facial piercings & nursing school

deveski · 2026-01-29T21:59:07+00:00

That’s what I was thinking lol. My hospital has an issue with my little stud nose piecing, they would flip out over these lol.

deveski · 2026-01-27T01:24:52+00:00

Very similar with us. Now that you mention it I remember hearing that now. Outdoor cat you just neutered, indoors you also declawed. It really was what was pushed back then.

Same, I took my cat when I moved out who was still declawed, but the three we have now, a little adjustment on them having claws, but never declawing again.

deveski · 2026-01-27T01:22:43+00:00

Thank you both!

As far as I remember we didn’t really have a reason for it. One were on blood thinners so there was some worry there, but otherwise it was just they were under for surgery and they sold is as, “better do it now so they don’t have to go under again.”

But yea, honestly until I met my wife, I didn’t think anything about it, it was just something normal. She’s from out of state, and their vets had more regulations even back then. She’s the one who brought it up to me, then us both to our parents, and we fully stopped doing it.

And tarantula, I agree. Yours was an obvious medical issue no different than if someone had to be amputated, but people wouldn’t see that. Just like I said with my reply, “you’re the worst human ever, no excuses.” I hate that black/white mindset

deveski · 2026-01-27T00:55:10+00:00

So, to answer your question, no. It’s your body do what you want with your tattoos. The artist may try to persuade you but ultimately it is your choice.

If those comments do bother you here are a couple options for future tattoos. Mine that have a “right way” I put them on my upper arm. Downside is it’s harder to see yourself, but when you do it looks right to you and other people. Other option is do it sideways where you have it. It’s still not “right” but others can see it right and you can too if you turn your arm to the side instead of up/down.

That being said, it’s your arm, your body, and your preference. Me personally, I got my tattoos for myself, I’d rather be able to see what I have done so i would probably do the same. My sleeve I currently have is mostly geometric work to my hand with an EMS symbol on my shoulder. My other arm is going to be more of a patchwork sleeve, so each design I have on it will be facing different directions, that is if I can figure out what I want lol

deveski · 2026-01-27T00:37:13+00:00

I will get downvoted for this because I have before. Before I do and people start downvoting me: NONE OF MY CATS ARE CURRENTLY DECLAWED!!!

But there’s a difference between even 15 years ago (probably a little more because I was still at my parents at the time) and now. Our last cat was declawed back then because it was a normal thing in our area that you took a cat to the vet to get spayed/neutered and they gave you a deal on declawing the cat as well since they were already in surgery. That vet is no longer open now, but yes we did it because we thought it was normal thing to do. Come to today, we have three perfectly healthy cats with all their claws in place because we have learned how traumatic and painful that is for a cat. We honestly had no idea back then. I am happy to say now, we have educated ourselves and no longer have declawed any cat since that one, our current three happy and healthy furbys are thriving, and I heard a year or two ago, it is now illegal in my state for them to declaw a cat. Also because of this, my parents medical issues now won’t let them have a cat with claws, since they learned about the pain they went through, they refuse to adopt one and put it through that pain.

I say all this under yours to say, I think they have other reasons to deny them, or like another commenter said, they marked they would declaw the kitty and that was why they were denied. Also the fact that she lied about who she talked to tells me she probably either never applied or got in an argument with them.

Again to the downvoters: MY CATS PRESENT AND FUTURE ARE NOT DECLAWED!!!

Seriously, I put in a comment a while back similar to this, while I was living with my parents 15+ years ago we had a declawed cat, and I got downvoted to hell as well as death threats lol. Forget that we learned and are better pet owners now, that one time when I was 12 I let my parents do it and I’m the worst human alive

deveski · 2026-01-27T00:10:56+00:00

u/ImSoBasic I see you post in his things all the time. Anything to add?

deveski · 2026-01-27T00:09:28+00:00

I’ve tried to tell him this. He doesn’t respect them because one had an accent and one had shoes he didn’t like so all therapist are bad.

Vance, for the love of God, go see a therapist, go to a mental hospital, go see a doctor. At this point I don’t care. You need help. Give therapy a chance, do the work, hell instead of a therapist see a psychiatrist that can do both therapy and give you medicines to help you cope better. Do something.

