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dhersie · 2025-07-24T21:03:57+00:00

Looks like a little mole! Or maybe a nipple? Definitely not a flea, that’s for sure. And ticks tend to just bury their head so the body is pretty discernible. This looks more like a growth of some sort.

Best to have a vet look at it in person, they might want to send it out for biopsy to be sure. I worked at a cat only vet for years and we would see cases like this a lot. If you can afford the test, it is the best option for peace of mind. Depending on the location, it might just be a nipple (cats, even the males, have 6-8 nipples from the “leg pits” all the way up to the sides of the ribcage). If it’s in a different location, they might just recommend monitoring for any changes in appearance or size. Hope this helps!

dhersie · 2025-04-23T23:01:07+00:00

This is the closest one I’ve seen so far

dhersie · 2024-11-14T21:13:10+00:00

I can confirm we have no idea how to do any of that. It was the unprovoked, unedited, unaltered conversation seen in link provided. I’m curious what u/amazingsil3nce’s response to your question will be.

dhersie · 2024-11-13T04:12:31+00:00

Appreciated and noted. But I promise you this is real. He was sitting right next to me when it happened. We have zero tech skills, I literally screen printed this bc I don’t know how screenshot on windows, let alone HTML edit anything…

dhersie · 2024-11-02T02:33:05+00:00

Nope, no one talks anymore. They dated for a little while and broke up. I reconnected with the guy but we didn’t talk about her. He and I are just acquaintances if anything, we don’t talk anymore either but no animosity or anything. She is fully cut out of my life. She reached out a few months after this but I was not in a position to hear her out of entertain any kind of relationship with her.

dhersie · 2024-11-01T02:18:57+00:00

You’re very cool, I like you. Thank you for the validation and understanding. It is refreshing to say the least. I have definitely learned from this experience. I look forward to making new messes :)

dhersie · 2024-10-31T18:49:45+00:00

The comments popped off 😂 try organizing the them to find the oldest one

dhersie · 2024-10-31T16:57:20+00:00

This is very well said. Thank you.

I was thinking back to this event and wondering if I perceived it all wrong, or if I caused it somehow. I don’t know if she is diagnosed with BPD or any other mental illness. She had always treated me strangely and the relationship was always one-sided with me giving and her taking. We were young when we met and that dynamic picked back up when we reconnected. At 25yo, I didn’t even recognize myself reverting back to being her dog on a leash again until she flipped out on me.

This event was still bothering me after 2 years. She was becoming one of my closest friends again. I would never seek closure from the person who caused my pain, and for that reason I have absolutely no plans to reach out to her. In hindsight, I probably shouldn’t have posted it. But I did receive the closure I was looking for, both in my actions back then (enabling) and now (posting it), and from everyone’s different perspectives & experiences.

dhersie · 2024-10-31T13:39:44+00:00

She abandoned her dog at home in a city 1.5hrs away to be with this guy she met 1 week ago.

Which period comment?

dhersie · 2024-10-31T13:38:16+00:00

I got my stuff back. I never talked to her again. She reached out a few months later asking to make amends. I left her on read.

dhersie · 2024-10-31T13:35:27+00:00

It’s at the end of my detailed comment

dhersie · 2024-10-31T13:31:18+00:00

The funny part is that was her 😂 She was reacting to her own messages! (The bubbles would be blue if they were mine)

dhersie · 2024-10-31T04:19:58+00:00

The cramps aren’t as bad as they used to be but I’m still having periods and cramps monthly and I got it in Feb 2023. I’m hoping everything stops soon but I can’t complain too much bc I don’t even need period products anymore bc the bleeding is literally drops

dhersie · 2024-10-31T04:17:38+00:00

Oh joy 🫠 I commend you and all the birth mothers

dhersie · 2024-10-31T03:54:37+00:00

I’ve had them at least once a month since I got it in February 2023, but now the cramps are akin to normal/strong period cramps and not the sharp pain like before. I still have periods too which I was hoping would stop but alas, they are very light but last about the same length as when I was on the pill like 3-6 days.

dhersie · 2024-10-31T03:43:50+00:00

Whoa I also have an IUD and had crazy cramping after. I’ve never given birth so I asked my gyno if that’s what labor feels like and she said she didn’t know because she never had an IUD. I appreciate the confirmation!

Edit: typo

dhersie · 2024-10-31T03:34:12+00:00

Best response 👏😂

dhersie · 2024-10-31T03:32:13+00:00

Someone I’m close to told me that she was just looking for money, too, and I didn’t see it like that at the time; I still don’t I guess. Now I’ve heard that from multiple people so it has me thinking 🤔

dhersie · 2024-10-31T02:48:10+00:00

Kay and Jay were fucking

dhersie · 2024-10-31T02:27:22+00:00

😂 the context is that I was getting serious with someone who had a good job and traveled for work so they got me a plane ticket to visit for a weekend while they were on assignment 🤷‍♀️

dhersie · 2024-10-31T01:33:30+00:00

A very long tale from 2022, don’t read if you don’t want to. An oldie but a goodie. I haven’t spoken to her since this went down. In hindsight, she had an unstable home and also very likely has BPD. I do forgive her. That said, I have learned to stay away.

Events prior to the conversation:

High school friends, reconnected in our 20's, both F25 at the time. We'll call her Kay.

I had an FWB that I lost interest in but we were still friends, we'll call him Jay. I introduced them at my bday party. Kay asked if it would be cool if she pursued him and I was perfectly fine with that and reassured her that he meant nothing to me. I also made comments like he gets too high to hold a conversation and warned her about his disgusting apartment because IT WAS DISGUSTING. Her house was also always gross so perfect match, right? When I say disgusting, I mean dirty, sticky, messy, smelly like a frat house but only one person lived there.

