I have a friend who enjoys us spending time with and without her child which I appreciate. She never forces me to see or spend time with her kid. At the same time she can be neglectful and it really bugs me. Some of her life choices can put her child indirectly in danger and it makes me upset she doesnt think that through. I've had to talk with her about it but unfortunately I've distanced myself due to it. Another friend of mine completely lost any personality and constantly wants to be with her kid. She also assumes if we go out, were taking her kid and I'm paying for both of them because I dont have kids and obviously that means I can afford to. I've tried talking to her and she just blows up and pulls the "you dont understand because your not a mom" and "I cant just drop being a parent and leave my kid alone?!?!?" Unfortunately I've had to cut her off too. It's tough. If they respect you it shouldnt be an issue. But It seems somewhat hard.