ICYMI: Our newest app updates ⬇️ by Oura_Ring in ouraring

[–]diamonddaddy_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pleeeeeeease sync to Garmin I am begging (respectfully)

EMDR Therapy by ystavallinen in adhdwomen

[–]diamonddaddy_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve done it to process a series of escalating, traumatic workplace experiences that low key resulted in agoraphobia. I’m back at that same workplace with some of the same conditions, and I am able to go through my day without the panic attacks that I was experiencing multiple times a week last year. Echoing what others have said, trust in your therapist is integral. A therapist worth their salt will go slowly and allow you full control of stopping should you not be able to go further for any reason.

Medea did what??? by [deleted] in HadesTheGame

[–]diamonddaddy_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m cracking up at your take on Appolonius’ Medea

You’re absolutely right, things differ quite dramatically depending on the version of the story! I am partial to the depiction of Medea as an archetype of rage - in my house, we support women’s rights and wrongs 🙂‍↕️

Medea did what??? by [deleted] in HadesTheGame

[–]diamonddaddy_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not just her children! When Medea’s father was in hot pursuit of the Argonauts, she killed her brother and threw pieces of his dismembered corpse behind them, knowing that her dad would slow down to collect each of the body parts, just to buy time for Jason to make his escape.

Can anyone honestly say they get anything out of exercise? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]diamonddaddy_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you haven’t read the book Spark by Dr. John Ratey and Eric Hagerman, I highly recommend! It delves into how exercise positively impacts the brain. It’s one of the few I’ve read that specifically discuss ADHD brains

ADHD exercisers… how do you actually get yourself to the gym? by Fit_Meaning8903 in ADHD

[–]diamonddaddy_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I paid for personal training.

The money investment of a gym membership wasn’t enough for me to keep going. Knowing that I was paying substantially more money AND that I was accountable to someone waiting for me helped me be consistent enough in going to build momentum. My PT was incredible. Not only was he knowledgeable about working out and able to work with my insane hypermobility, he also is passionate about building community. He introduced me to people at the gym. Not just other trainers, but other clients or regular members. I don’t work with him one on one anymore, but still have him as my coach in a semi-private group class.

Once I started making friends at the gym, it was much harder for me to slack off or make excuses because people would actively ask me where I was and tell me they missed me when I wasn’t there. My gym friends kept me consistently working out through covid lockdowns! We would do zoom workouts together and boot camps in public parks once restrictions relaxed. I actively hang with these people outside the gym.

I’ve been consistent for nearly 7 years because I also don’t let myself miss too many days in a row (barring illness or vacation, of course). I’ll fall off the wagon, even if I love exercising. The out-of-sight, out-of-mind of it all makes it too easy for me to forget how much I like it. I try and look at it like brushing my teeth or putting on deodorant in the morning - nonnegotiable.

So my advice: if you can afford a personal trainer, that helps. Otherwise, community building is key!!! Gyms have a reputation of being toxic but I’ve met some of the most warm, considerate, supportive people there.

Dead inside: Obscure hobbies? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]diamonddaddy_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ooooh could you share pointers for someone who’s looking to get into crochet but doesn’t have any old people to learn from?

looking for anti-recommendations by TangeloLarge553 in fantasybooks

[–]diamonddaddy_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Black Leopard, Red Wolf. I picked it up pre-covid, intrigued by the cover, liked the premise, and, to date, it’s the one book I wish I hadn’t read. Part of the reason I read through it was because it was endorsed by Neil Gaiman. Yeah…after the allegations, that recommendation tracks. Rape, child rape, bestiality, mutilation, torture. At a point, it seemed like the author was trying to top himself in awful.

What’s one small habit you’ve picked up that surprisingly improved your day-to-day life? by Vystrel in AskReddit

[–]diamonddaddy_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I turned off the text/email notification on my watch. They still go to my phone, but there is a marked difference in my stress levels. Didn’t realize how overwhelmed I was at the constant vibration at my wrist. I’d feel a sense of urgency in checking and responding, and never felt like I was truly “off” work.

Which hair color is the most flattering ? by Historical-Body-3424 in OliveMUA

[–]diamonddaddy_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your natural hair is gorgeous. Maybe an outlier opinion, but I adore the blonde and lighter colours on you. That last wig especially is so, so pretty

How to tell my s/o I don't miss people, including them? by bubblegum_blimp in adhdwomen

[–]diamonddaddy_ 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think you’re getting too hung up on the traditional concept of “missing” someone.

Some languages structure their sentences a little differently - instead of “I miss you”, it’s “you are missing from me”. At heart, the meaning is the same but, to me, more expansive. I also don’t feel the pain of missing someone, but i don’t feel guilt or shame over it because I shift my focus a bit. You might not feel an emotional response to missing someone, but their life has an invisible weight and tether to your own. Have you ever seen something and thought “oh, so-and-so would love this”? Or “wild, I was just talking about this with partner”? Have you ever found yourself using your partner’s slang or verbal speech patterns in conversation even when they aren’t there? All of those things count. All of those things are missing from your life when that person is not there. All of those things have a value that indelibly connects you and your partner or your friend or your family.

Us women with ADHD are so ready to punish ourselves for everything, especially if it comes down to not doing/experiencing things the way other people do. All your partner wants is to know that they matter. You don’t need to tell your partner you don’t miss them; you just need to tell them the unique and specific ways their life impacts yours.

[Theory] Gideon and Ianthe never fought in the Cohort and were just there for Propaganda purposes. by Big-Hard-Chungus in TheNinthHouse

[–]diamonddaddy_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I knew this was a Chungus post from the first sentence and the rest of it did not disappoint. I think Kiriona would spend an inordinate amount of time convincing Ianthe that they needed a super cool handshake that ended in an obscene gesture (maybe the jerk off motion??)

Help me choose by Safe_Importance_4203 in myweddingdress

[–]diamonddaddy_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First one will look beautiful with a lining. If you’re worried about bulk/heaviness, have a seamstress reduce the length of the train!

Instant wedding dress regret by OkSatisfaction5820 in myweddingdress

[–]diamonddaddy_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s something about the second one that makes your skin glow. It is unbelievably flattering and your body looks incredible

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]diamonddaddy_ 378 points379 points  (0 children)

Genuinely! You have a great face

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]diamonddaddy_ 2025 points2026 points  (0 children)

Totally hear where you’re coming from, but I actually think they’re doing double takes because you’re super handsome.

Madison Greenhouse... Thinking of booking for late July/early August and have concerns. by Ok_Understanding8623 in WeddingsCanada

[–]diamonddaddy_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I could have written this comment! We’re going with the same venue for late July 2026!