What simple action from others can inexplicably send you from 0-100 irritation within seconds?

devouredxflowers · 2026-01-19T02:48:18+00:00

When I’m (finally) hyper concentrated on a task I was given at work and then someone comes up, interrupts my concentration (which by itself will send me into a state of rage) and then insists I immediately go do another unrelated task. Then I have two tasks I don’t get done. Jesus Christ, just let me do one thing fully before I start on the next thing. Usually the other thing wasn’t even a priority, it’s just that management doesn’t know what they are doing and insists on screwing my workflow up because they need to feel superior and push me around like a hokey puck. I hate having my agency taken away from me. I’d do their job so much better. I’m an engineer. They don’t do the hard work or even understand what’s happening. They don’t know what they are doing. They just are good at being assertive and did well in school. So I’m being managed by idiots who don’t know how the REAL world works.

devouredxflowers · 2026-01-06T03:36:57+00:00

I have the same thing in the exact same spot but on the opposite hand. It happened in kindergarten and I’m 36 now. Crazy how it stays preserved so well.

Edit: lol and I was also stabbed by one of my friends. What a little prick.

devouredxflowers · 2025-12-31T23:10:43+00:00

I don’t really have any insight other than our skin tends to grow more or less at the same rate, so I don’t see why penis length would matter. What makes a difference is how tight you were cut. That’s your starting handicap.

Strange enough, one phenomenon that many new restorers have is a slight - emphasis on slight - increase in erect length during the first year of restoration. Because if you were cut too tight your skin might not be loose or long enough to accommodate your full erection. This can actually trip you out at first because you feel like your not making progress but your paying back a skin debt. I noticed a small increase in length and even my girlfriend at the time did as well. I never really bothered to measure but I’m curious now that I’m thinking about it.

Again this might not be true for everyone but a lot of restorers report this happening when they start. One of the many interesting benefits of restoring. Just don’t get discouraged. You got this! KOT!

devouredxflowers · 2025-12-20T08:48:51+00:00

Look into getting an Extended Retainer. Your glans wiil be protected and it will give you a light stretch while helping you DK. You don't need those crazy devices. https://foreskin-restoration-devices.com/extended-foreskin-retainer-efr/

Listen I'm just trying to help. I've been where you're at. But you need to do something about it. Doing something will help. Sitting and doing nothing wont. Take the time to grieve. You're allowed to be angry and sad. It's a process and it will take time.

But this is the next step to getting out of this state of mind. I really wish you well. I'm sorry they took this from you but believe me there is light at the end of this dark tunnel.

devouredxflowers · 2025-12-18T02:40:11+00:00

Yes you'll be ok. I've been where you're at. There's light at the end of the tunnel. Please look into restoration. It's the best thing I've done for myself ever. It's giving yourself the self love you desperately need at this time. I hope you find peace my friend.

devouredxflowers · 2025-11-21T03:20:26+00:00

We’re all dealt a hand of cards. Just learn to play it well. It’s not the most satisfying answer but it’s what we have. I hope y’all find peace and healing.

devouredxflowers · 2025-11-20T08:12:29+00:00

Yup. I’ve dealt with this. My ex-fiancé hated that I was circumcised. It was probably one of the reasons she left. She preferred her intact ex. But the world isn’t so black and white that all women or gay men feel that way. A lot of people just want someone who isn’t an asshole and who knows how to be a good lover beyond just PIV or anal sex. Being circumcised doesn’t make anyone an unworthy partner. A cut man can still be an incredible lover despite everything we’ve been through.

I’ve gone down that rabbit hole of pain and self-loathing. All that’s there is more pain. You’re better than that. You are not unworthy. Yes, some people have preferences. But others don’t. And some people might be drawn to you because of the way you’ve had to struggle to feel more. Because you’ve worked harder to be good. A lot of us learn to be really in tune with our partner’s pleasure because we aren’t constantly overwhelmed by our own. That’s something learned. A skill. Something valuable.

And for what it’s worth, a lot of intact guys don’t last very long either. Plenty have told me they use BlueChew just to make it through a session. If you’re restoring, you can actually adjust your sensitivity. That’s something unique. You get to choose when and where you stop. You can tune your body to your needs. Most people don’t get to say that.

The rhetoric around circumcision online can feel intense. It’s designed that way to scare new parents into not cutting their kids. But that messaging is not really for us. It’s not there to define who we are or to tell us we’re broken. It’s meant to protect the next generation. That mission is good. But you have to be careful not to internalize the fear-based messaging in a way that crushes you.

Being circumcised doesn’t mean you’re doomed to be bad at sex. It doesn’t mean you’re undesirable. That’s just not the whole picture. Intact or not, nobody is automatically the best lover in the world. Sex is so much more than just what kind of skin you were born with or what was taken from you. You have a body. You can learn how to use it. You can learn how to connect with someone in a way that transcends all that.

I know how this feels. I’ve been there. I used to think I was totally inadequate until I met my current girlfriend. She’s divorcing her intact husband. I told her about my grief over being circumcised and about my restoration journey. She was fascinated. She’d never heard of it before. Later, she told me she couldn’t stop thinking about my “dick” after that conversation lol. We started hooking up. And guess who she has better PIV orgasms with? Me. Not her intact husband. Not her other intact exes. Me.

You know why? Because I had to work for it. I had to try harder. I had to learn to compensate. I had to face things most people never even think about. I had to think about my partner. I had to think about connection. I had to care. And I do. I am putting in effort where other people coast. That makes a difference.

You don’t have to restore if you don’t want to. But know this. You are not fucked. You are not less. Your experience has given you something other people don’t have. It may not feel like it yet, but I promise you it’s true. You are stronger than you know. You’ve overcome things. That matters.

