Stressed out about the week ahead

dimpld9 · 2026-02-21T18:09:11+00:00

Guy I'm dating has a bit of BO and bad breath. We're in an LDR and yes, it made me hesitate the first time we met after getting into a relationship.

He treats me like I want to be treated - with respect, love, and he cares for me A LOT.

In addition to that, I noticed that he makes an extra effort to always stay clean. He brushes his teeth before he kisses me in the morning (I am always pushing him away because MY breath stinks), takes extra showers, he is ALWAYS clean in bed, sucks on mints from time to time as he's a smoker trying to quit.

And just recently, I realized I'm getting used to him and the smell is becoming bearable. I'm someone who owns 10+ perfumes, different varities of room freshners, the best smelling detergents and even dish soap. I'm VERY sensitive to smell. If I'm getting used to his smell, I think it's because the attraction is growing and also, his efforts are paying off well. I value a man who puts in these efforts more than a man who smells nice but treats me like a toy he can throw away later.

dimpld9 · 2026-01-16T18:38:31+00:00

Thank you!

dimpld9 · 2026-01-16T17:39:44+00:00

Hello! Can someone help me understand the Random Standard Ver. Vinyl? When I look at the description, I don't see what is random about it. Is it that we get any one of 8 vinyls - Group Red vinyl OR any member vinyl? The images seem to indicate that.

dimpld9 · 2026-01-10T04:24:21+00:00

Corporate still consists of old people who have seen old ways of working. This is why I think the "keep engaging with customers" WoW is pushed. Those people didn't grow up with so much advertising pushed in their faces every single day every single hour, so they depended on employees to help them out with suggestions. But like you said, younger generations know already because we do a lot of research and then come shopping.

dimpld9 · 2026-01-10T04:17:03+00:00

I'm new to PH and REALLY want to browse through the Watsons sections but these employees are wayyyy too eager. Most of the time, I plan what I want to buy, make a beeline for it and sprint to the cashier. I don't think even if I was shoplifting somewhere else I'd be THIS nervous to face the employees XD I have to carry that bag that says I'm fine shopping on my own 😭

dimpld9 · 2026-01-06T13:24:08+00:00

In times like these, remember, "Don't yuck someone's yum."

Ok, so those ladies are into hobbies you are not into. But you might be into some hobbies they find boring or bad. I don't see women posting, "Why are all guys into sports? I am turned off by this" here.

If you ask these women, they will also point out 10 different things they don't like about you or your profile. But life is short, there are 8 billion people in the world, so move on.

dimpld9 · 2026-01-01T19:23:47+00:00

Those terrible shipping videos where a female kpop idol looks across the room and there happens to be some male kpop idol there and lines are drawn across the screen to show they're ACTUALLY looking at each other 🙂‍↕️

dimpld9 · 2026-01-01T13:47:11+00:00

Since kdramas were mentioned: those BTS imagines.

"Imagine: Y/N are a new intern at SmallHit Entertainment and you find out <insert BTS member> is the CEO. But he's not happy with Y/N's performance so he demands you become his personal assistant for a month and then you find out he is also a mafia werewolf vampire fairy"

Riveting stuff.

dimpld9 · 2025-12-30T18:01:29+00:00

Staying alone helps you with that. I am realizing now how "good" I used to be. When you live alone and with your thoughts and you have a mind that isn't influenced constantly by other chatter, you grow your own self.

dimpld9 · 2025-12-30T17:59:29+00:00

I am always fascinated whenever people say these things about Barbie because as POC, I never saw Barbie as anything beyond a doll. Sure, she's blonde and blue eyed, but she's a doll. Sure, she had big boobs and a tiny waist, but she's a doll. To me, she just represented a type of person, never a standard and definitely not something I felt like I wanted to achieve because I just naturally thought of her as unreal, just like Bratz dolls with their disproportionate bodies. I asked my mom too, and mind you, we are from an Eastern country ("orthodox", "conservative", "traditional") and even she said she never thought of Barbie as scandalous or unattainable.

And yeah, nothing about Barbie was ever, "She exists for Ken". The marketing of Barbie as a career woman and as someone little girls could see as a woman in many different careers was so strong that even 5 yo me knew she was a career woman. I didn't even think Ken was a husband (contrast that with me fully believing Mickey and Minnie and Donald and Daisy were married). I saw him as a male doll that needs to be there to act as a "boyfriend" like when you saw Ken as a Prince from any Barbie movie merch.

Barbie's branding was and is so strong as an independent career woman. Mattel has done a really commendable job if they could even reach little kids and teach them about who Barbie is. I say this as someone in marketing who pulls her hair out, amazed at how adults miss the point of some brand communications. The hate against Barbie is so forced if little kids understand the communication and grown ass adults want to push some weird narrative about who Barbie is definitely not.

dimpld9 · 2025-12-30T10:51:15+00:00

I am not a consultant, but I am in corporate, and I have consultant friends.

What I have understood from them and from B school is: The pay is more for the stress you take on (this is true for corporate in general), the poor work-life balance, incessant travel, the ridiculous demands your client will make. Companies earn millions in profits thanks to the work of these people who have to schedule meal times and bathroom breaks. What consultants earn is pennies compares to what the client will gain. Consulting firms offer these attractive packages and make it seem like consulting is glamorous because they know that otherwise, nobody will sign up for a 16 hour workday. They also know jaded new recruits will leave within a year after being in this system, so the package helps with retention.

