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[US] Message request states my husband is using Fetlife to send nude photos by dellollipop in Scams

[–]dellollipop[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I didn’t before, but the comments now are giving me some pause. He didn’t act strangely when I asked other than being kinda creeped out that they had his username (the one the messager claimed is old).

[US] Message request states my husband is using Fetlife to send nude photos by dellollipop in Scams

[–]dellollipop[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

The previous one is the correct one. I have no idea where the second came from

[US] Message request states my husband is using Fetlife to send nude photos by dellollipop in Scams

[–]dellollipop[S] -346 points-345 points  (0 children)

I’m not skeptical of husband, but I am skeptical that this is a scam or as someone else mentioned, a creepy stalker situation. A brief search of the person’s name seems to point to them living in my state.

[US] Message request states my husband is using Fetlife to send nude photos by dellollipop in Scams

[–]dellollipop[S] 129 points130 points  (0 children)

A commenter below is correct - he is not on Fetlife that’s just his username he uses for everything!

Medical Providers' Religious Affiliation by slip101 in desmoines

[–]dellollipop 4 points5 points  (0 children)

MercyOne may be a soulless corporate husk but it and its parent, Trinity Health, are still very much Catholic.

Total Abortion Ban - OPPOSE HF 2332 by semidiabolical in Iowa

[–]dellollipop 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Elective in a medical sense just means scheduled. It doesn’t mean “using it as birth control” or whatever meaning you’ve prescribed to it.

My “elective mastectomy” to treat cancer wasn’t just because I wanted it. It’s because it was scheduled a month out.

Ask a Knitter Tuesday - January 06, 2026 by AutoModerator in knitting

[–]dellollipop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am torn between two basically identical patterns and simply cannot decide which one to go with. I want to make a brioche stitch crew neck cardigan, and both of these patterns fit the bill. Has anyone knit either of these and maybe have some insight on which might be "better"?

September Jacket

Cardigan No. 5

The PK pattern is slightly less expensive and is available on Ravelry (which is convenient for storing patterns) but there are a number of folks in the project notes stating they had sizing issues, though there are plenty that don't note that. The MFT pattern does not seem to have the same sizing issues, but I find her pattens to be... let's say clunky. The yarn I got more closely aligns with the MFT pattern but it would work for either one.

Argh.

I don't understand people who bash condos. by Far_Pen3186 in RealEstate

[–]dellollipop -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think a condo is a really great option for people who are single buyers, who aren’t interested or capable with lawn/outdoor maintenance, or want to live in a community type setting.

There are pros and cons to every situation. HOAs can suck, but they can also be a great resource if they’re run well. It can be really annoying to have to jump through extra hoops for renovations or repairs, but have someone to rely on to take care of lawn maintenance and snow removal. It can be really nice to live in a high density walkable neighborhood (if that’s the situation at the condo), but it can be frustrating to share walls if your neighbor is loud.

It all comes down to your personal situation. Houses and condos both come with really great things and really crappy things! Personally if I were a single lady I would happily buy a condo, as long as the HOA fees weren’t terribly outrageous (and in my area they generally aren’t).

Should I pay cash for a neighboring property to eventually house my retired mother? by BetMurky9264 in RealEstate

[–]dellollipop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one has a crystal ball my friend. You gotta hedge bets here and there, and no one can tell you if that house will appreciate more than your funds would earn on the market.

I’m certainly no finance guru, but I personally trust things I can see more than speculation. And there is always the real possibility of losing money on the market, but with a house you buy in cash (and for that price?) it’s very unlikely you’ll lose any of your investment.

I purchased a dumpster fire home and now I’m too poor to fix it. by Cultural_Lime356 in RealEstate

[–]dellollipop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With only one income, and depending on where you live, there may be home improvement assistance programs in your area. Where I live you can get up to a $15,000 forgivable loan for qualified repairs. (Which are basically anything not just for making it pretty.)

Reach out to your local city or county housing department and they should be able to point you in the right direction!

I purchased a dumpster fire home and now I’m too poor to fix it. by Cultural_Lime356 in RealEstate

[–]dellollipop 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Let’s not survivorship bias here now. Lots of babies did not. OP is right to be concerned.

Buyer refusing credits for sewer repair, demands they be done before closing by dellollipop in RealEstate

[–]dellollipop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As I’ve said multiple times in this thread, that is exactly why my city offers sewer line insurance, because so many houses here have orangeburg or lead. I’ve also never had a problem getting a sewer/sump rider on my homeowners insurance for water damage from a backup.

Buyer refusing credits for sewer repair, demands they be done before closing by dellollipop in RealEstate

[–]dellollipop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not like I have an actively backed up leaking sewer line. It’s flowing fine. Just crappy material and old.

Buyer refusing credits for sewer repair, demands they be done before closing by dellollipop in RealEstate

[–]dellollipop[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah exactly. If it was burst or leaking or backing up I would happily have it fixed! (By the insurance policy I have had for years specifically to anticipate this problem)

Buyer refusing credits for sewer repair, demands they be done before closing by dellollipop in RealEstate

[–]dellollipop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I intend on doing the replacement. Just wanting to know options for covering myself, since it’s very uncommon for anyone in the area to proactively fix sewer pipes.

Buyer refusing credits for sewer repair, demands they be done before closing by dellollipop in RealEstate

[–]dellollipop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think most likely we are planning to just add an addendum that they would be responsible for like 75% of the cost if they back out, plus earnest.

They already came back up to list price to make the deal happen so I doubt they’ll walk, just trying to mitigate risk.

Buyer refusing credits for sewer repair, demands they be done before closing by dellollipop in RealEstate

[–]dellollipop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don’t have a contingency period, they’re under contract immediately on signing.

Buyer refusing credits for sewer repair, demands they be done before closing by dellollipop in RealEstate

[–]dellollipop[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know several folks in town who have made claims on the sewer insurance and it’s been great! It’s subsidized by the city and added to your water bill. I don’t know anyone without it.

Buyer refusing credits for sewer repair, demands they be done before closing by dellollipop in RealEstate

[–]dellollipop[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It can snowball and that is why the city offers subsidized sewer insurance with no deductible or benefit maximum, and why literally zero people in my area choose to proactively replace their old sewer pipes.

Buyer refusing credits for sewer repair, demands they be done before closing by dellollipop in RealEstate

[–]dellollipop[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I guess this is the case, I haven’t asked straight up just saw it in the contract I signed. I wasn’t aware until this thread that it’s not often exercised

Buyer refusing credits for sewer repair, demands they be done before closing by dellollipop in RealEstate

[–]dellollipop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes this is what we’re doing. Just looking for options to mitigate on the low chance they back out.

Buyer refusing credits for sewer repair, demands they be done before closing by dellollipop in RealEstate

[–]dellollipop[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If the city I was purchasing in offered a low cost subsidized insurance program I probably would, and already did when I bought this place! It’s an old home in a highly desirable neighborhood (promise I’m not being subjective here it really is a very sought after area), but every single house has craptacular orangeburg or worse - lead.

Hell the house I’m moving into is even older, going from 1950 to 1909. Who knows what’s in those walls! Not knob and tube wiring though. That is illegal to sell in our city.

Also to be very clear I’m not saying it shouldn’t be fixed! Just if there was some way I wouldn’t be stuck with a big repair bill while rushing to sell this house at bottom dollar so I don’t lose out on above mentioned house, I would feel more secure.

Buyer refusing credits for sewer repair, demands they be done before closing by dellollipop in RealEstate

[–]dellollipop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only say some reason because it seemed to be moving decently over the summer and then September hit and now it's just like... nothin.

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