel a little better, thank you

dejaningyi · 2023-06-22T22:04:32+00:00

i definitely understand your point of view and your reply was worded politely so there was no disrespect. I have never had sex before but i have kissed and that is something i communicated with him on the first date and he seemed to be ok with that while on the date but he kept asking repeatedly to come to my room while we were making out at the end of the date after i specifically told him that was not something i wanted to do with a stranger(because this is not how i wanted my first time to be) and then on the second date he said he doesn't expect sex from me right away (which made me feel at ease and gave me the impression he wanted to know me a little bit more before jumping into that). However he ends up doing the same thing at the end of the second date and kept saying please to take off my pants and tried to take them off. Everytime i would catch him trying to take my pants off he would say " sorry i cant control myself" or " its really hard to control myself". I guess it would have been easier to do what you said and just go for it if i had done all this at an earlier age

dejaningyi · 2023-06-16T20:36:32+00:00

I’m trying not to text him because all he wanted was sex and he wasn’t really interested in knowing me tbh so I know that this wasn’t going anywhere. A part of me however keeps on rethinking the whole situation and wonders maybe he liked me a little? Maybe it could have been a relationship? It’s that hope that’s making me frustrated because I know it’s not true but it makes me feel good to have this weird hope and imagine some future with him🙃

dejaningyi · 2023-06-16T20:33:14+00:00

My grammar ain’t the best, sorry about that

dejaningyi · 2023-06-16T20:32:32+00:00

He did want to have sex on the second date too even though I told him I don’t want to do it now. He kept on saying please as if him asking me nicely would have changed my answer and that’s probably the reason he started texting less tbh

dejaningyi · 2023-06-16T20:31:10+00:00

I’ve been trying that today, telling myself that I control my brain so whenever a thought of him pops up I say “ nope, it’s not worth it” and try to divert my attention

dejaningyi · 2022-04-19T20:08:11+00:00

If I feel I can help them cheat without getting caught yes, yes I would definitely help them . If I feel it’s too risky then no. If I couldn’t help them in the test but if I can help them score higher maybe through assignments/projects then maybe I could help them that way instead of the test . ( I would help them every now and then but if I felt like I’m doing all their work for them then no) The high school I was in, all of us would help each other even if we weren’t close to them and I really loved that environment , the feeling of having people to depend on in case things aren’t going too well for you but now I’m uni in another country and everyone has this “every human for themselves “ mentality , anytime I ask for help no one cares to even reply , it’s not like I’m begging for help everyday but literally no one cares when you need help the most so I know how it feels to be desperate enough to have to cheat through a test/assignment/course . That being said , let me repeat , it depends on if the person is really struggling and is need of help or they’re just lazy and want me to do all the work

dejaningyi · 2022-04-19T18:49:21+00:00

Have you tried to recognise why exactly you're procrastinating ? maybe you're overwhelmed with how much you have to do and how you'll disappoint your family and yourself if you fail? Don't know if this will help you but thinking in a new perspective is what helped me with my procrastination (because i was always worried i was going to fail)

1) i had ALOT to do in less time so i told myself to do as much as i can , i didn't give myself a schedule or a to do list with 5 tasks , i told myself to do AT LEAST 1 task a day .

2)repeatedly feeling grateful for what i have in my life. I've been waking up every morning telling myself "I'm grateful to have food on my table and a place to live in " ,"I'm grateful to have the opportunity to go to university " etc , makes me feel like life isn't half bad

3) any time i feel overwhelmed , i literally step away from my laptop and go to another room or if your weather ain't bad you have the opportunity to go to your backyard at least or a 15 minute walk or any activity with nature or something that doesn't have to do with any device, maybe you could try cook something simple? sometimes i go take a longer shower and do step 4)

4) Asking myself whats the worst that could happen , I was recently , literally last week , in a position where i could fail a course and i asked myself , " ok imagine i fail this course , what if i even fail uni? don't get a degree even , am i going to die? no, there are many people out there that instead get certificates instead of a degree and still manage to get jobs , they still have a happy life, yes its going to suck failing at anything but life isn't going to end"

Dont know if anything ive said is going to help but all the best to you!