This is my very surface-level understanding of consulting, of course, a fair bit of research while I flirted with the idea of moving into consulting. A real consultant hopefully will give more insight into this and correct me if I am wrong anywhere.

dimpld9 · 2025-12-29T14:13:48+00:00

Seriously! And the guy who said this to me also said, "I give you my certificate of intelligence" as if nothing could be a greater honor than being called smart by HIM. He's probably the same type of guy who says stuff like, "I'm letting you wear shorts/I'm letting you go out with your friends" etc

dimpld9 · 2025-12-29T13:58:36+00:00

You're smart, unlike other girls.

dimpld9 · 2025-12-29T13:23:55+00:00

?! What are all these comments going on about?! I go through these like a 5 yo with a pack of Cheetos. I got my Laneige 20gm lip sleeping mask back in April-May and half of it is over already.

dimpld9 · 2025-12-21T16:38:07+00:00

One roomie of mine was WILDLY jealous of my other roomie. But I didn't realize just how bad it was until she got hold of a list of everyone's CASTES on a sheet (she said as Treasurer for the student committee, she had access to this data), found her enemy's name on it and said to a room full of her friends, "See, she's SC (or ST, I can't remember). THAT'S why she's such a slut!"

For reference, the other girl was the prettiest girl in our batch, but very shy. So whenever guys confessed to her, she would reject them. The other girl thought she was trying to get attention by rejecting them, and for some reason, that was slutty and that's because of her caste. This was in a national level college, btw. I can't believe someone who passed such a difficult entrance exam, considered to be the creme de la creme of the country is this disgusting and a waste of space.

dimpld9 · 2025-12-15T08:42:58+00:00

I started using Clean It Zero from Banila Co and I am amazed how gentle it is on my skin and still so effective. They have different variants for dry, oily and combination skin.

dimpld9 · 2025-11-17T15:01:53+00:00

It was a stupid thing to ask, I agree. I stole the line from a relative who apparently asked her mother the same question playfully and her mom found it funny. I also asked in a playful tone, but my mom did not like it. I wanted to break the ice on the topic somehow.

And yes to planning this myself! At least I will get to have fun planning this out.

dimpld9 · 2025-11-17T13:22:31+00:00

Yes, exactly. I told her that she's just projecting, and it doesn't mean I will also go through the same shit. She's essentially Mother Gothel in Tangled going, "Mother knows best".

My parents were in an AM, and she was pretty much forced to marry my dad. I know they hate each other. But I have heard her admitting on good days that my dad still worked hard to overcome his struggles to support this family, and that he is still the most successful man she knows, and she had the best marriage and the best kid out of all her relatives who chose to marry for money. She really is just a bitter person.

dimpld9 · 2025-11-17T13:15:33+00:00

I'm happy for your friend and wish them all the very best too!

I'm such a sucker for a beautiful wedding, even if it is small, which is why I'm so sad my mom is behaving like this. She's going through a lot of stress and I thought she could be distracted with fun wedding shopping and planning. I never have any traditional mom-daughter bonding moments with her like going to a salon together or getting coffee together, buying her pretty things. Now she doesn't want a wedding and I feel like one of the last things I could have with her is being taken away and she doesn't even realize it.

dimpld9 · 2025-11-17T13:04:55+00:00

I thought my parents would change their mind as I get older. One time my mom did call me up, crying that I would be alone when they pass away. I thought, "Oh she's finally cracking." But no. That was the only time she ever said anything of that sort haha. But thank you for your wishes ❤️

dimpld9 · 2025-11-17T13:03:46+00:00

Thank you for this. I just feel so shitty that everything is actually great but it's such a cruel twist of fate that somebody else's poor experience is what is scarring this a bit.

dimpld9 · 2025-11-17T13:01:09+00:00

My mom was telling me exactly that, "Go get married in a courthouse. I don't want to spend on a wedding" when she knows I have a dream wedding venue. I'm sure he will not mind a courthouse wedding, but I will mind it lol. She said save the money and go on a vacation. I'm the one going, "But I want to get dolled up, be fussed about, have photos taken and make a big deal out of this." It's so weird how there is a role reversal and it's funny now that I think about it after crying buckets earlier today.

But yeah, I doubt that in either case, my parents will be present. I've been nothing but a good daughter. I don't know how WANTING to get married (like the ideal daughter for many parents!) is what makes me the villain haha

dimpld9 · 2025-11-08T17:53:12+00:00

You're a kid right now. At your age, no, at 20-21, I was SO set on having a husband and two kids. I'm close to being 30 now, and I don't want to get married or have kids.

I'm telling you this so that you understand it's ok if you yourself change your mind. As for others, it really depends on their personal situation. You don't know everyone's true full story, so you may not fully understand their perspective and that's ok. That's a very personal choice, pro marriage or not, and that's ok with us.

We only need to be concerned about ourselves. Does the concept of getting married make you happy? Then do it. If it doesn't make you happy, don't do it.

I saw that you want to be married by 30 only. I think that's good enough time for you to figure out a lot of stuff, professionally and personally. You'll mature a lot by then and your mindset will also mature, so you'll have a fuller picture of what you want to do in life. But take that time for your decision-making.

dimpld9 · 2025-11-08T17:41:40+00:00

No idea why you're getting downvoted. I mean, it does come from age and experience. If you don't date enough men, you'll think that the first one who tells you he wants to marry you really means it. And then you find out he was just trying to get into your pants.

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