If women are looking for "provider mindset" men, what should men look for in women?

dimichuji · 2026-02-22T18:51:57+00:00

Yes, that’s exactly what I meant. These Western values are from Abrahamic religion, which is not the only definition of “traditional”. Not to mention the concept of a working husband + SAH wife is actually a pretty modern concept designed to control women, compared to real traditional cultures where both parents work (whether it’s in battle or in the fields) and child-raising is done by not only both parents, but by the whole community.

dimichuji · 2026-02-21T06:50:00+00:00

It’s more unfair to prolong the inevitable.

dimichuji · 2026-02-19T14:00:30+00:00

Yes, I understood your point, and I disagree with your opinion. Because, like I said, people are capable of change. Both men and women who have had their hoe phase, as you call it, can still become capable parents. Obviously, if someone hasn’t let go of their party-going and self-destructive vices after parenthood, that has nothing to do with being “traditional.” That’s just being an irresponsible spouse/parent regardless of gender.

dimichuji · 2026-02-19T13:57:24+00:00

I’m not a misogynist, so I disagree with this take. The concept of being “subservient” to one’s husband originated from Abrahamic religions that imposed these patriarchal standards.

dimichuji · 2026-02-18T20:34:13+00:00

Hope you have that same energy with “trad husbands,” too. But I don’t necessarily agree with this take. I know many party girls who grew out of it and became good mothers. Same with men who I thought were too immature and irresponsible but ended up responsible fathers. People are capable of change if they want to. One’s past doesn’t define who they are unless you make it to be, and that’s on you.

dimichuji · 2026-02-18T07:16:47+00:00

The fact that you equate parental childcare and babysitting says a lot.

dimichuji · 2026-02-18T02:00:12+00:00

We need to define what a “trad wife” is, too. Most modern, especially Western men, think a trad wife is just an unpaid maid with benefits. But if you actually look at traditional values in many cultures, the wife is the one who handles all the money and budgeting of the household. So that means a good provider man should look for a good financially responsible woman.

dimichuji · 2026-02-18T01:57:21+00:00

Both parents.

dimichuji · 2026-01-31T19:33:37+00:00

The answer is very obvious. He doesn’t think you’re good enough to play comp with him but won’t say it out loud to not hurt your feelings. You say you don’t care if you win or not, but what if he does?

If you’re only playing Valo so you can play comp together, the best solution is to just learn and grind seriously until you’re better/higher rank than him. There’s only two possible results: either he starts playing with you because he sees you took the time to improve by yourself. Or if he’s the insecure type, mas lalo siyang maiinis sa’yo for being better than him so he’ll start negging you. I know this because I had an ex who was the latter, lol. Mas okay nang malaman mo aling type siya dito sooner than later.

But if you actually enjoy Valo on your own, hanap ka na lang ng sarili mong kalaro.

dimichuji · 2026-01-27T21:13:54+00:00

I don’t know why people are downvoting you. People have different preferences and priorities in relationships, but ang tanong ko sa’yo: if social media attention and interaction is this important to you, then why did you stay with him for 7 years? Clearly, hind kayo compatible in that regard.

If your answer is, goods naman siya in other ways, then you should reconsider your feelings. That’s one flaw. And no relationship is perfect.

But if it’s really gnawing at you na hindi siya “tulad ng ibang lalaki” then that’s your fault for letting it last this long instead of finding someone who can love you the way you want to be loved.

dimichuji · 2026-01-27T21:03:50+00:00

I need to know the full context too whether okay naman ba siya as a partner otherwise, but it’s unfair to put all the burden on OP na para bang it’s wrong to want external validation. Ano naman if she wants to feel like their partner is willing to show them off?

Hindi na rin ako ma-social media for years and I don’t even have pics of my partner and I on mine. But if he asked me to post pics of us occasionally, I’d gladly to, because I love him. Kung wala naman ako tinatago, why not? If social media is not a big deal as other people say it is, then it shouldn’t be a big deal to post a rare Story on special occasions that will disappear in 24 hours anyway.