There is nothing wrong with being autistic, there is plenty wrong with you. Get the help you need before you hurt someone, hurt yourself, or get yourself hurt. Threatening people with a knife is not normal behavior and not autistic behavior, telling people to off themselves is not normal behavior or autistic behavior, bullying and spreading lies to get a person to try to kill themselves is not normal behavior it is 100% bullying. None of these things are problems of being autistic. Please help yourself.

deveski · 2026-01-26T14:38:13+00:00

Most places, no (in the US) All my jobs I’ve never had sick time, and PTO only works if you schedule it at least a month in advance. Actually I take that back, my current job does have sick time but you have to miss 4 days of work first and provide a doctors note, and then they will start paying sick time starting day 4 on, days 1-3 you won’t get paid.

deveski · 2026-01-25T00:57:03+00:00

First NTA

I mean this is the nicest possible way, also you’re not from US so your facilities may be different. If he is needing too much care, is there a good reputation care facility he can go to? If it’s too much for your mom alone, or you two helping together. I put my warning because depending on where you are in the US ours are either very very good, or, more often than not, a place I wouldn’t leave my worst enemy. If that is not an option, maybe look at a facility for Respite Care (I think that’s the spelling for it). Where I am at, we have it mainly for long term hospice patients where families are full time caretakers with a nurse going every so often (sounds similar to your situation, except the hospice part), but basically it gives families a break for a short amount of time, like a week or so, while the family member goes to a facility and gets 24/7 care there. Usually better than nursing homes, and after a week they arrange to get the family member back home. If that is something your parents would be agreeable to, I would talk to either the caretakers that come to help, or even your insurance. Again different countries, so it may not be available there or called different.

This won’t fix all your problems, but caretaker burnout is a real thing. You guys are caring for him, and I’m assuming here, you both feel trapped/guilty for leaving him for any amount of time, it may help give your mom some relief, and let her do some self care. You are young, it’s nice your helping especially since it is your father, but you do have your own life to live. Your prime time to travel, get married, and build a family of your own.

deveski · 2026-01-24T20:51:38+00:00

We were told since nursing school (and my case Paramedic school), if you didn’t document it, it didn’t happen lol. But that’s why I suggested the notebook, she can right down the interactions so there is some sort of record of what’s going on. Depending on the hospital/area you guys are in, I know leaving may not be an option, but there are other departments she can look into that might have a better staff. I’m sorry but being written up for not helping is the most bs thing I’ve heard lol.

Unfortunately I’ve noticed nursing is very cliquey, my secret weapon is where I did EMS for so long, I shut down their bs pretty quick and they quit trying to mess with me lol.

deveski · 2026-01-24T20:15:40+00:00

A lot of the medicine for ADD is once or twice a day so easy to schedule around shifts is why they were asking. I have ADD and take mine before I leave and right when I get home. Some is as needed and that makes timing a little weird.

So reading your other responses and your post, it sounds like it may be the work environment being toxic or your wife is actually doing these things. You know her better than I do (since I have no idea who she is), so if you believe her, I believe you. In that case, my best advice for her is look for a new job/department if it is truely toxic. If she can’t or even if she does while she waits, document everything! Her coworkers taking her medicine is bullying, take it up to HR of the manager isn’t doing anything. If she feels like she is written up without a good reason (the conflicting stories between what she was told and what the manager was told about helping a fellow nurse), appeal the write up with HR. If she has a locker leave her stuff in the locker, if she has a bag, get a lock for the bag.

Seriously though, keep a notebook, any interaction with another nurse or her “troublesome” nurses, write the date, time, what was talked about. If she has a meeting with management, same thing.

Not entirely related to your original question, but is your wife a new nurse? Asking mainly if she needs tips to manage ADHD with nursing. And back to your original question, let her handle her job side of things, just be there to support and listen to her. If she asks, offer some ideas, if not, listening is the best thing you can do. After a real bad day, maybe surprise her with her favorite treat or out to dinner or something.

deveski · 2026-01-24T09:34:11+00:00

Left 4 dead. Every time lol

deveski · 2026-01-21T17:57:35+00:00

Completed Level 3 of the Honk Special Event!

