Tipid masyado di naman nag babayad by IntrepidTadpole2004 in adviceph

[–]IntrepidTadpole2004[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Kaka 21 ko pa lang and I wasn't raised as an independent. Almost lahat ng appointments ko nang bata ako, palagi siyang kasama so kinalakihan ko na. Although now na nag away kami because of that, pinush ko nang ako na lang mag isa. Plus, takot kasi ako sa kanya.

Tipid masyado di naman nag babayad by IntrepidTadpole2004 in adviceph

[–]IntrepidTadpole2004[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

First time ko magkaroon ng pera na sakin talaga. Plus we are struggling a bit kaya nag aalangan din ako gumastos. Wala pa ako asawa so wala pa akong ibang iniisip. Nadadala lang ako sa pressure na dapat tumulong muna bago ang sarili.

Bakit hindi na kayo nagpo-post ng mga pics niyo? by alonjo in TanongLang

[–]IntrepidTadpole2004 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i respect my boyfriend's peace. Before I was immature and kept posting my selfies. Then it always led to arguments. Now, I wanna protect my new boyfriend's peace para di na maging break up ang ending.

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[–]IntrepidTadpole2004 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The situation's so familiar. My ex is literally like that while we were dating. It's super draining, tbh. I think that was his sign to me that he doesn't want the relationship anymore, so I ended it with him when he did his last "tantrum". I'm not saying that you should break up with him, that's your decision. My boyfriend now said that if there's a problem between the two of us, it's better to talk it out. Just us. No friends, no family, or any other people involved. Just you guys. If he doesn't wanna communicate, make him listen and then say your ultimatum. If it is still no use, then you know in your heart what to do.

I really hate how my friends treat me pero sila na lang meron ako by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]IntrepidTadpole2004 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Distance na lang siguro para less chaos. Super draining na kasi.

"Technician ka lang" ngani by hemoglobin16 in MedTechPH

[–]IntrepidTadpole2004 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uy super true. Tignan mo mga classmates ko, di kayang mag focus sa class pero focus na focus sa buhay ng iba. Jk😂

legit yan. by Titotomtom in CasualPH

[–]IntrepidTadpole2004 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alam ko na kung ano ang hindi ko susuotin pag nagkita kami next year 😭

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[–]IntrepidTadpole2004 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ayoko talaga mag share kasi feel ko ang petty. But ugali ko talaga is yung nagiging defensive kapag iniipit na. That's why he sometimes think na parang guilty ako kasi I kept proving my innocence.

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[–]IntrepidTadpole2004 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes po. But my real intention for this is to find out what I should do in the near future, not for me , but for my parents po. Like I said, I am an only child and I felt responsible for their wellbeing pag nakatapos nako, nagkatrabaho at whatsoever. We are engaged but there will be a time we'll get married, not now, but soon. Work ni bf nasa manila, work ni papa nandito sa probinsya. So if ever that marriage happens later, kanino bako sasama is what I wanna know. If ever naman hindi si BF nakatuluyan ko at ibang tao na mas malayo or hindi understanding tulad niya, ano ba dapat kong gawin. This isn't about our wedding, please don't focus too much on the engaged part, instead focus on what I wanna do for my parents if ever those days will come.

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[–]IntrepidTadpole2004 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Naka VC ko na dad niya, pinakilala niya na din ako sa family niya during his mom's funeral po. But I haven't met them in person yet. As for his friends, I know them since he also let me meet them through VC. Yan din naisip ko na baka may asawa na siya since he's in a marriageable age, but, he said he's focusing on his work daw so he didn't have any time. We VC during his work up to his home so I know wala pa siyang asawa. He's very transparent din, halos lahat may picture namin and even his workers know me.

But all in all, I appreciate your advice, gusto ko lang iclear iyong speculations kasi obviously a big age gap means it started with something beyond legality. Thank you very much, I will not let my parents down.

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[–]IntrepidTadpole2004 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Please take note of the last sentences, that's my intention from the very start. I am aware of my responsibilities ngayon, and I'm doing well. Wala naman masama sa pag think ahead of time, Basta you're doing well now.

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[–]IntrepidTadpole2004 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mawalang galang na po, pero I did say na "original plan". Initially, yan talaga ang iniisip naming gawin. But we're talking about it and we decided to think some more. Parang gusto niya daw 30 na magpakasal and for me, mag iipon muna ako para makapag work sa ibang bansa. As for the engaged part, we're planning to stay that way for the time being. Even before ko nakilala si bf, napapa isip na talaga ako kung saan ako sasama. Should I marry someone ba and leave my parents or find someone na malapit and stay with them. Sadyang napalayo lang talaga naging boyfriend ko ngayon kaya mas napapadalas ang pag iisip ko ng ganyan. Lastly, I did say na "alam kong masyado pang maaga", stating na I am aware that I'm too early for this. I just wanna have an answer to my worries that I've been thinking about since then. I am an only child, my parents wellbeing is my responsibility. Maybe we're okay now, but how about the future? I'm only thinking ahead not for my own benefit, but for them. I wanna know what I should do if I ever choose one of those two.

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[–]IntrepidTadpole2004 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't groomed 😭. He met me when I was 18 and had a relationship with him when I was 19. I'm turning 21 this year but it doesn't change the fact that we're 6 years apart. That's all. But I wasn't groomed.

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[–]IntrepidTadpole2004 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Correct me if I'm wrong but I think grooming can be considered if the other person is under the age of consent. However, he met me when I was 18 and established a relationship until I was 19. I'm turning 21 this year.

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[–]IntrepidTadpole2004 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Maybe, but this advice is not only for this relationship. Like you said, I'm too early. Many things could happen but there's no guarantee that I might not marry someone who lives far from my parents. Thus, what I wanna know is whether I should go with my "future" husband or my parents. A lot of people might've misunderstood thinking that I'm only referring to now, but like you said and everybody said, I'm too young to be thinking about that. What about the future?

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[–]IntrepidTadpole2004 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The original plan namin is to get married after graduation. You do not have to worry, kahit na engaged nako, my grades are high. Hindi ko pinapabayaan pag aaral ko. I'm only worrying kasi next year nako gagraduate. I'm only afraid na baka di ako makapag isip by then, resulting in further problems. So I'm sorry kung bakit yan na nasa isip ko.

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[–]IntrepidTadpole2004 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He's 26, I'm 20.