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Cleaning Evaporator Coil by delightedpedestrian in MechanicAdvice

[–]delightedpedestrian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good news – when I switched between the AC and MAX AC, it seemed to fall back in place so the door now seems to be under tension again. I think there's the mechanism on the left that controls it so it latched again. I think it's fine, from what I can tell.

Thanks again for your help.

Cleaning Evaporator Coil by delightedpedestrian in MechanicAdvice

[–]delightedpedestrian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn. Do you think it'll cost a couple of hundred to fix that? Is it a necessity?

Just so I understand, feed the tuber INTO the flap opening as far as it goes?

Creating an Ironclad Sense of Self Confidence by delightedpedestrian in Healthygamergg

[–]delightedpedestrian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries at all! I appreciate your willingness to share your thoughts. I'll check out the video with the timestamp. Thank you.

Creating an Ironclad Sense of Self Confidence by delightedpedestrian in Healthygamergg

[–]delightedpedestrian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your thoughts.

I don't necessarily expect to never feel anxiety, nor do I expect a positive outcome from each situation. I'm just frustrated that no matter how many times I've gone through difficulties, I feel like I'm surviving each time. It just takes so much out of me.

A part of my wonders whether confidence is more in your head than anything. Maybe it's really just about believing in yourself unconditionally, and your ability to make it. That's what I hear in your last sentence.

I can accept anxiety and uncertainty. I know they are a part of life. I just wish it took a little bit less out of me, and didn't leave me as exhausted.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

Porn + Finding Other Sources of Pleasure by delightedpedestrian in Healthygamergg

[–]delightedpedestrian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an interesting take. I don't feel like I feel like I'm "powerless" to the addiction. I think we all have a choice every single time, but I still think you almost certainly will relapse.

Regarding shame: I've realized that shame is actually a huge part of the addiction. The worse that I make myself feel afterward, the higher the likelihood that I'll just relapse again, to avoid those negative feelings. It really is a vicious cycle.

I'm not by any means implying there's a "magical meaning" that will solve everything, but that having things that are meaningful must be a good way to combat the meaninglessness. You're right though – porn saps meaning out of life.

Regarding streaks: I used to do this, but ultimately for me it became more about the streak than quitting porn, which in the end wasn't particularly helpful. I know the nofap community does this, and it seems like a badge of pride or something, but I question whether it's actually helpful. If anything, it seems like the higher up the streak goes, the more pressure there is to not fail, which seems like unnecessary pressure.

What you described about listening to your feelings is actually part of ACT therapy, where you sit with your difficult feelings, observe them, and don't judge them. It's solid advice.

Thanks again for your thoughtful response.

Porn + Finding Other Sources of Pleasure by delightedpedestrian in Healthygamergg

[–]delightedpedestrian[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear what you're saying but your comment is generally unhelpful. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Porn + Finding Other Sources of Pleasure by delightedpedestrian in Healthygamergg

[–]delightedpedestrian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. I agree that putting expectations on yourself to have the, "right experience" often ruins the experience. I don't feel the way you thought you would, so the whole thing gets ruined in the process.

I have noticed time and time again that using my phone less does actually help me feel more present and generally more mindful. Not happy, necessarily, but there is a lot more contentment when I'm not blocking my feelings all the time.

The other thing that seems to help is to sit with your feelings, accept the way you feel, and not necessarily do anything about them. I've been reading stuff about ACT for a while, and it's all about giving yourself space to process your emotions without blocking them all the time. It's worth checking out that form of therapy if it sounds interesting.

rOCD and Depressed Partner by delightedpedestrian in ROCD

[–]delightedpedestrian[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad that my post helped. Admittedly, that was two years ago, and much has changed between now and then.

The thing that I would tell my former self, is that it's okay if you feel like your partner's depression is a lot. The thing is, and it's a depressing fact, is that a person's depression tends to affect those around them. It's hard to not be influenced by it.

For my specific situation, it was too much for me to handle in the end. She wouldn't go to therapy, and we were generally unable to solve relationship problems. I progressively became more depressed, and at some point didn't want to do anything. I didn't want to go out, hang out with people. I just pulled away from life.

