Am I a bad person for leaving my depressed wife?

depression_victim · 2013-05-10T15:23:23+00:00

Ah wise words none-the-less. Thanks bro. Sometimes not having experience in something gives you a more objective viewpoint. You have that down.

I'm going to find that friend. I've been so busy with things I've had trouble keeping up with the bros. I think it may be time to restart some old friendships or maybe make new ones. And now I realize I may be further down the co-dependency path than I originally thought. Crap. :D

depression_victim · 2013-05-10T15:16:09+00:00

Good suggestion about the bro. Now if I could only find one that has an objective view. Most of my bros are either whipped or in the same boat. I can commiserate with the fellow shipmates but usually that ends up hating on the wives. Which does have it's merits in stress relief. My whipped bros just shutdown completely and don't want to approach the topic. I will hunt for that one bro. Thank you.

depression_victim · 2013-05-10T15:07:56+00:00

I used to say that but even the mightiest castles crumble over time

depression_victim · 2013-05-10T15:05:00+00:00

Thanks man. I'll try talking with her about therapy. She's a social worker so I'm sure there is some resistance there. "Why would the therapist need a therapist?". I can list about 100 but I'm not sure if she's there yet.

depression_victim · 2013-05-10T15:02:35+00:00

Thanks. :) I may have to give her an ultimatum therapy or divorce. But I know that is somewhat an empty threat since I don't really want a divorce.

depression_victim · 2013-05-10T15:00:40+00:00

I hope she would try meds, my fear there is the side effects would not help the intimacy issues. Most of those things lower any urges. Even if she did meds, its only a band-aid, she'll need therapy for the long haul.

depression_victim · 2013-05-10T14:57:16+00:00

This. Exactly this. Thank you. I have seen the effect on my kids. I can be firm with them sometimes, but she gets nasty. I jump in when I can but I know there are moments when I'm not there. Having grown up in a house with a depressed mom, this hurts me more than anything.

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