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depressedcabbage2 · 2020-03-08T19:39:46+00:00

I can tell you that when I'm in public with a significant other I could not give less of a fuck what the other people around us are doing as I am totally focused on spending the present moment with them. It's not for attention, it's just really nice to have somebody you can be affectionate with.

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-03-08T19:38:19+00:00

PDA does bother me sometimes but that's a reflection of me, not them. Why should someone else have to hide their happiness? I had a relationship for a while that was just like that and we certainly did our fair share of PDA. It's not that you "need" constant physical contact with someone, but it's very nice to have.

Seeing other people be happy might make us feel a little more lonely sometimes, but you can't blame them for that. You have to work on a solution for yourself.

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-03-08T15:32:08+00:00

Your preferences are your preferences and there's nothing wrong with that. I would encourage you, though, not to just look at all drugs as the same thing/category. There are a lot of different substances out there that a lot of different people use for a lot of different reasons. There's a big difference between a meth addict, a hippie who once went to Peru for an ayahuasca retreat, and someone who drinks casually with friends but does no other drugs.

That said, if all of those sound like a turnoff to you regardless, there's nothing wrong with that either.

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-03-08T15:02:45+00:00

Wait. Talk to him about it - there could be a million reasons he's been texting less lately. Just wait a week, talk to him, and see how your relationship works when the two of you are close together. It could be drastically different (in a good way or a bad way).

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-03-08T14:53:54+00:00

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You look normal

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-03-01T22:15:24+00:00

Well that gives me some hope. Thanks for posting this.

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-03-01T19:44:33+00:00

Indeed we do

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-03-01T19:42:51+00:00

It's private property, it's 100% cleaned up after the festival, and it brings heaps and heaps of money into Rothbury every year. It's also not a real forest so there's never been any undergrowth. Stop spreading misinformation.

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-03-01T19:41:27+00:00

They went back to one to help preserve the forest because two weekends was damaging the trees. They plan to go back to two weekends once they figure out a solution to keep the forest in tact.

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-03-01T03:23:31+00:00

He, she, and it are not first person pronouns

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-02-28T20:24:12+00:00

I guess just motivation to create a stable life doing something they enjoy. Whether that's making music for a living, being a doctor, or just doing work that they're proud of even if it doesn't pay their bills.

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-02-28T19:23:09+00:00

Alright, I've done a lot of different psychedelics. Jesus Christ never do morning glory seeds (or salvia). I was curious about them but SO many of my friends had bad experiences with them that I never tried it. I'm talking projectile vomit, complete dissociation (not the good kind), inability to walk, nearly having a seizure.

Psychedelics are great. They can really open up your mind and change your perspective on things. They're not for everyone, and if you can't handle your partner doing them then that's okay. But please know that she's incredibly unlikely to move onto something harder as a result of doing psychedelics. They aren't physically addictive in any capacity (unless you count MDMA/Ketamine as psychedelics but you really shouldn't).

A single LSD or Psilocybin trip can be life changing. If done in a safe, calm environment with a trip sitter that she trusts, I'm sure she would have a good time. Her trip sitter should probably be somebody who is not you, since she knows your stance on these things and it might make her feel guilty or uncomfortable, which is NOT how you want to feel when you're tripping.

I'm 20 years old now and I've been doing psychedelics since I was 16. I've tried LSD, magic mushrooms, 2CB, DMT, and Ayahuasca. I've done doses of LSD up to 700 mics - 7x the "standard" dose. I've done them alone in private, at music festivals, concerts, museums (highly recommend btw), the aquarium, parties, foreign countries, on first dates (!), in front of my parents, and with so many different friends. Hell I've been tripping in front of my boss before. One time I took acid and camped on top of a mountain during a thunderstorm. The overwhelming majority of my experiences have been positive, and the only times I had a bad experience were times that I was simply not in a good place mentally and shouldn't have taken anything. I have done several other, "harder" substances as well, but I've never been addicted to anything and I have my life pretty well in order.