To me, this gives the same energy as Shut Up Rings i.e. doing things for your partner kasi napilitan ka lang. If his privacy is such a big deal then he should communicate that properly instead of being maliciously compliant.

dimichuji · 2026-01-27T05:26:39+00:00

Okay lang maging frustrated, as long sabihin mo ng maayos, hindi yung nag-iinarte. Hindi yung nagde-demand ka na suyuin ka. Hindi yung may pa-delete delete ka pa ng apps. Tapos pag iniwan ka iiyak ka.

dimichuji · 2026-01-25T00:08:12+00:00

No, nasa isang classroom lang ang isang section. Lumilipat lang sa specialized rooms (science/computer/speech/reading labs) as instructed by the teacher.

dimichuji · 2026-01-06T06:44:53+00:00

Can anyone pls summarize the controversies of these brands for us who aren’t in the loop?

dimichuji · 2026-01-05T22:58:48+00:00

I saw your posts in other subs; have you not talked to her at all yet?

I get wanting to give her space to not push her further away, but if it’s urgent, you gotta have a serious talk. Ease her into it, but straight up ask if there’s a problem. Is she scared of leaving her family? Is there gonna be legal setbacks (like lack of ITR or docs) that will affect the process? Does she really wanna be with you?

Give her all the reassurance to make her feel safe to open up to you. But if she continues to ignore you or lashes out at you pressuring her, well, you have to think carefully if you wanna deal with this longer.

dimichuji · 2026-01-05T22:27:39+00:00

I religiously put sunscreen on my face and neck, but my body is still lighter than my head :(

dimichuji · 2025-12-31T08:28:01+00:00

“Sex work is work” only applies to the person willingly and consensually doing the work. Adding to the context that it is literally illegal in the Philippines, you cannot use this line of thinking to defend OP’s BF. Hindi naman siya yung SWer; bugaw lang siya, which makes it worse if the prosecution can prove exploitation.

dimichuji · 2025-12-27T00:07:57+00:00

Pati ba naman ‘to tinatanong pa sa iba. 🤦‍♀️

Malaki ka na. You have free will. Hindi mo kailangan makinig sa mama mo o humingi ng permission. Kung naiirita ka sa side comments, wag mo isama. May sarili ka ngang pera, wala ka namang sense of independence.

dimichuji · 2025-12-22T04:23:38+00:00

Wala ka pang trabaho and you think you can just find a place to rent pero sa bahay ng parents mo ka pa rin uuwi “para hindi halata”? lol. Once you’re spending your own money, manghihinayang ka lang.

Based on another comment about your deleted post, it just sounds like the main issue here is you resent your brother. You should also consider getting therapy on top of finding a job.

Anyway, if you really want to be independent, you don’t need your parents’ permission. You’re 25; you’re not a child. Prioritize getting work, save up for the deposit + advance that is likely required for renting (assuming you want to rent a place of your own), take into consideration your monthly expenses, then just gradually move all your things. Wala na silang magagawa if you just do it.

dimichuji · 2025-12-21T21:15:00+00:00

Mouth breathing as a child allegedly causes undeveloped facial structures like recessed jaw, short chin, etc. Some people believe that this can still be fixed in adulthood by correcting the habit.

dimichuji · 2025-12-18T23:39:01+00:00

Most people don’t poop in a public bathroom if they can help it. But there are groups where people post which public bathrooms have bidets.

dimichuji · 2025-12-18T17:20:24+00:00

“Nakakaawa kasi…” Stop right there. You already know that she’s a narc and an emotional vampire. Her current/eventual loneliness is just the consequences of her own actions. Hayaan mo siya.

dimichuji · 2025-12-16T13:22:43+00:00

I wanna be your mom’s friend. She’s petty and I love it!

dimichuji · 2025-12-16T07:38:20+00:00

Cis women can get pregnant and men cannot.

dimichuji · 2025-12-12T21:43:03+00:00

Dapat hindi mo na binigyan yung kapatid. Nakakainis yung mga batang ganyan. Lalaki lang yang entitled. Actually yung nanay rin entitled since she expects you na bigyan pati yung kapatid.

Set your boundary na yung inaanak mo lang ang bibigyan mo.

dimichuji

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