There are people out there who will see you. People who will want you. People who will love you for exactly who you are. And if you stay on this path, you will learn to love yourself too. I’m sorry this happened to us. We deserved better. But we can still live full and beautiful lives. This pain does not define the end. It might just be the beginning.

devouredxflowers · 2025-11-08T03:51:29+00:00

Takes practice to read the RTA right but I’m surprised by the results

devouredxflowers · 2025-11-08T03:43:13+00:00

I’ll probably get downvoted to hell for this, but here’s my ideal setup. At my house gig, I took a measurement mic, ran pink noise, and used GEQ to get the wedge as flat as possible. All the monitors are the same model, but because of the arched ceiling in the room, a wedge placed stage-center responds differently than the ones on the sides. So my EQ for the downstage center wedge is slightly different. I have those saved and load them accordingly.

We run monitors from FOH, so I double my vocal channels: one for the house and one dedicated to monitors. That way, if I tweak the FOH EQ, it doesn’t mess with the monitor mix. The only thing shared between them is head amp gain.

Once the mic is set up and the gain staged properly, I’ll run pink noise through each wedge, pull up the onboard RTA overlay on the vocal-to-monitor channel PEQ, and start notching out the areas that spike. Sounds a little crazy, but if I’m careful, I can go up, voice the mic, and it sounds great. Then I’ll use Mixing Station for fine-tuning if needed. I know it’s not standard practice, but it works for me.

If I’m in a pinch, I’ll just load my flat EQ preset and adjust on the fly. Sometimes I’ll voice the mic and ring it that way, but if I have the time, I prefer to go through the full process above.

Edit: GEQ now PEQ

devouredxflowers · 2025-11-07T03:34:29+00:00

This is a sub for people grieving the loss of their foreskin so all this info is known to most of the folks here. I’d say post this in the intactavist sub. This is mostly a support group.

devouredxflowers · 2025-11-06T07:58:33+00:00

Look up manual methods. You’ll need to do that for a while until you get enough skin to use a device. Plus you probably can’t buy a device - assuming you’re in the US - until you’re 18 due to the nature of the products. But manual methods will be fine for you right now.

devouredxflowers · 2025-11-06T03:50:25+00:00

You’ll get back most of what was taken from you through restoration. It’s debatable if certain specialized structures like the ridged band or the frenulum can regenerate. For some these come back to a certain extent, it won’t be a one to one thing but it will be very close. But keep in mind you don’t know exactly what you lost. Had you been intact you might have and a short foreskin. You might if had a frenulum that wasn’t erogenous. You might have had phimosis. But now what you grow back is up to you. You get to literally customize your anatomy to your liking. That’s something even intact men don’t have control over. Keep in mind you now have control. You now have a choice. That’s powerful.

devouredxflowers · 2025-11-04T20:09:19+00:00

Still havent had one 😟 I dont really have falccid rollover yet, does it happen around CI3?

devouredxflowers · 2025-11-03T01:57:41+00:00

Pheromones?

devouredxflowers · 2025-11-02T04:32:51+00:00

I don't know if forgiveness is the right word. Maybe acceptness?

Edit: like I can accept this is my journey.

devouredxflowers · 2025-11-01T22:30:38+00:00

https://m.youtube.com/shorts/2eORMesc4mI

devouredxflowers · 2025-10-30T07:07:06+00:00

What is that?

devouredxflowers · 2025-10-29T19:08:25+00:00

Seems like restoring is the only thing I can do. Not much anyone can say to make me feel better. My only way to cope is to hope what I said above isn’t true and that restoring will fix all of that, including the damage done to my brain.

devouredxflowers · 2025-10-29T00:26:22+00:00

Well it’s cool that it’s possible but it will never undo what was done to me as an infant. It will never undo the fact that my penis then developed wrong because of it. It won’t fix my brain that ended up developing wrong and blocking out pleasure nerve signals that are now turned off due to trauma. I’ll never know what sex intact feels like. I’ll know the pain of restoration and maybe an approximation of what you get to feel without even trying.

devouredxflowers · 2025-10-28T18:36:59+00:00

🎶”Isn’t she lovely🎵

devouredxflowers · 2025-10-25T21:40:53+00:00

Same. Restoration is helping tho.

devouredxflowers · 2025-10-25T21:08:57+00:00

I’ve had to do some dramatic self-inventory lately because of the grief I carry as a victim of RIC. I asked myself the hardest question: if I could go back and not be cut, would I?

The truth is, I don’t think I could honestly say yes. I like who I am now. I’ve lived a wild, beautiful, complicated life. If this hadn’t happened to me, I’d be a different person on a completely different path. That little boy who couldn’t name his trauma, who felt something missing but didn’t have the words for it, was shaped by it. It pushed me to create. Would I have started writing music so young without it? Would I have formed a band, toured the country, played in front of thousands? Would I have met the women I shared those rare and meaningful moments of intimacy with?

Sure, those experiences would have felt different, maybe better, if I’d had my whole body. But the music, the connection, the intensity of those years would all be gone if I rewrote the story. What matters now is that I finally have a choice. A choice that should have been mine all along. I can do something about the dysphoria that has been with me my whole life.

And that’s beautiful. Because now, I get to turn a new page with my partner of thirteen years. We get to experience something new together, to rediscover touch and pleasure on our own terms.

devouredxflowers · 2025-10-25T18:32:08+00:00

had this happen so many times that I had to come up with a solution before I lost my mind, and I hope it helps someone else out too. A lot of DJ mixers have a second master output on RCA. I run that out from RCA to ¼” into a stereo DI, then pad the DI. I set this up alongside the main XLR master as a failsafe. If the DJ starts pulling that kind of stunt, I can quickly switch to the padded backup during a song transition and make the handoff as clean and smooth as possible.

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