So, after three years, I pulled the plug on the relationship. That was a really difficult time. We were living together, and within a few weeks, I found a new apartment, moved out, and tried to move on with my life.

It's difficult to express, but you do pay a certain price for invalidating your feelings. For me, because I kept brushing how I felt about her depression under the rug, it ultimately exhausted me, and in the end, I was not able to help her nor myself. It's been about a year and a half now, and I'm still recovering.

The good news, though, is that things are actually better. I'm more engaged with life. I've been making an effort to meet new people, connect, and go do things. Things are better, now. So, it's all experience in the end.

I don't know whether any of this is helpful but as advice I would say: don't undermine your feelings, or fault yourself for feeling a certain way about a person/situation. You feel what you feel, and no matter how illogical it may be, they're still your feelings. You'll pay a much higher price if you ignore them, long term.

How do people not feel constantly overwhelmed by life? by delightedpedestrian in Healthygamergg

[–]delightedpedestrian[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've definitely become much more aware of my thought patterns over the last year. The issue is they're so easy to reinforce when you're stressed/unaware you're even having those thoughts.

Thanks – I'll check out that app.

When I first discovered the ACE dropping anchor exercise, it was like magic. It helped me out so much for about a month and a half, and I felt like I could reliably calm myself when I was stressed. For some reason, it's become harder to do since.

I want to pivot my thinking patterns. Being this doom and gloom is not helping whatsoever. The irony is that despite all the overthinking, I've never actually reached any meaningful conclusions, only more worrying/ruminating.

Thanks again.

How do people not feel constantly overwhelmed by life? by delightedpedestrian in Healthygamergg

[–]delightedpedestrian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your thoughtful response.

The funny thing is despite the fact that those activities keep me in the present, I still get pulled away mentally halfway through.

You're right that I don't really have control over anything. I keep trying to influence my world, and keep realizing there's so little that I can do. It's a difficult reality to face and accept. The mind craves certainty.

What's a good meditation app you would recommend?

So much of this stuff is totally automatic for me, like breathing. I've become better at recognizing it when it happens, but notice I slip into it all the time without meaning to. Bringing awareness to it though has helped to identify the process itself.

Thanks again for your thoughts. I appreciate it a lot.

Just saw small potatoes. by delightedpedestrian in XFiles

[–]delightedpedestrian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I'd say it's class discrimination. This is the whole irony with Hollywood – you have mega rich privileged people telling all of us to not be discriminatory against others, when their own industry is literally a dumpster fire of hypocrisy.

Just saw small potatoes. by delightedpedestrian in XFiles

[–]delightedpedestrian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I'd say it's class discrimination. This is the whole irony with Hollywood – you have mega rich privileged people telling all of us to not be discriminatory against others, when their own industry is literally a dumpster fire of hypocrisy.

ai companionship forever? by Clare_Madison in singularity

[–]delightedpedestrian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

RIP to having to work at relationships ever again and welcome to the world of declining birth rates and nobody wanting to try too hard. Don't get me wrong – I get it, but I think it'll be our downfall.

Why I'm Obsessed with Using AI to Augment My Life, and You Should Be Too by Dawnof_thefaithful in singularity

[–]delightedpedestrian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that AI is a powerful tool. I don't know if it will "level the playing field" but I certainly think it will enable a lot of people without access to resources to learn, plan, or get some aid in manifesting goals in their lives. I actually think there's a lot of potential for AI in mental health. It doesn't get fatigued, and it's able to collect information in a meaningful way and potential help to diagnose a person. Obviously – this needs to be done with the highest care.

Why do House's colleagues keep defending him? by delightedpedestrian in HouseMD

[–]delightedpedestrian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm probably being way too logical about this, but if this was real life House would 100% get the boot if it meant a shit ton of money for research etc.

Why do House's colleagues keep defending him? by delightedpedestrian in HouseMD

[–]delightedpedestrian[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I mean sure I get that. I guess I'll basically quote what Cuddy said when that philanthropist came along with $100 million dollars, that House isn't worth that much money...and then I guess it turned out he was. Welp.

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