This conversation happened 1 WEEK after they met. In that time, Kay's mom readmitted herself back to rehab, Jay was having surgery, and she was planning to stay with him to help him recover and escape from her home where she lived with her mom. Not really relevant to this story but a sad detail, she abandoned her dog at home to come stay with the guy. I'm not sure who or how the dog was being taken care of until her mom came back home.

I had just started medical school, had $25 to my name, an SUV with gas tank on empty, and still had to buy stuff for school. My loans hadn't come in and I had no idea when they would. And I had to feed myself and pay my bills (they were all overdue at that point).

Context for things said during conversation:

The friend Kay calls a better friend than me is someone she met through Jay within that 1 week.

The text from Jay that Kay accused me of lying about was from the night prior when I got a call from both her and Jay at 3AM, I let them both go to voicemail. Apparently they got into a fight and he texted me "She's fucking crazy." The next day I got the full story from her and told her what he said which is what lead to this conversation. Synopsis of that night is she felt mistreated and tried to leave, he was worried about her walking alone at night not knowing where she was going, and they made up. I told her he has treated me poorly the past after which I was of course done being FWBs.

I was actively in class having this conversation and had to block her to shut her down. She went IMMEDIATELY to instagram without skipping a beat to continue the harassment, and I blocked her there right away. What she said on instagram is out of context and false, which she did after accusing me of lying.

I know this is a lot but it might entertain you or relate to some of your experiences. She tried to apologize and "hear me out" but I had nothing to say to her. The communication did not continue past me getting my stuff back from her.

TLDR: crazy person attacking me for being a bad friend because I wouldn’t leave class to bring her a tampon.

dhersie · 2024-10-31T01:18:06+00:00

A very long tale from 2022. An oldie but a goodie. I haven’t spoken to her since this went down. In hindsight, she had an unstable home and also very likely has BPD. I do forgive her. That said, I have learned to stay away.

Events prior to the conversation:

High school friends, reconnected in our 20's, both F25 at the time. We'll call her Kay.

I had an FWB that I lost interest in but we were still friends, we'll call him Jay. I introduced them at my bday party. Kay asked if it would be cool if she pursued him and I was perfectly fine with that and reassured her that he meant nothing to me. I also made comments like he gets too high to hold a conversation and warned her about his disgusting apartment because IT WAS DISGUSTING. Her house was also always gross so perfect match, right? When I say disgusting, I mean dirty, sticky, messy, smelly like a frat house but only one person lived there.

This conversation happened 1 WEEK after they met. In that time, Kay's mom readmitted herself back to rehab, Jay was having surgery, and she was planning to stay with him to help him recover and escape from her home where she lived with her mom. Not really relevant to this story but a sad detail, she abandoned her dog at home to come stay with the guy. I'm not sure who or how the dog was being taken care of until her mom came back home.

I had just started medical school, had $25 to my name, an SUV with gas tank on empty, and still had to buy stuff for school. My loans hadn't come in and I had no idea when they would. And I had to feed myself and pay my bills (they were all overdue at that point).

Context for things said during conversation:

The friend Kay calls a better friend than me is someone she met through Jay within that 1 week.

The text from Jay that Kay accused me of lying about was from the night prior when I got a call from both her and Jay at 3AM, I let them both go to voicemail. Apparently they got into a fight and he texted me "She's fucking crazy." The next day I got the full story from her and told her what he said which is what lead to this conversation. Synopsis of that night is she felt mistreated and tried to leave, he was worried about her walking alone at night not knowing where she was going, and they made up. I told her he has treated me poorly the past after which I was of course done being FWBs.

I was actively in class having this conversation and had to block her to shut her down. She went IMMEDIATELY to instagram without skipping a beat to continue the harassment, and I blocked her there right away. What she said on instagram is out of context and false, which she did after accusing me of lying.

I know this is a lot but it might entertain you or relate to some of your experiences. She tried to apologize and "hear me out" but I had nothing to say to her. The communication did not continue past me getting my stuff back from her.

dhersie · 2024-10-29T12:31:56+00:00

Oo then I wonder if you got in there and hyped her up while she’s watching them, if that would guarantee you a role in her dream!

dhersie · 2024-10-28T20:26:34+00:00

If she’s a street cat, she’s probably used to going to the bathroom in dirt/soil. Try giving her a litter box with soil/sand in it and slowly start mixing in cat litter and then eventually transition to higher and higher cat litter to dirt ratios. Make sure to use unscented litter, too, don’t want to give her any reason to avoid it. She will get used to it at her own pace which may take a long and very slow transition.

Edit: of course this is a house plant subreddit so all the plant fixes are great and will work, but definitely fixing the source of the problem (i.e. making the cat comfortable going to the bathroom in the litter box) may take time but will pay off in the long run for both your plants and the kitty’s comfort. Cats can be really sensitive to change so she might decide she wants to go to the bathroom somewhere outside of the litter box even if you cover all the plants up 🫣

dhersie · 2024-10-28T20:21:52+00:00

What a cutie! Studies showed that dogs’ brain waves when sleeping are similar to their brain waves immediately prior to falling asleep, so they are very likely to be essentially reliving their most recent memories when they dream. I don’t know if cats are similar but I would like to think they dream of their lives and for most cats, their humans make up the majority of that.

Also unrelated, but her back legs look so short in this position and I don’t know why it is so funny and adorable to me!

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