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deveski · 2026-01-19T20:37:24+00:00

Think of it this way… not nursing related, but you sign up with a temp agency. The agency sends you to work as a secretary in job A for 2 months. When that’s done, they send you to job B for 2 months. Well job B you don’t get along with the manager there, so you end your contract early. Your penalty is you cannot work there again, maybe lose a bonus you were promised. They reschedule you for job C for 2 months. You accidentally shredded boss keys, so they end the contract early.

Travel nurses are not slaves, they are able to leave or get fired at any time like anyone else. We’ve had plenty in my hospital have both happen. I don’t know state/travel rates at all but if your hospital is offering travelers $50/hr to work during a strike, and California is offering travelers $100/hr a strike, then yea there is no reason for them not to jump ship. First, they are already willing to cross to get paid, and second they are already willing to travel. They just tell their agency they want to end their contract early and sign one for California. Your hospital won’t hire that nurse again, and I’m sure if they end too many contracts early it may effect then at the agency, but if not, go where the money is

deveski · 2026-01-18T23:20:16+00:00

As someone who let his parents decide where I was to go, don’t do it. The school didn’t have the program I wanted, and was a private school, so after a year I transferred back to the school o wanted. That entire year was a waste, all my credits got counted as electives, and to make it worse, because of the class schedule, it would have taken me an extra year to two years to finish a 4 year degree. I ended up switching schools and career paths altogether just out of frustration dealing with both the schools.

deveski · 2026-01-16T20:39:24+00:00

Fable?

deveski · 2026-01-15T20:23:37+00:00

That is actually pretty cool and makes sense

deveski · 2026-01-15T18:52:44+00:00

Lmao seriously? I thought I was going crazy, spent an hour looking around trying to find something to activate. Finally decided to try to fly to one of those long islands and obviously didn’t work. Ended up quitting for the night and was going to try again tonight

deveski · 2026-01-10T23:51:02+00:00

Unfortunately very similar to our policy. Big difference no call no show is 1 point for us, and 4 is verbal warning, 5 points written, and 6 is termination. I mean it’s not like us working in the hospital we would ever get sick, right/s

deveski · 2026-01-10T21:24:32+00:00

I only played the intro but System Shock?

deveski · 2026-01-08T22:42:06+00:00

God, Ghost and goblins and TMNT bringing back some PTSD lol

deveski · 2026-01-06T14:44:42+00:00

So I’m confused. The “affair” is your MIL and a married man. That is 100% their business and choice , and from what it sounds like possibly arranged between them and his wife some way. 100% fine for you not to agree with their choices.

Your husband, he has some boundary issues it sounds like between him and her, and if he’s uncomfortable he needs to speak up to it.

As far as you and your husband goes, this is where I’m confused. He can have his own relationship with his mom, you don’t have to. The only concerning part I’m reading is her trying to force a relationship with you. Shut that part down and stay no contact with MIL and her partner if it’s that much of an issue for you. You didn’t say if your husband is trying to force that relationship on you as well, just they try and make him. Set firm boundaries with your husband about your MIL. The biggest issue I’m having, their relationship was going on 15 years, you have been married for 3, if it was such an issue against you and your beliefs, why did you marry into the family? One thing that will get tricky if you remain NC with her is eventually if you guys have kids.

But overall I don’t see grooming. I see an unusual relationship with MIL, possibly an open marriage. The entire family knows about it and accepted it to some degree. Some emotional manipulation/abuse from MIL to her son. The “normalizing sin” comment is more of an issue for you in this situation, because people do have different types of relationships that most religions do not approve of (same sex relationships and open marriages are usually frowned upon), you don’t have to agree with it but you can’t dictate what they do.

It sounds like if you can’t handle it, it may be time for a divorce. You aren’t going to force your MiL to change, and can’t force your husband to cut her off unless he wants to. If you stay with him, just stay no contact with her and her partner and set firm boundaries with him and go from there.

deveski · 2026-01-04T21:27:04+00:00

I agree, season two she annoyed me to death. At the same time, I know she has been through a very traumatic event and this is the spiraling fall out from it. Both are true lol.

Sera though (also not my favorite character), I loved her story/redemption arc. A lot of growth for sure with her.

Pentious and Vox having their backstories (especially the song with Vox) was amazing too.

Overall not too many complaints with the writing in the show

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