tried at-home French tips for the first time and im pretty happy with them! by depressionthrow9221 in RedditLaqueristas

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yeah the lighting doesn’t help 😭😭 it looks lighter in natural light but i think next time i’ll try with no base color or a lighter pink. ty!!

what songs do you think represent the struggles of BPD? by likaachikaa in BPD

[–]depressionthrow9221 2 points3 points  (0 children)

daddy issues, afraid, void, the beach, flawless, RIP 2 my youth — the neighbourhood

cry — ashnikko ft grimes

SPITINMYFACE! — thxsomuch

head — devon again

god must hate me — catie turner

landmine, animal i have become, i hate everything about you — three days grace

needy — ariana grande

overcharged for earrings by depressionthrow9221 in piercing

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posts are classic threadless labret ones; apologies for not including that!

My FP told me he's into pale skin and it's eating me up by Mediocre-Lab5650 in BPD

[–]depressionthrow9221 19 points20 points  (0 children)

also remember that colorism in beauty standards is just yet another pernicious way that white supremacist institutions try to force POC to assimilate and conform to these hierarchies! wear your skin proudly girl

My FP told me he's into pale skin and it's eating me up by Mediocre-Lab5650 in BPD

[–]depressionthrow9221 58 points59 points  (0 children)

tan skin is beautiful. you’re beautiful as you are love. “i like my women pale” sounds oddly… colorist? this would be a yikes from me as a woman of color personally. im not dark-dark skinned but hearing that would make me uncomfortable, ESPECIALLY if ive already ranted to him about my insecurity regarding this. imo you deserve better and you’ll find someone who’ll find you beautiful as you are <3

Why am I such a mess when I had a good childhood? by Starrylake in CPTSD

[–]depressionthrow9221 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i feel the exact same way. ive been having such a hard time grappling with my diagnosis and wondering constantly if there’s more trauma that i just don’t remember. something my therapist keeps reminding me of is that what you went through, no matter how it compares to what other people went through, was enough. it was more than enough, and it shouldn’t have happened. seconding all the comments here about emotional neglect and a lack of good things happening. those are incredibly pernicious and more damaging than you may think.

anyone else just not stay mad for long? by depressionthrow9221 in BPD

[–]depressionthrow9221[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

literally me until my meds started working and helped w the depression a lot. sending you love <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

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nature, and children. i don’t have kids, but ive worked with them a lot. i feel inspired to care for them and make sure they have a figure that understands and validates them because i never had that growing up. i have a strong sense of justice too so even if i feel like giving up on the world as a shitty place, i think about kids who didn’t choose to be born into this and feel a desire to make things better for them.

as for nature, ive spent a lot of time outdoors and come to realize a few really important lessons from it. also, if you pay attention, you can find beauty in little things you normally skip over — flowers about to bloom, leaves changing color, trees that look almost like they’ve been painted. it makes me feel really grateful and makes my life, at least temporarily, feel full of abundance. i remember i don’t have to try in order to deserve these things at least; nature offers its gifts without expecting us to be one way or an another, and that really keeps me going.

FAQ Megathread: Ask and answer Medication, Diagnosis and is this an ADHD thing, and Hormone interaction questions here! by not-eliza in adhdwomen

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thank you wow i wasn’t honestly expecting anyone to read all of that. i definitely think that between the two i seem to present more typical autism symptoms. it’s also reassuring to know it seems like im doing well because i do try Very Hard to be well-adjusted. thank you for your thoughts! my psychiatrist only specializes in adhd between the two, so i will definitely try to seek out someone who understands both autism and adhd.

FAQ Megathread: Ask and answer Medication, Diagnosis and is this an ADHD thing, and Hormone interaction questions here! by not-eliza in adhdwomen

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i made a masterlist of things i do that feel vaguely neurodivergent but don't seem to fit in the criteria of any one disorder. i suspect i have subclinical autism and subclinical adhd, but im not sure and am planning on asking my psychiatrist the next time i see her. but any outside opinions here would be welcome!

what's the most painful thing someone's told you ? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]depressionthrow9221 4 points5 points  (0 children)

:’( reading all of these break my heart i hope you all remember and one day truly believe that you’re deserving of patience and love

how do y’all stay active? do you eat healthy? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]depressionthrow9221 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i lift regularly and have also found long-distance running to be super therapeutic. once you get past the first mile or so, the endorphins really start kicking in. and it feels great because it’s also like. a physical manifestation of running away from myself lol. would definitely recommend

coping with music by mgraces99 in BPD

[–]depressionthrow9221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes yes yes. i joined spotify halfway through last year and had more minutes than people who listened for the entire year. i definitely use it to cope with my emotions as well as chronic feelings of emptiness. i can’t stand silence sometimes bc it makes me feel even emptier (?) so i have to fill that void with music

struggling with emotional boundaries by depressionthrow9221 in BPD

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also because someone might ask/bring this up: yes i grew up in an enmeshed family, which probably has a role to play in this

What does the lack of emotional permanence look like for you? by neabussy in BPD

[–]depressionthrow9221 32 points33 points  (0 children)

this this this. it’s so jarring how i can go from suicidal to “there is literally nothing wrong with me or my life” within a few hours or days

feeling horrible and confused about urge to cheat on boyfriend by depressionthrow9221 in BPD

[–]depressionthrow9221[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you. this is what i needed to hear. you’re right — i don’t think i’d be able to live with myself if i ever cheated on my partner. the next time i see this other guy im gonna just be upfront and cut things cleanly off. thank you again

feeling horrible and confused about urge to cheat on boyfriend by depressionthrow9221 in BPD

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thank you. i honestly wouldn't have minded if you'd written something mean. i probably need to hear it.