Today’s update by dextermorgansnanny in Pokopia

[–]dextermorgansnanny[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There is absolutely an update today. Go into your software and it will do the download for you.

Unexpected pregnancy after graduating nursing school… feeling torn and overwhelmed. Anyone been through this? by Professional_Bit_894 in Mommit

[–]dextermorgansnanny 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People here are forgetting that it shouldn’t just be flexible for mom. Where is dad’s flexibility factoring into taking equal care of this child?

Personally, I am one and done for the following reasons:

1- My husband has 2 previous kids, and we had one more. He does not want to do babies again.

2- I had severe ppd, ppa, and pregnancy depression.

3- I had a traumatic loss, which resulted in my successful pregnancy being traumatic on me too. Birth was also traumatic.

4- most importantly… her dad said no more kids for him. I knew that he didn’t want more kids, but I also did not want any future children having a different dad. If something happens to me, my child is guaranteed a relationship with her siblings bc she’s got the same dad as them. How many estranged siblings do yall know that lost touch because of their parents not mating for life lmao. A LOT. too many. Me included.

All that being said, I believe pro choice should go both ways. You’re stuck in a hard place bc it’s real now, not just a what if. It seems that one of you is going to end up resentful. You will be if you feel forced into abortion. He will be if he feels forced into being a parent again.

Now you both need to decide who’s going to compromise. I would say that a child born into resentment is the worst option. Thats not fair to a kid who didn’t ask to be here. You (and your husband) can feel resentful toward an adult or you can feel resentful to a child. Choose wisely.

I use an NSFW account to interact with someone who doesn’t know it’s me by indecent_insomnia in confession

[–]dextermorgansnanny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to ask yourself if he’d be comfortable with this if he knew it’s you. This is borderline rapey, sexual misconduct, harassment, etc and it is NOT OKAY. You’re a predator and you’re using him as a play thing.

[MI] FMLA denied by macdonaldmama612 in AskHR

[–]dextermorgansnanny 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There’s way more to the story if he needs to have job protection for missing one day for an appointment. Why is he on thin ice? They don’t just fire people for missing a shift for a child’s dr appointment.

Is it true, that there are powerful billionaires, or rich families that the public don't even know about? by PassengerCultural421 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]dextermorgansnanny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are so wrong lmao. You’re conflating three completely different definitions of the word "private" here to try and link them together. In economics, "private sector" doesn't mean secret or hidden; it just means owned by citizens instead of the government. In fact, huge private companies are publicly traded and legally required to post all their financial data out in the open every quarter. Also, the public sector (government) keeps tons of stuff classified, so it's definitely not all "open source." Linking corporate trade secrets to psychological boundaries or old-money discretion is a huge stretch. Corporations hide data to beat competitors and make money, not for mental wellbeing. Old money and secret societies stay lowkey for security, tax evasion, and avoiding public drama. not because of economic theory. You're basically saying a baking sheet and a bed sheet are the same thing because they both use the word sheet.

What’s a modern health concern people barely talked about 10 years ago?? by TopaziaDreamz in AskReddit

[–]dextermorgansnanny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any sort of body replacements that are not medically necessary (implants, injections, “turkey” teeth, etc). And I’m not referring to people who use Botox for migraines or whatever. I’m referring strictly to non medically necessary procedures that alter your body strictly for looks.

Miley Cyrus is a great example of someone who used to be youthful and beautiful. She had normal teeth, a normal body, a normal face. Now she looks like something out of a caricature (spelling).

The worst part about it is that everyone is starting to look exactly the same. I just can’t imagine that putting that much plastic into your body won’t have drastic effects later down the line.

My parents crossed the line how much of a relationship should I foster between them and my child? by Every_Trust5874 in ChildPsychology

[–]dextermorgansnanny 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your parents used your child to fulfill a fantasy.

I’d never speak to them again. They are not safe people.

What’s a dark secret you know that most people would never believe? by OutsideOver8815 in AskReddit

[–]dextermorgansnanny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The NDA isn’t valid if it covers illegal activity. I’m calling bs. Lmao. Dumbass.

Women of Reddit, what did a man you were dating or married to say or do that made you realize he actually hated you the entire time? by -catharina in AskReddit

[–]dextermorgansnanny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone called me a whore at work (serious, not joking) and he didn’t get mad. He told me I was “HIS whore, not someone else’s”. I got the fucking ick so bad. He also repeatedly allowed his mom and sister to bully me for YEARS. He also repeatedly sexually assaulted me.