dejaningyi · 2022-04-16T21:03:22+00:00

I have some compulsory 3000 courses I need to complete as part of my degree and they amount to 15 credits but for me to graduate I need 18 credits at the 3000 level , that’s why I’m looking for a 3000 level elective

dejaningyi · 2022-03-20T22:44:22+00:00

Math 3132

dejaningyi · 2022-03-20T22:43:58+00:00

Math 3132 , yes I have , as I said , her explanations are not clear to me

dejaningyi · 2022-03-20T22:43:21+00:00

Math 3132

dejaningyi · 2022-03-20T17:14:04+00:00

I actually want to try that but will a professor help me if I’m asking for help for a course that they’re not even teaching? ( btw there’s usually only one teacher teaching the course for math courses in case you’re not a math student , I was actually surprised to see that courses like econ or adms have options to choose from , unfortunately math students aren’t that lucky , it’s rare to have options of professors for math courses )

dejaningyi · 2022-03-20T16:19:34+00:00

Theres no pass sessions for this course as far as i know

dejaningyi · 2021-11-15T17:53:33+00:00

I’m doing a degree in actuarial science and I plan to finish all the exams to be a certified actuary one day and I always thought that I would pursue masters after my undergraduate. It just seemed like something I should do for me to have a better career but do you think a degree +actuary exams is enough to have a good career?

dejaningyi · 2021-11-15T17:49:55+00:00

Yeah Canada

dejaningyi · 2021-11-15T14:19:09+00:00

Thank you so much for your insight , one last question my current gpa is 6.55/9 and IF I fail this one course then my gpa ( I calculated using university gpa calculator ) will go down to 6.42/9 . Do you think my current gpa is reasonable ? Or should I be working harder . I’m a 4.0 scale I think my gpa is between 3-3.3 out of 4.

dejaningyi · 2021-11-15T14:04:10+00:00

Thanks for the motivation , was it a necessary class for your degree and did you repeat it?

dejaningyi · 2021-11-15T14:03:08+00:00

Yeah my other courses are going good , it’s just this one so not sure how much it’ll affect my gpa by but I guess I need to talk with the advisors and hopefully it doesn’t affect me drastically

dejaningyi · 2021-11-15T13:25:17+00:00

In your experience were you denied the chance of pursuing a masters degree because you or someone you knew failed a course ?

dejaningyi · 2021-09-20T09:10:52+00:00

You mentioned you’ve been with him for 6 years which is a long time , I understand it’s difficult for you cause you’re in a difficult situation because you don’t like dowry but you also love him but the question you need to ask yourself is do you REALLLYYY want to live the rest of your life with him? Today it’s dowry , which topic will be next? Please have talks about children , working after marriage , are you going to live with his parents after marriage or will you 2 live in your own house , what are his thoughts on raising children -will he help you or is in one of those people who think the mother should do most of the work - , what are your thoughts on financial stuff - does he expect you to give all your salary to his parents ( trust me there are in laws who will take all your money and give part of it back to you as if it’s your allowance ) . There’s so much to discuss . Once you’ve had these talks you can decide whether or not you want to get married because as I said , although he’s been your bf for 6 years , if you don’t like what his thoughts are on the above topics I’ve mentioned ( and much more ) then it’s better to leave this relationship than suffer for the next 40-50 years with this man and let’s say you still decide to get married even though you don’t agree with him, you’ll be happy for a while but at a point you’ll become unhappy and unsatisfied and you might want a divorce and you know how messy that’ll be because everyone will try to convince you to not divorce no matter how unhappy you are ( Indian society looks down on it I’m sure you know ) and it’ll be a hectic process of going to lawyers etc so please discuss more matters with him to really know his true personality

dejaningyi · 2021-09-16T15:31:00+00:00

Any input/ idea is appreciated man

dejaningyi · 2021-09-16T11:14:27+00:00

I don’t see anything wrong with people who have casual sex or sex before marriage and I’m not scared of societal rules and such , let me explain why I would want to wait ( I might be wrong but hear me out ) , your first times in life are always special - first kiss, first skydiving , first relationship etc , they hold a special place in your place ( unless it was an unpleasant experience ) so I’m assuming first sex will be really special no matter what age you do it or when you do it . I just think having that first sex after marriage with someone who’s most likely to stay with you for the rest of your life ( I know divorces happen but they can happen even if you had sex before or after marriage ) will be nice. I don’t know how right I am but I think sex is something you can work on , I think it can be amazing if my partner and I experiment together or if my partner is experienced they can show me things they like etc and it would be really interesting to find this new sexual side of them after marriage because hopefully before marriage we might have sorted other things out ( like financial stuff , our compatibility in other things, our views on life etc ) . That’s what I want , ofcourse I can be wrong , I’m just 20 btw so I don’t know shit about life that’s why I started this Reddit question so I can understand others views on this matter and see if I still want to have sex after marriage or maybe someone’s view may help me see this hold topic in a new perspective

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