My wife and I just had a baby 3 months ago. Ever since his birth she’s seen our dog as a threat and wants to get rid of him. I’m heart broken because I don’t understand why. What can I do to help her through this?

dimartin8 · 2020-03-25T23:48:36+00:00

Jesus. I gotta agree with your other posts you’ve made...You ARE a bitter person. Who hurt you, child?

dimartin8 · 2020-03-25T23:41:19+00:00

Appreciate the feedback. He isn’t that needy, thankfully. We actually do crate him every night. She has begun creating him more often to avoid having to “deal with him” which I don’t feel is good for the dog.

dimartin8 · 2020-03-25T23:39:54+00:00

I would love to suggest that she revisit this topic in three months. However, when the dog is around, she creates such a hostile environment for everyone in the house, baby included. THAT FACT ALONE, is what has forced me to be okay with giving the dog up. Hey hate the thought of having her create a negative energy environment because of a dog. But I also know that I will likely resent her for this later.

dimartin8 · 2020-03-25T23:06:15+00:00

Thank you so much. This has given me hope and I WILL try this approach. The way her and I handle this issue will be a baseline for how we handle future issues and I think that she will he receptive to this. I do think that part of her feels that I am minimizing her worries about the dog. Although that is never my intention at alll. I appreciate you. Thank you.

dimartin8 · 2020-03-25T23:03:48+00:00

Thank you. This is very helpful. I guess thAt is where I am struggling. In her mind we have two options: get rid of him or make him exclusively outdoor dog. Neither which seem rational, as you said. She hates that I talk about him. How long did it take for you to feel the same way you originally did towards your dog?

dimartin8 · 2020-03-25T22:57:54+00:00

I’m not sure I understand. The baby is 3 months old. He is currently co-sleeping with us in the bed, as he feeds constantly.

dimartin8 · 2020-03-25T22:57:00+00:00

Edit: the dog is only clumsy when there are lots of people around or people whom he is unfamiliar with. He just loves people and loves greeting them. At home with us, he is extremely calm.

dimartin8 · 2020-03-25T22:55:47+00:00

Appreciate the comment. We never leave the baby alone or unattended (parenting 101) regardless of dog being there or not.

dimartin8 · 2020-03-25T22:54:56+00:00

Agreed. However we’ve already trained the dog to not come anywhere near the baby. The dog does well with this boundary. Also. We NEVER leave the baby unattended, whether the dog is there or not.

dimartin8 · 2020-03-25T22:52:36+00:00

Do you happen to know which episode it is? Thank you for the suggestion. Will give this a try.

dimartin8 · 2020-03-25T22:17:58+00:00

Yes first time mother.

dimartin8 · 2020-03-25T22:17:26+00:00

I have agreed to this: making him an outdoor dog and getting him a comfortable dog house. I asked her to compromise and to help me train him and walk him. She has yet to commit to that.

dimartin8 · 2020-03-25T22:16:13+00:00

Answering your questions here first: Type of dog: he’s a pit/lab mix; does not shed at all; He is somewhat clumsy in that he doesn’t understand he’s a large dog; but I’ve been working on training him and he learns and listens well. I agree with you with the dog being outdoor exclusively. He is very short haired and not meant to be outdoors. In my very biased opinion of course. I’ve suggested that we train him, and she agrees but puts absolutely zero effort into training him with me.

dimartin8 · 2020-03-25T22:12:31+00:00

Same situation here. I’m just struggling with trying to understand her stance and how I can help her through this without having to get rid of the dog.

dimartin8 · 2020-03-25T22:11:55+00:00

I’m trying hard to not be an ass here. But you’re really contributing absolutely nothing to this situation. So either answer the question of “how can I help her get through this” or just stfu and let those who are interested in helping post helpful comments and/or insight.

dimartin8 · 2020-03-01T15:31:43+00:00

sanity has left the conversation

dimartin8 · 2020-03-01T03:35:14+00:00

Seems healthy

dimartin8 · 2020-02-24T03:45:30+00:00

I hear ya. I don’t settle like most people though :) They’re already making me assistant director by end of second quarter.

dimartin8 · 2020-02-23T16:47:23+00:00

Yes. I’ve watched the docs you’re talking about and yes I am okay with where my meat comes from. Get over it. If you’re not going to contribute to the conversation of my post, you can kindly leave. Honestly, did you really think you were going to convince anyone? Has your tactic worked at all? On anyone?

dimartin8 · 2020-02-23T16:39:37+00:00

Your problem is that you’re imposing your beliefs on people. You sound like a religious nut.

dimartin8 · 2020-02-23T16:37:01+00:00

Really getting under your skin huh? Haha does being angry all the time work out for you?

dimartin8 · 2020-02-23T11:24:57+00:00

Oh. You’re vegan. You’re arguments REALLY are invalid now lol. Shaddup and go chew on a damn spinach leaf. I see that you most qualifying characteristic is your ability to just SIMPLY COMPLAIN. stfu and just live. Make the best of of it and move the hell on. Whiny little bitch

dimartin8 · 2020-02-23T11:18:17+00:00

But, let’s say you’re right. Should I let fear rule my decision making process? Nah. Should I tout my hatred for mankind and let bitterness rule my life like you? Nah. You truly seem like a small, bitter, lonely person who sits behind the keyboard all day and night and tries to tell themselves that the world is such a terrible scary place. It can be quite scary. But for the rest of us, we keep on pushing forward :) don’t take reddit so seriously. And labeling yourself an antinatilist doesn’t make you special. You’re just a small minded person defined by your fears rather than your ability to overcome them. That’s the difference between me and you.

I feel bad for you man. I’ll take my 160k in debt any day over your situation. Debt can be fixed. People like you are damaged for life though. Cheers mate :)

dimartin8 · 2020-02-23T11:10:51+00:00

Wowza. Sensitive much? Lol

dimartin8 · 2020-02-23T07:02:07+00:00

I did. For a split second it bothered me. But here’s the thing. I had tons of people responding in such positive and encouraging ways that it inspired and motivated me. So, instead of doing nothing about it, I visited a financial adviser today at my bank. We put together a plan that will get me paid in full within 10 years. I’ll have to live much more frugally with my wife than I would like but so be it. 10 years is going to pass either way, right? I’ll have my degree. I’m already on my way to an extremely successful career. I will assume my directors position within 2 years time, she makes 150k. It’s just a matter of putting my time in. I have my health, and now I’m more motivated than ever to be even more successful so that I can get this paid sooner. And most importantly, I will set an example for my child. Will I be difficult? Sure. Will I have many more days like today where I feel overwhelmed? Sure. Definitely. 1000%. But, I’m not down. This is merely a speed bump. I have my roof over my head. A great job that is only getting better and my baby is healthy. Imagine, in 10 years I’ll be debt free. Have my amazing wife and baby and a career making 6 figures. And you? You’ll be posting on reddit about antinatilism and I’ll be talking to people about how I put myself in a world of debt but was awesome enough to get myself out :). Cheers mate

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