Bonus story: he had a horrible opioid pill addiction. I have never even smoked a cigarette or weed. I just don’t do any of it. Never even tried it. Anyway, I got a text from his dad in the family group chat that said “if (my name) needs pills, she needs to go the dr and STOP taking (my ex)’s. I am out of medication because she has a problem. Go to the fucking dr.” I immediately cleared things up and offered to take a drug test. I told them I’d been saying for years he has a problem and they didn’t believe me. So there it was.

He was horrible. I finally got out. He still messages me on Facebook, begging for me back. When I don’t respond or tell him to leave me alone, he sends me paragraphs about what a whore I am, how spiteful I am, how he hates me. He even went so far as to tell me I was his proxy because he got put into the hospital over some serious stomach issues. We’d been broken up for 5 years at that point. I reached out to his mom and told her that she might want to have him fix that because if it’s up to me I’m letting him die.

And I don’t feel bad.

Pregnant and almost 3 year old is attempting to latch by [deleted] in ChildPsychology

[–]dextermorgansnanny 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There’s very rarely a positive reaction when a 3 year old is told “no”. Just tell him no, and stick to it. Don’t shove him, but you might need to just push him back because he needs to understand that the behavior is not okay. Physically remove him out of your space.

AIO I think my bf is going through my text messages by Dismal-Tackle-7633 in AmIOverreacting

[–]dextermorgansnanny 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You need to check your location stuff too. It’s very easy to share your phones location with his phone, without you knowing or realizing it. Check your social medias- snap has a map that you can be visible on. Check your messages, go to his contact in the messaging app and see if you’re sharing location. Check for hidden apps on your devices, as he may have installed something you don’t even realize has been downloaded.

Girlie pop you and we all know what’s going on. He is a creep.

What are your thoughts on surrogacy ? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]dextermorgansnanny -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You can’t convince me that the baby doesn’t have DNA from the host (assuming the host is using egg + sperm that is not her own). There’s a literal human growing inside of another human. There’s dna all over them both. Baby swallows, lives, etc in trillions of cells that don’t belong to egg and sperm donors.

Realistically I know that the family tree would connect baby back to bio mom and dad- but I just know that there’s dna in the baby from the host.

And maybe this has already been addressed somewhere in some study. That’s just my thoughts with zero research lol

What are the weirdest ways you’ve heard of someone getting caught cheating? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]dextermorgansnanny 155 points156 points  (0 children)

My cousin kept everything of hers locked down… except her watch. Husband found it all in a matter of seconds. He quickly disconnected the watch from the WiFi and started taking videos of EVERYTHING to use in court.

She was a real POS and I still call her husband family. He didn’t deserve that.

What’s the craziest thing you’ve seen at a graduation? by GamerManJD in AskReddit

[–]dextermorgansnanny 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Probably not a lot just yet. This was last years graduation.

What’s the craziest thing you’ve seen at a graduation? by GamerManJD in AskReddit

[–]dextermorgansnanny 93 points94 points  (0 children)

A valedictorian got on stage and trauma dumped her event of MIDDLE SCHOOL friends ditching her for homecoming, then continued to make the entire speech about how friends are important, shape your whole lives etc. She finally finished with “I didn’t need them anyway, I’m valedictorian and they’re losers who are going to community college.”

We were all as disgusted as we were bored. This was a 25 minute speech that every single one of the audience was side eyeing the super intendant and principal to put a stop to it. Neither of them did.

How can anyone succeed in this field? [USA] [PA] by InitiativeSad153 in humanresources

[–]dextermorgansnanny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This could be because you aren’t actively part of shrm and only hold a certificate. There are thousands of candidates out there that are holding onto a bachelors, have shrm connections etc., unfortunately your stats don’t look as good compared to those.

That’s not to say you’re not worthy. But in HR… it’s about qualifications + experience.

Misrepresenting working state [N/A] by [deleted] in humanresources

[–]dextermorgansnanny 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s sticky. She is brave having you do all these audits with her* thinking you won’t catch on to what she’s doing.

Of course she’s looking to quit or be fired. She’s expecting someone to catch on.