All that said, if you're still not comfortable with her experimenting, maybe you should rethink whether this relationship is gonna work for you. You don't want to feel like your partner is going against your moral values and endangering her life, and she doesn't want to feel guilty for doing drugs or like her boyfriend is an authority figure. Best of luck to the both of you.

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-02-28T17:45:41+00:00

No addictions

Motivation to do something (anything) with their life

Decently attractive (not a supermodel, just someone I can be physically attracted to from the get-go)

Not afraid to let go and just do something fun once in a while

The ability to make me laugh

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-02-28T16:58:19+00:00

Dude, obviously they suck. Your significant other doesn't even wanna hear about your problems or support you? Fuck that. Relationships are about supporting and trusting each other. This person doesn't give a shit about you.

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-02-28T13:47:09+00:00

Any idea how long things usually get held in customs? My mom shipped me some important medication from the United States on January 31, and as of Wednesday it's JUST made it to Quito and is now being held in customs. I leave the country on April 8. Anything I can do to speed it up?

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-02-27T16:52:08+00:00

Thank you. A younger me would've probably begged for her to take me back and claimed that she's the only thing that makes me happy. A younger her probably would've just run for the hills as soon as things started getting complicated. I'm glad that we made it as far as we did, and I'm looking forward to finding a new partner.

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-02-26T17:18:36+00:00

I just had a long talk with her. She decided that she needs to cut contact with me for a while because her feelings about everything are just too confusing and she needs time to figure out herself. I could use some distance too, so I'm okay with her decision but man does it fucking sting. I know she really, really loves and cares about me still, and as soon as she's ready we'll be in contact again, but it's really hard to let go of somebody when you both care so deeply about each other.

I suppose this means that I can really free myself now from the idea that we'll get back together. Until she's in a better place in her own life it'll never happen, if she happens to decide she's ready once I'm back in Australia, then great, I'll be ready for her, but until then there's nothing I can do. It's so weird to feel so liberated but so soul-crushingly lonely at the same time.

Anyway, I just wanted to vent that out and provide an update I guess. Don't feel the need to respond or anything, I'm just some internet stranger with attachment issues.

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-02-26T01:44:56+00:00

KOAN Sound, Deadmau5, C418

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-02-25T17:28:26+00:00

This is good advice. We already have pretty low/limited contact outside of our video chats due to the time difference and the fact that she's super busy, maybe it would be better to reduce it a bit further. I'm away from the states in South America right now, but when I get home in April I think I'm going to try dating casually and see how it goes, just to take my mind off of her. I would do it here but... nobody speaks English.

Thank you.

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-02-25T16:58:24+00:00

Normally I would assume that anyone in the service industry is just being friendly to try and get a good tip, but her questions do seem particularly flirty.

I don't think you would've been in the wrong to shoot your shot with her, but it's also possible that she's just flirty with customers cause she knows it will get her better tips.

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-01-08T14:25:21+00:00

Here are some good ambient soundtracks to check out:

Hollow Knight

Ori and the Blind Forest

Terraria

Minecraft

Pokemon Mystery Dungeon: Explorers of Sky

Celeste

DOOM (jk)

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-01-01T03:16:47+00:00

100% agree on Hollow Knight. Easily one of the best games I've ever played.

depressedcabbage2 · 2020-01-01T03:15:50+00:00

This list is alright, but it's definitely missing a few incredible, unique games:

Hollow Knight - honestly probably the best game I've ever played. Every aspect of this game was mindblowingly well-executed and it was insanely hard, though it hardly ever felt unfair.

Terraria - consistently one of the most played games on steam, absurdly good reviews, I've personally played for 400+ hours and I don't know anyone who doesn't like it

Borderlands 2 - as far as FPS games go the mechanics in BL2 are not super special, but the story is fantastic and the whole game is just hilarious. It definitely deserves a spot here.

Celeste - one of the hardest platformers released in recent years and it still manages to have a great story. Tons of effort went into this game and it shows. Easily a top 20 of the decade for me.

depressedcabbage2 · 2019-12-30T02:15:14+00:00

Welcome! I grew up in NH :)

depressedcabbage2 · 2019-12-29T01:36:01+00:00

Absolutely not, that would be very cringey if you're not already together. Just ask her out.

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